Feeling sick with guilt

[zeberwee]

Last week I went on a family holiday with 2 cousins, 3 aunts, one uncle and my grandmother. It was a coach trip and before we even went everyone had stuck the knife into one aunt inparticular and were going on about how they hoped she didn't gab our heads off on the bus, embarrass us and general natter and be annoying. The morning we were waiting for the bus this aunt was stood there with her bag, big smile on face looking really happy and excited. My uncle went up behind her and shouted "DUH!" in her ear. She flinched and the rest of us fell about laughing. She said "what did you do that for?" so everyone started having a go at her telling her to lighten up and not spoil the holiday by whinging. She went quiet and just stood there on her own waiting for the bus. When it arrived we all started pretend arguining about who would sit next to her. She got really mad and told us all to fuck off on our own and she was happy sitting alone, infact she prefered it. My other aunts then started teasing her telling her not to cry etc and laughing. So she's sat there reading her book and everytime the bus went passed farms etc they all shouted at her to stop farting and the other passengers was laughing at her too. At one point I looked at her and she was crying silently. I stopped taking part at this point and felt awful. The others however carried it on all through the holiday chucking things at her on the bus, my uncle emptied her bag all over the coridoor and said it was an accident but then kicked her pants over the banister in front of a load of other guests and my grandma kept blaming my aunt saying she was spoiling it for everyone by being grumpy. On the wednesday we were due to go on a day trip and everyone told my aunt that we had to catch the bus at 9am. Later that night I got a text saying it had been changed to 8am. I assumed my aunt knew but they didn't tell her and we left without her so she was stuck in the hotel on her own all day.
thursday morning she put a note through my grandmas door saying she had arranged transport home and she was really upset at the way she'd been treated. So she left 2 days early. We got back saturday morning and the others have done nothing but laugh about my poor aunt and say how she made the whole thing miles better than it would have been normally.

I feel sick with guilt but wasn't involved in most of it, I want to apologise but I want everyone else to apologise too. AIBU in holding off until everyone else says sorry too?

How old are you? How old are your family? What a horrible, horrible bunch of bullies.

You should apologise to your aunt straight away and tell the rest of your family they should be doing the same. Your family won't apologise first, probably don't see anything wrong in their behaviour - you have responsibility to take for your own actions and you should point out to the others they have the same responsibility.

Well done for knowing when to back off?????????

OP please don't kid yourself that you are any better than those that carried it on your not

i am also wondering if this is for real

I didn't do anything though other than laugh along at the farting comments and that was only because DH and I accuse each other of farting when we go past farms so I didn't see the harm but I suppose it is different when an entire bus is laughing at you.

It was an all you can eat buffet style thing at dinner and one night my uncle piled up everyones used plates on my aunts empty plate whilst she was distracted and then told the waiter that my aunt had finished and was there anymore being served as nobody on our table had had a chance to eat anything before my aunt got to it. I kind of laughed along at that too but only because again it's the kind of thing DH and I would do to each other.

Don't wait for the others to say sorry - you feel bad so you should do something about it now. And you should talk to the others - what a horrible thing to do to someone. That poor poor woman.

If this is true you should be hanging your head in shame. What a nasty, cruel family you have. If you feel even the tiniest bit guilty you should be round at your Aunt's apologising now - that poor woman.

Wow, Just wow.

Fucking disgusting behavior from ''adults''

I hope she tells you to fuck yourself

I smell shite.

You nasty bunch of fucking bullies. Can't believe that grown adults were behaving like this.

Good grief. I think you should apologise yourself now. Why didn't you say anything at the time?

What a bunch of bastards.

I hope she never speasks to you all again. How can people sit there and take the piss out of someone whos sat silently crying :(

Poor women i hope she realises what a bunch of knobheads she has for her family.

Apologise today. Tell your relatives you have done so and that you expect them to do the same. Have nothing to do with them until they do. Your poor aunt. She deserves your respect and courtesy as a bare bare minimum even if you don't have any feelings of affection for her. If you and relatives can't see that this behaviour was unacceptable then she's better off without you.

You awful people. I'd never see any of you again. I hope she has nicer friends than family.

Reading this upset me more than anything else I've read on AIBU. I don't know why, but it did. What a fucking horrible group of people you are.

Let's face it, if your Aunt were to come on here and post what had happened people would be telling her to consider cutting ties with a bullying, toxic family. And they'd be right. This reads like something a bunch of cruel children would do on a school trip.

'DH'? You're old enough to be married. I thought you were about 15/16.

Is this for real?
Seriously you should be extremely ashamed of youself. Why did you even need to ask this question on a forum? You know you were being nasty. What you should do is apologise and try to make it up to your aunt.
By the way everyone who participates in bullying incidents like this is just as guilty, there are no degrees.

I actually don't believe it's for real.

and you all leave infant school soon do you

i think you are all pretty disgusting to be honest

Wow. Poor woman. What disgusting behaviour from you and the other members of your family. Applogise immediately - you don't need backup. I don't know how you can bully someone like that and then have to ASK AN ONLINE FORUM whether you should apologise.

By the way do you have children? If you do, what would you say to them if you saw them carrying on like this?

I think you should steer well clear of holidays with your family. If your Aunt refuses [quite rightly] to go on the next one they will need a new fall guy to bully... May put you in her position then...

I have never been so motivated to reply to a post as I have to this. I'm totally shocked that all of you could have behaved to your aunt like that. She must have been devastated.

What you all did was nasty bullying. I think you ought to go and talk to her at the very least and show her at least somebody cares.

Words fail me that people could treat other people (let alone relatives) like that.

I hope this is a joke thread.

I don't understand the connection between passing farms and farting though - could you hear animals farting on the coach?

Thought you were going to tell me that she had died..

But you should make amends while you can, she may feel life is not worth living if everyone treats her like shit.

Do it before it's too late. Tell the others how you feel as well.

You all sound hideous. If I was your aunt no amount of apologies would be enough for that sort of behaviour.

PhilipJFry... Me too. :(