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Feeling sick with guilt

244 replies

zeberwee · 20/06/2011 13:41

Last week I went on a family holiday with 2 cousins, 3 aunts, one uncle and my grandmother. It was a coach trip and before we even went everyone had stuck the knife into one aunt inparticular and were going on about how they hoped she didn't gab our heads off on the bus, embarrass us and general natter and be annoying. The morning we were waiting for the bus this aunt was stood there with her bag, big smile on face looking really happy and excited. My uncle went up behind her and shouted "DUH!" in her ear. She flinched and the rest of us fell about laughing. She said "what did you do that for?" so everyone started having a go at her telling her to lighten up and not spoil the holiday by whinging. She went quiet and just stood there on her own waiting for the bus. When it arrived we all started pretend arguining about who would sit next to her. She got really mad and told us all to fuck off on our own and she was happy sitting alone, infact she prefered it. My other aunts then started teasing her telling her not to cry etc and laughing. So she's sat there reading her book and everytime the bus went passed farms etc they all shouted at her to stop farting and the other passengers was laughing at her too. At one point I looked at her and she was crying silently. I stopped taking part at this point and felt awful. The others however carried it on all through the holiday chucking things at her on the bus, my uncle emptied her bag all over the coridoor and said it was an accident but then kicked her pants over the banister in front of a load of other guests and my grandma kept blaming my aunt saying she was spoiling it for everyone by being grumpy. On the wednesday we were due to go on a day trip and everyone told my aunt that we had to catch the bus at 9am. Later that night I got a text saying it had been changed to 8am. I assumed my aunt knew but they didn't tell her and we left without her so she was stuck in the hotel on her own all day.
thursday morning she put a note through my grandmas door saying she had arranged transport home and she was really upset at the way she'd been treated. So she left 2 days early. We got back saturday morning and the others have done nothing but laugh about my poor aunt and say how she made the whole thing miles better than it would have been normally.

I feel sick with guilt but wasn't involved in most of it, I want to apologise but I want everyone else to apologise too. AIBU in holding off until everyone else says sorry too?

OP posts:
bruisedtoday · 20/06/2011 19:49

if this is real the OP is a gutless bitch as well as a nasty thug.

i feel sorry for anyone being born into such a shitty family

olibeansmummy · 20/06/2011 19:59

I've read the whole thread hopping to find out it wasn't true. Really hope I'd not as it's just awful :(

aquashiv · 20/06/2011 20:10

Is this real? Jesus you all sound mad? I hope you leave the poor woman alone and she sees you all for the vile creatures you are.

KaraStarbuckThrace · 20/06/2011 20:14

This is horrible Shock

OP - you feel sick with guilt? I should fucking think so - you and your family are absolute scum to treat a relative this way.
I hope she disowns the lot of you Angry

fit2drop · 20/06/2011 20:18

I seriously do not believe this. OP is just on a wind up , to see how many people she can get riled.

she achieved what she came for, but anyone that wants to be perceived as a moronic idiot with psychotic tendencies is actually quite disturbed .

Biscuit anyone Hmm

stillfrazzled · 20/06/2011 20:20

What a PP said: "This cannot be true... If you made it up you are fucked up in the head.

"If however, it is true, you are all (including you) fucking vile people.

"Either way, you are scum."

I don't want this to be true. The bit that makes me hope it maybe isn't is the OP saying the aunt was looking 'happy and excited' to be going away with a vile bunch of spiteful childish cunts who'd been using her as their whipping boy all their life. Seems mercifully unlikely that anyone would have been looking forward to that more than, say, major abdominal surgery.

5DollarShake · 20/06/2011 20:32

scottishmummy - surely people are assuming troll because it's too horrible to be true and in the hope that this didn't in fact happen to the poor woman concerned. :(

Obviously I stand to be proven wrong and maybe people are getting pitchforks out, but that is my assumption.

Ripeberry · 20/06/2011 20:36

Are you part of a thug familly of morons? Cos it sounds like it. All the nasty behaviour of teenagers. Why did you aunt even come along?
Sound like a horrible lot, you are well RID of them.

Lunabelly · 20/06/2011 20:38

This is so sad...I love my aunts so much and couldn't comprehend hurting them in any way. I spent today with one of them, and now I've sat down and properly digested what you've all (maybe) done, I'm actually crying. The thought of anyone hurting my aunts is awful...
I really hope you're trolling....because if this is true...how could you?

Quis · 20/06/2011 20:38

To be honest, most of the abusive aggressive posts in response to the OP are as bad as the OP itself.
The posters on this thread remind me of the people who take their children to throw eggs at police vans carrying criminals.
Weird, yet disturbing!

QuintessentialShadow · 20/06/2011 20:40

If this is real, I suspect evolution skipped merrily over your family. You bunch of imbeciles.

Rhinestone · 20/06/2011 20:46

You all sound like a bunch of ill-mannered, utterly obnoxious, downright unpleasant scum. You included.

Your poor aunt. What the fuck has she done to deserve that treatment? I hope you all have horrible lives and your aunt meets her knight in shining armour so that she never EVER has to spend any time with any of you ever again.

You should be sick with guilt; you're a horrible person from a horrible family.

pigletmania · 20/06/2011 20:51

No Quis we are not, I certainly would not do that kind of thing, we are all Shock and Angry that family would treat their own like that its disgusting don't you think!

Stars82 · 20/06/2011 21:35

I must admit it does sound like bullying to a very large degree...how old are you all for goodness sake, especially allowing things like emptying her bag etc!!!

never mind waiting on others, apologise NOW for the part you played and let others know that they should do the the same!!

Imagine if it was your mother or daughter or friend being treated like that!!! would you stand for it.

Make the first ADULT move and say sorry (shock)

ThatVikRinA22 · 20/06/2011 22:33

i hope the aunt is absolutely loaded and leaves you all a shit in a box and all her money to charity, if it is true.

she needs to disown her so called family.

op vanished then?

Lunabelly · 21/06/2011 08:16

Looks like it.

glammapuss · 21/06/2011 08:23

This cannot be true, it must be a wind-up. It sounds like OP was observing the behavior of a bunch of 10 year old bullies, no way this is a real scenario involving adults old enough to be grandmothers!!!

AnneWiddecomesArse · 21/06/2011 08:23

I do so hope this isn't true. If it is, it's incredibly sad.
Your poor Aunt. You and your poor family. Ignorance and insensitivity of that magnitude is one hell of a deficit for any human being.

InTheNightKitchen · 21/06/2011 08:57

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