Loving the shed idea.. but for me not the DC's.
utI think you have a point greengirl, but sometimes venting on here can be a positive part of getting perspective to then sit down with the DC to talk.
DS has a vile temper, and I do mean vile.
He loves having his tea from the chippy so I wanted to treat him tonight to anything he wanted,
Yesterday he had promised to do his homework but reneged on that promise. I reminded him tonight, and he immediately snarled at me, I remained calm and focussed as he punched the door repeatedly, loosening one of the panels, ripping into me verbally, before storming off.
I left him alone to calm down, he eventually apologised and asked for his tea money.
He has now done his homework.
I don't think, given our circumstances, I could have dealt with it differently without it escalating, but quite frankly, I do need to come on here sometimes and moan that he is a selfish, manipulative, mardy, thoughtless teen who I both love and am exasperated by. I could cry. I want to shout at him and ask him who the hell he thinks he is talking to and take every privilege off him.
I have done nothing but work all week, apart from 2 x 1hr stints at the gym and I am shattered and he has the blatant audacity to tell me 'it isn't all about you Mum' when I ask him politely to put his shoes on the shoe rack.
He is, at times, a nightmare, but where his Dad will say 'Oh do what you want DS, I can't be bothered with you'.
I don't. And won't.
But I damn well think it after the umpteenth argument about homework, trying to organise his head so he makes the most of his considerable potential.
And sadly, my DS is partly a troubled youngster as a result of a troubled start in life.
Nothing though, could be worse than where we were so I count my blessings for now.