Feeling sick with guilt

[zeberwee]

Last week I went on a family holiday with 2 cousins, 3 aunts, one uncle and my grandmother. It was a coach trip and before we even went everyone had stuck the knife into one aunt inparticular and were going on about how they hoped she didn't gab our heads off on the bus, embarrass us and general natter and be annoying. The morning we were waiting for the bus this aunt was stood there with her bag, big smile on face looking really happy and excited. My uncle went up behind her and shouted "DUH!" in her ear. She flinched and the rest of us fell about laughing. She said "what did you do that for?" so everyone started having a go at her telling her to lighten up and not spoil the holiday by whinging. She went quiet and just stood there on her own waiting for the bus. When it arrived we all started pretend arguining about who would sit next to her. She got really mad and told us all to fuck off on our own and she was happy sitting alone, infact she prefered it. My other aunts then started teasing her telling her not to cry etc and laughing. So she's sat there reading her book and everytime the bus went passed farms etc they all shouted at her to stop farting and the other passengers was laughing at her too. At one point I looked at her and she was crying silently. I stopped taking part at this point and felt awful. The others however carried it on all through the holiday chucking things at her on the bus, my uncle emptied her bag all over the coridoor and said it was an accident but then kicked her pants over the banister in front of a load of other guests and my grandma kept blaming my aunt saying she was spoiling it for everyone by being grumpy. On the wednesday we were due to go on a day trip and everyone told my aunt that we had to catch the bus at 9am. Later that night I got a text saying it had been changed to 8am. I assumed my aunt knew but they didn't tell her and we left without her so she was stuck in the hotel on her own all day.
thursday morning she put a note through my grandmas door saying she had arranged transport home and she was really upset at the way she'd been treated. So she left 2 days early. We got back saturday morning and the others have done nothing but laugh about my poor aunt and say how she made the whole thing miles better than it would have been normally.

I feel sick with guilt but wasn't involved in most of it, I want to apologise but I want everyone else to apologise too. AIBU in holding off until everyone else says sorry too?

Absolutely fucking disgraceful.

You and you vile family.

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Is this real? It can't be!? These are her brothers and sisters bullying her is it? Has this gone on her whole life? Apologise NOW, screw the others.

Clothes were tipped out on the coach in the first post then it changed to at the hotel. If you want to succeed in winding people up then keep to the story. Yawn.

This is the most upsetting thing I've EVER read on here.

Your poor aunt spent hard-earned money on what she thought would be a lovely family holiday, and she spent it being relentlessly bullied, laughed at by strangers, crying and having her belongings kicked around the hotel?

If this is real (and I find it hard to believe adults would behave this way) then you need to go round there with a bunch of flowers, and perhaps a printout of this thread, and apologise profusely on behalf of the group. Her hurt will be funnelled towards you and it won't be pleasant but if you genuinely feel guilty then this is a way of making amends.

Then I hope she has nothing to do with the rest of your appalling family, and that she doesn't kill herself over this in a low moment.

Seriously? I hope this isn't real.

If it is you should be feeling more than guilt. You didn't bother to stop until you'd been taunting her infront of a bunch of strangers on a bus. You knew how horrid they all were to her, and I could have told you there'd be no way they tell her about the change of trip time. What kind of person joins in with the continued humiliation of someone else? Stopping doesn't make you any better than them unless you comforted her, or stood up to them. It appears you didn't bother to do either.

Nope, the clothes thing happened in the hotel in the OP (unless coaches have got bannisters and corridors now and nobody told me).

I refuse to believe this is real. If it is real I am more than minded to hire someone to find your IP address & track you down, so that I can personally come and slap the lot of you until your ears bleed.

Have to run and can't check further, but there was a "Holiday on the Buses" film, according to Wikipedia. If you can be bothered to waste minutes of your precious existences on looking it up, I will be unsurprised to find that hilarious japes at Auntie Scapegoat's expense will feature somewhere in the plot line.

Fuck me, I can't believe I've been arsed to look that up. But as AF said, people are taking the time to share their experiences in response to this shit, if it can be debunked, then so be it.

If it's not made up, you are still a tosser, OP.

bloody hell what a bunch a bullies. hope this is a wind up

I wonder if this is a counter point to a potential thread from the "aunt's" point of view?

@ cinnabar - I stand corrected (misread the sentence -it started off on the bus then moved to the hotel seamlessly!).

