to expect to sit with my husband at the top table at my stepsons wedding ??

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I dont know where I will be sat but certain things have been said that imply that I may not be and his ex-wife - the grooms mum will be. I have asked and asked my DH to ask about my seating arrangement and as usual he is avoiding it - as I think he knows I will kick off if I am sat at one of the lower troughs at the back of the room. My point is that while I accept fully that the grooms mum should be at the top table - I think as my DH will be sat there then so should I and exWs partner for that matter - I am not sure on the etiquette here but I wouldnt have thought a DH and his wife should be separated. The wedding is at end of September and I just wish my DH would ask then I will know if I have anything to be worried about. I just think leaving it to chance is asking for problems /atmosphere on the day. Not that I would spoil their big day - definitely not but I wouldnt be happy put it that way. My DH doesnt want me to ask - he wants me to leave it to him in case any of you were going to suggest I just ask myself.

Argh, zombie, sorry! I wonder where she was sat in the end. You still there OP?

You sound like hard work.

No way did I want my father's partner (at the moment) on the family table at my do. She was very little to do with me.

Oh bugger. ZOMBIE 6 years old - why do people do this. Set traps for the unwary. That'll learn me to RTFT.

Yabu.
Parents on the top table is pretty standard. Step parents on there is unusual, unless one parent isn't on the scene.

Totally up to the step son and his fiancée who sits there. I wouldn't even ask, I'd just assume not and be pleasantly surprised if you are.

Doh. Zombie.... didn't realise.

I had my step mum and stepdad sat with my parents at the top table. My SM only really knew my dad and me/DH so she would have been sat alone with my DH's and my DM's family. Not really nice for her.

Also, my own DM was shoved to the very back of the room at my stepbrother's wedding with the bride's mothers workmates while my stepdad sat up at the top table with his ex and her new man. What a slap in the face. Unless the bride and groom don't get on with their step parents then what's to say that they shouldn't be sitting up there too?

I dont think your being unreasonable to want to be sat with your husband but im affraid to say its what they want that goes. Enjoy the wedding and food and make a great day of it

Not read the thread!

My mother insisted my step-dad sit next to her cos she was paying half our wedding, I don't even like him!
Top table was then very cramped. 😡

Don't force it, it's only a meal apart from your DH and it's not your son, why should his mum share his special day with you?!

ADayGivingMeHope This thread is 6 yrs old!

Ffs! 🙈

Well Op... did you sit on the top table then?!? 😂

Where's Rick Grimes when you need him?

ZOMBIE THREAD!

Rick Grimes is right here 😂