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AIBU?

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To treat my daughter the (younger) age she acts?

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NotaDisneyMum · 28/06/2011 16:55

DD10 tried to sneak the uneaten crusts from her school lunchbox into the rubbish bin without me seeing AGAIN today - she knows full well that I expect food to be eaten, not wasted.

I have told her that the next time I find out it happens - I'll give her a packed lunch suitable for a much younger child; one of an age who I'd accept leaving their crusts.

We've had sulks, stomps and 'it's not fair'.

AIBU? Tbh, it wouldn't bother me if she managed to work out that she can chuck them away at school (I'm guessing that the staff won't let her) but bringing them home and throwing them away infront of me really irks -

OP posts:
Bast · 28/06/2011 16:57

YABU for not having a food waste bin and encouraging your DC to use it Grin

itsastrawpoll · 28/06/2011 16:59

I don't eat crusts, they're minging.

I'm 32.

YABU.

thisisyesterday · 28/06/2011 16:59

yes, yabu

do you always force your child to eat food she dislikes? perhaps that's why she has to sneak and lie to stop you being overly angry at her

Original poster
NotaDisneyMum · 28/06/2011 16:59

Only compostable waste can go in our waste food bin, the rest goes to the gasification plant Wink

OP posts:
Aworryingtrend · 28/06/2011 17:00

Seriously? Is it really worth rowing about? I wouldn't call leaving the crust of a sandwich 'wasting' food as long as she ate the main part of the sandwich.

Numberfour · 28/06/2011 17:00

YABU.

worraliberty · 28/06/2011 17:01

My 19yr old still doesn't eat crusts.

Cant you trim them off if you don't want her bringing them back in her lunch box?

LaurieFairyCake · 28/06/2011 17:01

Give her wholemeal rolls

crusts are not great unless it's fabulous seeded bread

BabyDubsEverywhere · 28/06/2011 17:01

bleugh....the crusts are the wrapping, they are not for eating! Grin

Is it really such a big deal if she leaves the crusts? picking battles and mountains of mole hills come to mind.

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scarlettsmummy2 · 28/06/2011 17:01

I have just done something similar with my thirteen year old foster son this afternoon. I really am struggling to get him to brush his teeth (he tells me has done it, runs tap etc, then doesn't bother) and his breath is smelly, so I have told him he is not getting any treats like sweets, fizzy juice etc for a week until he can prove to me he can be responsible and look after his teeth! he has eleven fillings already in adult teeth so I literally don't know what else to do!

Bogeyface · 28/06/2011 17:01

Well going against the grain, I dont think YABU at all!

Leaving crusts is a huge bug bear of mine, its the same bread ffs!

TooManyBlossoms · 28/06/2011 17:01

YABU. I don't eat crusts either. I'm 33. It's hardly wasting food!

Tchootnika · 28/06/2011 17:02

YABU - and a bit of a bully, tbh.

thisisyesterday · 28/06/2011 17:02

just out of interest... why is it ok for a younger child to leave crusts? and how would their lunch differ from hers?

you could always cut the crusts off and use them to make breadcrumbs... no waste at all then

itsastrawpoll · 28/06/2011 17:03

I'd be more concerned that, by ten, she hasn't learned a better way to hide stuff like this from you if you are as uptight as you sound, tbh.

thisisyesterday · 28/06/2011 17:03

bogeyface yes, it is the same bread, but it does taste different and has a different texture (quite manky on some pre-packaged bread too)

i presume you eat bones and gristle in your meat? after all, it's the same animal Hmm

if someone doesn't like something then it's pretty nasty to try and force them to eat it

scarlettsmummy2 · 28/06/2011 17:04

ps- I don't think you are being unreasonable, I encourage my children to eat their crusts too and I was also brought up that way. I don't see what the problem is.

Bast · 28/06/2011 17:08

Ooooh! We compost compatible waste and the council collect the remainder of the food waste.

My sincere apologies Grin

(Don't push the crust thing. Re-open discussion about it from a more open viewpoint, allow her views and realign your boundaries to something tenable for both of you. This should negate the need for her lying because for whatever reason, she currently feels there is a need to do so and that's not good Wink)

superjobeespecs · 28/06/2011 17:09

my DD is 6 and tells me to eat my crusts Blush i eat them most of the time but sometimes they just arent appetizing :( DD has always ate hers well had a wobble at 4 but we sorted that with some tough love from granny Grin

LaurieFairyCake · 28/06/2011 17:09

scarlett - when foster dd came she pretended she knew how to wash/brush her teeth but I wasn't convinced so I showed her and bought her an electric toothbrush (a loud one) that beeps when you've finished.

Maybe you need to show him what to do.

superjobeespecs · 28/06/2011 17:11

btw, i didnt eat crusts till i was about 19/20 wouldnt touch them with a bargepole when i was younger they really do taste different to the bread in the middle

usualsuspect · 28/06/2011 17:12

They are only crusts its not a big deal really

Shoesytwoesy · 28/06/2011 17:13

yabu ds is 19 and still doesn't eat crusts, tbh I am not keen either.

superv1xen · 28/06/2011 17:14

YANBU would annoy me!

why do people have issues with crusts Confused its all bread!

Insomnia11 · 28/06/2011 17:14

I don't mind them leaving crusts as long as they've had a good go at eating the sandwich.