to wonder why lesbians go for women that look like men?

[carriedababi]

surely if you fancy women you'd want to go out with a woman that looked like \ woman not a man.
nothing against gay/lesbians at all.

but this seems a bit strange to me

give us a kiss

Not that you're stereo typing or anything

Obvious troll is obvious.

But what if you're a straight woman but go for a feminine looking man? What would that mean? He'd still have the meat and two veg?

Carrie's a regular are you drunk?

Possibly for the same reason as some women go for effeminate looking men.

Personal preference? Free Will? Choice? Maybe they just like their personality?

She may be a regular but she ain't half talking shite.

what does a woman look like

no, im not drunk, just honestly wondering

korma

actually that is a bit of a generalisation just because you sometimes see 2 butch lesbians together. Sometimes you see 2 camp gay guys together, but that doesn't mean that all gays go for guys that ham it up. You really shouldn't generalise like that.

Meant to say 'just as sometimes you see 2 camp...........works in the same way.

Yes because ALL lesbians wear dungarees, dm's and have a crew cut!

Silly billy troublemaker.....put your head back into the Mail on Sunday and let the grown ups talk.

A lesbian couple who are friends of mine are both model-gorgeous :)

Sorry but this is daft. I know a number of gay women and they come in all shapes and sizes, feminine and not so feminine - as all human beings do.

I think there are several possible answers to this. Firstly, what is it to "look like a woman/look like a man"? Some people might say that "looking like a woman" is a social construction: "femininity", and not "real" at all.

"Looking like a man": Some lesbians do go for butch-femme roles, with appearance playing a part in that. But it has to be pointed out that there will be a "femme" in that dyad - so not all the lesbians will be going for butches.

The butch-femme thing was quite "big" in the 1980s/90s and there was a lot of literature on the subject. Some people interpreted it as being about playing with the signifiers of heterosexuality and suexualising their transgression.

But a lot of lesbians don't go for women who look like men, they like women. That's probably the short answer.

Oh lord, so many tempting answers.

OK, taking it at face value: not all lesbians go for 'women who look like men'. Personally, most of my partners have been very feminine and dp is femme extraordinaire. (I am less so, but still: long hair, face full of make-up, nice frock collection.) There are loads of 'feminine' lesbians around - you're probably just not spotting us because you assume we're heterosexual.

Having said which, there is a butch aesthetic which, done well, is very very sexy. A great butch doesn't look like a man: she looks like a great butch. I hate to say it, but I wouldn't expect you to understand

Lastly, has it occurred to you that seeing women who choose not to wear make-up/grow their hair long/wear heels and frocks as 'looking like a man' is quite questionable?

V. true about "butch" looking like a "butch" rather than a chap.

i know alot of gay people as one of my childgood friends is gay, so i know alot of gay people through her, and i don't think you often get 2 gay men together that are both camp, as you say.

there tends to be only one camp one in the realationships thats ive seen

Actually - it's a very sensible question. Not sure why you're all

Have you asked her?

have you got scool in the morning too?