To treat my daughter the (younger) age she acts?

[NotaDisneyMum]

DD10 tried to sneak the uneaten crusts from her school lunchbox into the rubbish bin without me seeing AGAIN today - she knows full well that I expect food to be eaten, not wasted.

I have told her that the next time I find out it happens - I'll give her a packed lunch suitable for a much younger child; one of an age who I'd accept leaving their crusts.

We've had sulks, stomps and 'it's not fair'.

AIBU? Tbh, it wouldn't bother me if she managed to work out that she can chuck them away at school (I'm guessing that the staff won't let her) but bringing them home and throwing them away infront of me really irks -

I think the OP is getting a rough ride here tbh. She may have worded some posts in an unfortunate way but she seems to have got some backs up for no reason.

Not buying particular, expensive yoghurts for one family member - has nobody else said something along those lines to their children? Moaning about children not eating crusts or fruit 'skin' - it's hardly unheard of, is it? I don't get why she's getting the grilling she is, I really don't.

And if they've made decisions based on ethical beliefs - why on earth is that a problem? All the posters that announced they boycotted Nestle on a thread the other week - would you all cave if your ten year old demanded a KitKat?

YABU

I used to try and make my children eat crusts and then I decided one day - after reading an unrelated to food thread on here - that not eating crusts isn't a crime and the kids don't have to eat them if they don't want.

Um, she did post in AIBU...and clearly a lot of people think she is. Isn't that the point of this forum?

see i have a problem in that i prefer to buy organic. but more often than not i find i have a choice between organic OR british/local

then i find myself in a quandary

Yes, skinnyjeans, it is. Well done.

My point was that she is being flamed for what I believe most parents have said to their children at some point. And I don't think posting in AIBU justifies your comment that she reminds you of 'that dreadful mother from About A Boy'. Tbh, that's offensive.

Yanbu! FFS most kids don't like crusts but then your mum says suck it up and eat them. And then you grow up. We all did it once.

Of course I have at times said I'd like them to finish crusts, veg, whatever. But not to the point of forcing them, or posting on here about it for that matter...

Thanks Sue - I assumed it was insulting, but it went over my head - I have no idea what "About a Boy" is

As I said - lesson learned; I'll stay away from AIBU. This newbie learnt her lesson the hard way

DS 6 always left his crusts so we've compromised, he now makes the effort to eat half of his crusts. Sometimes he forgets and eats the whole lot.

op has imo well so solved the original problem I have to say I do not get why people are getting at her for chosing to have some morals in what she purchases she has her reasons.

I have boycut Nestle for 11 years and if my children wanted to try a kitkat they would be told no. I do not wish for my money to be spend on that company They accept this. I do not deny them the right to have it if we go elsewhere but the money dh and I earn are not to be spend on those products.

Why is it any different what op is doing? her dd wont be permanently damaged by it she will grow up learning that we sometimes have to take a stand for what we belive in. My kids unlike what many belive are not damaged by never having tasted smarties in their own home.