AIBU to think some of you are really spiteful?

[2andanonion]

Regarding weight issues.

Fat = eat monster.

It's not always that way. 20 years ago my OH was fit and sporty bloke; out every night football, training, squash, tennis, cricket, golf. Not a boozer or a fondness for takeaways.

We had several close deaths one after the other which caused the onset of type 2 diabetes. (Go google. shock can cause type 2) That escalated into HBP and cholesterol problems. Two heart attacks at 40.

Sport still very much part of his life until he had an injury that incapaciated him for 18 months until he had an operation to repair the injury and left him immobile.

I'm just looking at his last prescriptions. 26 different drugs a day. He's put on 10 stone.

HBP & cholesterol = no fat. Diabetic = no sugar (that includes alcohol)

Can't even manage around of golf now due to the destruction of the nerve endings in his legs and feet.

The discolouration of his legs really means that gangrene will set in sooner rather than later. Amputation will follow.

But some of you will equate fat to being a scoffing git who deserves it. Even though his diet is so boringly plain and his weight is largely drug induced.

Don't worry. We both work. Don't claim any benefits either. Would hate to be a fat burden on you all.

"Sorry Chen - try as you might I have explained its NOT ABOUT SMOKING. But carry on - that seems to be what you want so you welcome to keep going."

eh? You're the one who brought smoking into this thread! You were making the comparison and I disagreed with you on it. You've mentioned smoking multiple times to try and make your (imo misguided) point.

as for:

"Chen if you think this is about smokers its not. Its about some things because unacceptable and its VERY acceptable to say so and some things not when actually they are all unacceptable."

I've tried reading that word salad attempt at a sentence again and it still doesn't make much sense to me, sorry.

In any case I still don't buy your contention that smokers are more vilified than people who eat themselves to death on sofa's.

Its ok Chen - some people get it and some not. You obviously dont which is really fine hun- dont feel bad.

Oh snap.

hun?

It's OK nuttychic

Some people can construct a coherent sentence in order to get their point across and some can't

You obviously can't which is really fine hun - don't feel bad.

Zing!

Oh thats ok, I assure you I will not loose any sleep over your opinion of my writing. So sorry if I gave you the impression that I actually would.

OP your poor OH!

"Oh thats ok, I assure you I will not loose any sleep over your opinion of my writing."

It's not really a matter of opinion, it's a matter of fact; that sentence makes no sense, and imo didn't add much to already pretty incoherent argument you were attempting to make.

You also appear to be under the misapprehension that just using the phrase "some people get it and some people don't" in a discussion means you don't actually have to make sense and somehow indicates you were right all along.

I think its time you two hugged it out.

I just don't read the stuff I know will piss me off.

Sadly, I knew my OP would be a platform for a certain type to justify themselves and self indulge in their own hobnob lifestyle choices.

This is a particularly nasty forum, one of the worst I've ever seen for bitchiness. Mumsnet? I wouldn't let the majority of you feed my goldfish without supervision let alone let you loose with children.

But to the ladies who stayed on task, thank you for your kind words. .

And a note to those who cant hold down relationships - "for better for worse, in sickness and in health". Make a commitment.

2andanonion - this whole thread answers your OP question - sadly yes, spiteful (and more). Amonst the trash, there are a number of people who feel very sad for the situation your DH is in. :( and :)

That should read 'HIDDEN amonst the trash'

amongst zzzz!