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Called a woman an "evil bitch!"

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SquiggleSplat · 11/07/2011 13:40

Posted this in "other subjects" but didn't get a response in 4 minutes and I'm feeling impatient!

I was coming out of a car park earlier today and there was car in the lane next to mine. A woman was driving and a small child (2/3ish) was climbing about inside the car and not strapped in. I hate it when you see that as it's so stupid and irresponsible! A child around here died not that long ago in a similar situation. So anyway being a big mouth this happened . . . I honked my horn to get her attention and said -

me: strap your child in, that's dangerous and illegal
her: oh SHUT UP!
me: you EVIL BITCH! (top of my lungs! Blush)

Now I know some won't agree with the language but, well, I don't care about that. As far as I am concerned she is an evil bitch so why shouldn't I tell her I think so! One emergency stop and that child would either go though the windscreen or hit the dashboard (as the other child did) and break her neck Sad

Being called a bitch was getting off lightly when she came very closs to being beaten to death with my flip flop!!!

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SquiggleSplat · 11/07/2011 21:47

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SquiggleSplat · 11/07/2011 21:49

ballpoolbaby That poor lady?!?!? That poor lady who drives while texting or something with her child out of her car seat? You direct your sympathy in strange places. And it wasn't boasting (wtf!) its VENTING!

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SquiggleSplat · 11/07/2011 21:50

zoe88

YANBU I have a recurring argument with a friend of mine about car seat safety, both our kids are same age 4yrs4mth and since she had her 3rd child in january she doesnt bother with a car seat for eldest daughter according to her 3 seats dont fit in the car, this really makes me angry because it is really fucking dangerous!!!! i have printed out information for her, offered to give her a car seat just incase its a money issue its getting to the point where i want to punch her!!! childrens lives are much more important than being polite!!

Absolutely! Perhaps tell her about the child I mentioned, who hit the dash board and broke his neck Sad. Are they using a seat belt at all? If you use one that doesn't fit they can end up paralysed.

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pointydog · 11/07/2011 21:51

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SquiggleSplat · 11/07/2011 21:51

begonyabampot Oh my god! What's wrong with people!?!

(Sorry about mutiple posts, catching up)

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SquiggleSplat · 11/07/2011 21:54

pointydog wow, resorted to name calling, nice!

I was still rather angry when I wrote that. But I do feel that if someone does something deliberately (and that means NOT doing something as well, such as strappy in a child) then it has a level of premeditation about it. You can't really say it would be an accident if that child was hurt, it would be neglect.

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Pagwatch · 11/07/2011 21:55

You are very angry squiggle.

It isn't really worth all this spitting rage.

Have a look at some nice threads or see if there is a decent film on maybe?

You probably had good intentions but you handled it badly. I would let it go. You are starting to seem a bit batty now when I am sure you are really very nice and sane and pleasant.

spiderpig8 · 11/07/2011 21:56

Sorry hully didn't read the whole lot and yet your post saying the same thing was only a few posts above.i am truly ashamed but can I at least have a consolation price for adding the fishwife bit?

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SquiggleSplat · 11/07/2011 22:00

Pagwatch Yes you are right I am very nice and pleasant Smile.

I guess it is frustrating to see child neglect, and then have a bunch of people say that the child neglect isn't bad enough for me to use a naughty word and I should have left the poor (sob) woman alone. I am not sure it which world it is ok to stand by and allow terrible things (possibly) to happen but not in mine. This thread is like I have just got on a plane to crazy land which is inhabited by crazyarse people!

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pointydog · 11/07/2011 22:03

yes, I was curious to see how you'd respond to name calling

Pagwatch · 11/07/2011 22:04

Smile yes. I am sure you are nice.

(so I won't point out again that your using foul language didn't offend people and that you are continuing to totally miss the point)

Have a nice evening. It will seem better in the morning.

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SquiggleSplat · 11/07/2011 22:05

pointydog Oh clever(ish)! The difference is that you're not in the middle of a situation with adrenalin pumping, worrying about the safety of a very small child, so you have no excuse. It just makes you look like a bullying 12 yo, which incidently is how quite alot of you on this thread have come across.

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SquiggleSplat · 11/07/2011 22:07

Pagwatch If by missing the point, you mean that if I had approached her in a different way then it wouldn't have escalated etc then . . . I haven't missed that at all and have actually said that at least twice myself.

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pointydog · 11/07/2011 22:09

Get over yourself. You're on AIBU, not chatting with your mum.

pointydog · 11/07/2011 22:10

You're incredibly quick with the old name-calling and you don't seem to realise people will respond in a hostile manner. You must have come across this before.

BimboNo5 · 11/07/2011 22:38

Blimey, im sure the unstrapped toddler bobbing about in the back of the car showed more maturity than many of you on here have...

StayingNearlyHeadlessNicksGirl · 11/07/2011 23:45

One question - which was riskier for the toddler - hearing someone shout at his mum, or climbing round the car whilst she drove along a busy road?

AlpinePony · 12/07/2011 07:33

squiggle Of course I read your OP, have you?

The TITLE of your OP is "Called a woman an evil bitch".

YABU.

You sound a very angry woman, have you tried fennel tea or something to calm your nerves? Have a fag maybe?

Hullygully · 12/07/2011 07:54
ZacharyQuack · 12/07/2011 11:42

ThefirstMrsD had good advice. What you need is a wanky management technique called a "Yes Sandwich". It's when you say something nice, something negative then something nice.

So you could have said "Whoops, your little darling seems to have undone his seatbelt, evil bitch, I like your hair" and smile nicely. It's a Bitch Sandwich.

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SquiggleSplat · 12/07/2011 12:15

pointydog I'd need a either a Ouija board or a miracle to be chatting with my mum, but still pretty sure she'd agree with me. I think she would think the same as StayingNearlyHeadlessNicksGirl, that hearing someone shout at his mum would be less dangerous then the climbing round the car whilst she drove playing with her mobile.

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fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 12/07/2011 12:21

Imo if you are going to go around shouting and swearing at people, one day you will end up getting smacked in the mouth.

If you are cool with that, keep on shouting.

StayingNearlyHeadlessNicksGirl · 12/07/2011 12:26

What about if you go round letting your child roam free in your car whilst you drive busy roads, and tell people to shut up when they tell you your child's unrestrained and that's dangerous and illegal - isn't that worse than what the OP did??

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 12/07/2011 12:30

I was actually stating a fact, I believe that's what we risk if we go around swearing/shouting at strangers.

StayingNearlyHeadlessNicksGirl · 12/07/2011 12:32

I do agree with that point, Fanjo - but I was asking whether what the other woman did was worse.

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