Thanks Custy mate but imo this thread is full of defensive parents and I don't really care now who I offend because you lot obv don't seem to care either.
Yes I should know better than to say comments have hurt. Posters don't give a shit.
I said that IMO the Kevin syndrome does not exist and that I think it is a build of things that largely go unnoticed until it all bubbles out. Tell me where that is offensive. I said that IMO it's difficult for parents and kids because parents don't know quite how to progress from disciplining a child to a 6ft teen and it can seem like this happened overnight, but it didn't.
Maryz. I was talking about your son's AS may have on the way he acted. I cannot speak for his friends and neither can you really as who knows what goes on in other peoples homes? If you don't want me to relate my experience with kids with AS then just say so.
AnyFucker and Noddy, don't tell me how I normally am please, that is the finest example of patronising behaviour. Next you'll be asking me how the depression is an a passive aggressive way. I had a blow out on this thread because I am human and I do not act in a clinical, calculating way. I speak with emotions and feelings and try to help in an often clumsy way.
AF you said "rhubs, every person who actually lives with a teenager day in-day out on this thread, thinks you are talking out yo' arse
perhaps there is something in that ?
to carry on justifying why you are right and we are all wrong seems bombastic to me, and even more so because it is based on very little experience in my eyes
I also can't believe you are continuing to persist in telling Maryz how and why her son is behaving as he is, and what she should be doing about it.
She is being very polite about it, but I would be raging at you, tbh."
So actually you were saying that I was talking out of my arse. You even presumed to tell me how another poster should react to my advice when I was actually doing my best to be helpful. So do excuse my reaction, but I found that to be the most insulting thing yet.
It's one thing to be told you are talking out of your arse, I agree that I often do, but quite another when you are relating personal experiences to help another poster and be told that this is also patronising? That she should be raging at me? For trying to help? Or should I also have a teenager with AS in order to know anything at all about them? Never mind that I've been trained with SN kids and worked closely with them (including one to one and family liaison), my experience obv means fa (thank you for being polite Maryz).
Perhaps if you weren't so defensive you might be able to take my comments on board as someone else's opinion. But parenting is a sensitive issue and obv I should never have intruded on your thread as you are not willing to even listen to anyone else who has a different opinion. You MUST be right at all times. 
Feel free to have another go because I quite frankly don't give a shit. I don't know you and therefore your views of me matter not one jot.