To treat my daughter the (younger) age she acts?

[NotaDisneyMum]

DD10 tried to sneak the uneaten crusts from her school lunchbox into the rubbish bin without me seeing AGAIN today - she knows full well that I expect food to be eaten, not wasted.

I have told her that the next time I find out it happens - I'll give her a packed lunch suitable for a much younger child; one of an age who I'd accept leaving their crusts.

We've had sulks, stomps and 'it's not fair'.

AIBU? Tbh, it wouldn't bother me if she managed to work out that she can chuck them away at school (I'm guessing that the staff won't let her) but bringing them home and throwing them away infront of me really irks -

[Insomnia11]

How about doing pitta bread or wraps? Gets over the crust issue.

[worraliberty]

Perhaps she doesn't want curly hair?

[exoticfruits]

I love the crusts-always have -but I have to say that at 10yrs old your DD needs to get abit more devious if you are going to get so upset about such a minor thing!

[scarlettsmummy2]

lauriefairycake- he has been shown what to do, both by me, my husband and the dentist on numerous occasions. He also has an electric toothbrush. What I really don't understand is the lying about it, and actually going as far as running the tap, holding the toothbrush in his hand and letting me think he is doing it. Sometimes I will literally stand over him while he does them, but this morning, for example I was getting ready for work and trying to organise my toddler, so took him at his word when he told me he was doing them. Doesn't seem to be any medical reason but we are going to the dentist again next week so will check if there are any pain issues!! His social worker has said its because he wasn't taught as a young child but we are a year down the line now and no improvement so am at my wits end!! Otherwise the placement is completely settled and he is very happy. its baffling!! He has a sweet tooth so I am hoping this might make him take note of what happens when you don't brush your teeth!

[iwasyoungonce]

I cut the crusts off for my DD, and sometimes mine too. I really don't see the problem. If you were my mum I'd throw them away at school before I came home.

[MarioandLuigi]

YABU to use food as a weapon.

What is a packed lunch of a child that you would accept not eating crusts?

[BooyHoo]

YABU do you eat every scrap of every single meal even if you dont like it? do you send a licked clean plate back to the kitchen in restaurants for fear that the chef will discipline you for not eating all your food? i imagine if the chef was going to shout at you, you would find a sneaky way of hiding the food to avoid the ridiculous telling off.


"Tbh, it wouldn't bother me if she managed to work out that she can chuck them away at school (I'm guessing that the staff won't let her)"

right? so you are annoyed about her not doing something that she isn't actually allowed to do? you want her to be sneakier and do it in school and are annoyed that she isn't clever enough to do this yet you accept that she probably isn't being allowed? what sort of an idiot are you?

[Dlamis]

EAT YOUR CRUSTS YOU FADDY LOT

Could be worse Disney. I know a child who take onebite out of the sandwich and refuses to eat anymore. Apparently to her, the crust is about an inch wide!

[izzywhizzyletsgetbusy]

It seems you've got a personal 'ishoo' about wasted foodstuffs (or is it just bread?) which I hope doesn't afflict your offspring in some form or other.

If you attended a garden party at Buck House would you expect the sandwiches to have crusts?

What's good enough for Her Maj is good enough for your dd - cut the crusts off her sandwiches and use them to make breadcrumbs for use in family meals, or put them out for the birds. No waste, no sweat, no conflict.

[Lotkinsgonecurly]

Why not stop the arguments and turmoil and just make sandwiches without crusts for her. Cut them off before making the sandwich and pop the crusts in the freezer to make breadcrumbs or bread pudding. Therefore no waste and happy daughter? Pick your battles.

[Lotkinsgonecurly]

woops x post with izzy

[mumnotmachine]

I dont like crusts on sandwiches either, will eat them on toast though!
My son also doesnt eat crusts- I just cut them off, no big deal
If wasting the food is an issue can you make the crusts into breadcrumbs or something and make something out of them, either to coat food or to make stuffing balls?

I hate wasting food, but crusts are not an issue

[mumnotmachine]

LOL- me too!!

[mumnotmachine]

Can you give her wraps or pitta instead?
My son very often takes buttered cream crackers instead with some ham cheese grapes etc in a box, he prefers that to sandwiches (hes never really liked sandwiches but hates school dinners even more LOL)

[squeakytoy]

Crusts on bread are not meant to be eaten...just like the crusts on pies and pasties... that is the bit you hold with your fingers.

[JamieAgain]

YABU - I also think it's commendable that she's not being deceitful.

[mumnotmachine]

Mmmm fishfinger sandwiches

Cat wouldnt get a look in!!!

[izzywhizzyletsgetbusy]

Great minds and all that Lotkinsgonecurly but it seems you ate your crusts

[exoticfruits]

Give bread rolls. Why not just cut off something that she doesn't want?

[FellatioNelson]

I think it depends what kind of bread you are giving her. Some cheap sliced bread has horrible dry stale rubbery crusts and I wouldn't eat them either.

[JamieAgain]

I meant that he could easily throw them away at school, and you'd be none the wiser, but maybe she's trying to tell you something?

[millie30]

OP, unless you eat every food item, whether you like it or not, I think you're being a bit hypocritical. Assuming you make choices and have food preferences, why can't your DD do the same? Tbh it's a bit sad that crusts have become such an issue that she has to sneak them into the bin without you seeing.