Sadly, I think this is real. You couldn't make this shit up - it sounds like typical bully behaviour. It sounds like your uncle, who appears to be the ringleader, has a very small penis and makes himself feel better by rousing a big group of followers and making someone feel small. Part of the reason you get sucked in was that you were probably afraid of him starting on you - but still DOES NOT excuse you. Comparing it to private playful jokes between you and your husband does not excuse it either. 1 person being reapeatedly victimised by her entire family, and then by an entire coach is a whole other, very sinister, kettle of fish I'm afraid.

It beggars belief that you saw your aunt's hurt and distress AND YOU SAID AND DID NOTHING TO STOP IT.

I've seen far too much of man's inhumanity to women and children to be easily shocked, nor am I given to crying over tales of atrocity, but I've got tears in my eyes at the thought of your poor aunt suffering such appalling abuse and humiliation AT THE INSTIGATION OF, AND FOR THE AMUSEMENT OF, HER OWN FAMILY.

In common with toddlerama I want to find your aunt and give her a big hug, a huge bouquet of flowers, and whisk her off to tea at the Ritz followed by cocktails at the Dorchester because, after her ordeal, nothing's too good for her.

I'd like to whisk the rest of you back in time to Bedlam where your uncle can be restrained indefinitely in a padded cell, and where the remainder of you can be put on display for a paying public to sneer and jeer at the lunatics because, quite frankly, none of you sound sane.

I suspect that last Wednesday your aunt had a wonderful day with right-minded guests at your hotel who no doubt commiserated with her misfortune at having to spend her precious holiday with a bunch of loud, ignorant, obnoxious twats just because they happen to be her family members.

I also suspect that the hotel staff, and any guests who were staying on beyond your departure date, breathed a sigh of relief when they saw the back of your group.

I doubt that there's anything any of you can do that can make up for your disgusting behaviour but, for starters, you should jointly repay your aunt for the cost of her holiday from hell and convey your individual and collective abject apologies for your inexcusable breach of all that is honourable and decent.

There's also a little something you personally can do for your fellow mumsnetters: next time you plan a family holiday please post the dates and name of the hotel on this board so that any of us can alter our plans if necessary.

And please satisfy my curiousity by revealing who you all chose to pick on on during your Wednesday coach trip

No, it's not 'On the Buses', that was funny and had good writers.

This is more like 'X-Factor rejects on tour...'

is this the family from "Benidorm"?

Oh no, they did have a few redeeming features underneath it all :)

It's got to be a wind-up! If she's had this all her life, I don't see why she'd go on holiday with the fuckers.

On the slim chance it's not a wind-up, you are arguably the worst of the lot, OP, for knowing she was really upset by it all and not stepping in.

This is the sort of mentality that leads to abuse in other parts of life.

Hope to goodness none of your family in the caring profession.
You do at least want to make amends..
Apologise and let your family know how and why you will no longer be part of their bullying.

Notice how the OP has slunk off. Was she seriously expecting us to say, "there there, you have nothing to feel guilty about/apologise for"?

And I think everyone HOPES this isn't real, as we find it diffiuclt to coipe with the idea that human beings can behave in this way. But sadly they do. I have also found this thread upsetting. I also wish I knew who her aunt was so I could give her a big hug and assure her that not everyone in the world are evil cunts like her "family".

I have no idea if this is real. I can believe that it is, though. I've seen some horrible bullying within families; I'm sure many of us have

I am absolutely horrified at this! What a truly horrible lot you and your family are. I would be embarrassed if it were strangers doing it in my company, never mind family! bit late for apologies really.

OP, yes YOU ARE BEING FUCKING UNREASONABLE to be "holding off until everyone else says sorry too" - because they obviously won't be doing so!

You and your family are a bunch of bullies and you should all be thoroughly ashamed of yourselves. Get yourself round to your aunt's house and apologise sincerely and profusely to this poor woman. And tell the rest of your pack of animals family what you have done and do your damndest to get them to apologise to.

They sound like a load of inbreds reenacting 'Lord of the Flies ' but I suspect a troll.

This is one of the most horrible things I've read on here. OP - you and the rest of your degenorate family are a disgrace to society. Your poor aunt basically paid to have her life made hell for however many days she stuck it out with you bunch of bullying, evil, cowardly bastards.

I hope the poor woman cuts the lots of you out of her life forever, you don't deserve the opportunity to apologise.

Horrible, horrible people.