I know you're all probably off watching the X-Factor but .........back again .... after hiding out in DC's room like the wimp I am .... apologies to all that stiffened my resolve over past few days, I let you down 
... but here's why I ended up skulking like an runaway prisoner (in my own home) ...
So, DH and other DH came into livingroom from garden. Other DH began engaging me in conversation to by talking about Facebook?, then turned it into a conversation about school photographs (dangerous territory). Conversation interrupted by exhausted toddler (ours) having a melt-down, JUST as the DW turned up!!!!!
I was in the process of going to get p.j's - and had a 5 minute breather upstairs ..'NO is a complete sentence, NO is a complete sentence' ... when I realised I had left laptop on and AIBU page was behind a pic on Feckbook
that other DH had wanted to see .......... I FLEW downstairs, to find other DW sitting at Laptop 
. (I HAVE consulted DH and he swears it was a matter of seconds) and all but snatched it from her, hence my discombobulated state, and wittered some crap about 'HEY, LOOK at THIS picture' whilst shutting down AIBU.
DC2 was exhausted, and I took the cowards way out poor child to bed. Needless to say I stayed there .... and neighbour's and DC left only 10 minutes ago.
Have downloaded info from DH, which tends to be incomplete at the best of times, but .... they did NOT mention Childminding directly, however he said they were overly solicitious ..... 'oh, it's late we know' (they have NEVER made this type of comment before, ever) and constantly saying 'we must go' but not actually leaving. His opinion was that we are being 'softened up'. Our DC 1 said to them 'see you tomorrow' as they WERE leaving, to which other DW said 'oh yes, probably' 
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I KNOW we have just put off the inevitable but I just wasn't prepared for the two-pronged attack .... him, then her!