To think that my friend is being uptight to dictate what snacks can be consumed in her house?

[firemansamantha]

I have a group of friends, met through antenatal classes.

We've always met around each other's houses for a chat and catch up. The babies are all 9 months old now and been weaned a while.

Quite a few of the babies snack on raisins. This one friend has a dog(which she thanksfully locks in another room while we're there,. as I don#t want their dog around my DS).

Anyway, this one friend has a "no raisin" rule and basically refuses to let us give the DC raisins at her house. This is a right pain in the arse as DS loves them and they really get him out of bad/grumpy moods.

Friend says raisins aren't good for dogs but I just think it's rude for her to tell us what can and can't be eaten by 9 month old babies!

AIBU?

lola did you just dis my dog?

I gave DC4 blueberries once.

Twernt pretty

I'm with DogsBestFriend entirely. As soon as you were told the raisins could poison the dog, why on earth wouldn't you just say "oh, sorry, i didn't know that?" and not take them again? Because however important you think your PFB is (and of course you will love your baby more than anything in the world), even you can't think your baby being able to eat raisins for a short space of time is worth risking killing her dog for?

Plus, you will come to realise as your child gets older, that your child may be the centre of your universe but won't be quite so important to other people. Other people in the world actually love other things more than your child - and yes, I would expect your friend to rank her dog on that list.

I think you need to apologise for your lack of understanding if you even remotely want this friendship to continue.

I really didnt know that about raisins. Giood thread for that reason

Hi OP - out of curiosity have you had a conflab about this with the rest of the group?

If so are they all a bit bonkers too irritated at not being able to bring along raisins?

Raisins are a pain in the arse. they get everywhere and look like rabbit poo. i don't blame her.

I have no time for 'my house, my rules' types - they're a bunch of inhospitable miseries, as far as I'm concerned, but even I think YABVU.

For goodness sake - your son will come for an hour without raisins. There's a myriad other (healthy if you so wish) snacks out there that he can eat for that small window instead.

Will cope for an hour without raisins.

Raisins and grapes are dangerous for dogs. Although I'm by no means a dog lover, I would completely understand if a dog owning person asked me not to take them into their house.

It's also useful for children to learn this. A friend of mine's 10 year old made a friend's dog extremely ill by feeding it grapes when no-one was looking because he had no idea how dangerous it was. I know your dcs are very young, but awareness of the needs of others, human or canine, is good for 'em .

The problem with grazing on any sweet food is teeth are bathed in sugar for longer periods of time. Eating a handful of raisins and especially raisins for breakfast in cereal is fine. If any of us graze on small amounts of sweet foods through the day it is bad for our teeth.

Eat 20 raisins in 5 minutes fine, eat one every 5 minutes not so good.

I was told this when I was studying to be a dental nurse, we studied eating habits, for the sake of my teeth if I eat chocolate I eat it all at once!

Maybe further research has disproved this, 15 years ago this was what we were taught.

Forgot to add, yabu regarding your friend. If this is currently the main worry in your life op then I envy you.

I'm sure it's not the main worry in her life - why do people always say that in AIBU?

It's not only for life and death situations.

I can't believe this thread has 140 odd replies!

It's also spawned another thread - I just noticed it in active convos

No baby is more important than any dog in this house.

Just.....WOW!!!

lola did you just dis my dog?

Fucking hell, I don't even like dogs much (and I chuckled out loud at your post, ProvincialLady) and I'm firmly on the YANVU side here.

OP. Drop the whole 'who asked her to lock the dog away' straw argument and concentrate. Raisins are poisonous to dogs. Do you think that your child being allowed to eat raisins in her house is more important than the risk of her dog finding a stray raisin and getting kidney damage? Yes or no?

YABVU, even. Talk about a mixed message.

Fido is lower class. Phideaux, however......

Gob smacked at the "her house her rules" comments re controlling what 9 month old babies eat. I'd feed my child what I wanted but be sure not to leave raisins (or anything else) all over her house. Or not go.

But op you are also being precious - if not having raisins for snack causes your dc issues, then I think you have issues tbh

@hiphop I think the "I have a baby so my needs trump your rights" mums are a plague upon civilization :)

Actions have consequences - feel free to feed your brat darling child raisins when I asked you not to, but also don't expect to ever be invited again.

Cannot imagine circumstances in which you would not keep a dog away from a room full of visiting children - for both their sakes!

If your friend hasnt got Pet Insurance, Vet bills can be horrendous, Im pretty sure you wouldnt want to pay one OP

Ahem

lola

Atticus is a fine name for a dog.

He is well hard a big wuss

Fido

My budgie is called Carrot - you got a problem with that?

anewyear even if she has she would still have to pay huge excess before it kicked in