To think that my friend is being uptight to dictate what snacks can be consumed in her house?

[firemansamantha]

I have a group of friends, met through antenatal classes.

We've always met around each other's houses for a chat and catch up. The babies are all 9 months old now and been weaned a while.

Quite a few of the babies snack on raisins. This one friend has a dog(which she thanksfully locks in another room while we're there,. as I don#t want their dog around my DS).

Anyway, this one friend has a "no raisin" rule and basically refuses to let us give the DC raisins at her house. This is a right pain in the arse as DS loves them and they really get him out of bad/grumpy moods.

Friend says raisins aren't good for dogs but I just think it's rude for her to tell us what can and can't be eaten by 9 month old babies!

AIBU?

For future reference, raisin-enhanced baby dribble creates black patches all over your carpet which can never be removed. Even if you feed PFB in a dettol-ed highchair surrounded by plastic sheeting and with all known makes of bib on, they will surprise you by drooling later and staining anyway. Just thought you should know that.

Obviously you are unreasonable.

I know! I think the OP should be grapeful she is invited round in the first place!

You're safe, Lola. I can find you a lovely rescued Staffie, a cute Rottie in need of a home or a super German Shepherd looking for a forever owner but no Chihuahuas.

:)

Of course if the Op has her way, her "friend's" dog will soon be on the rehoming list too. Chances are he's a Bull breed though which is why the OP thinks the owner shouldn't have him.

OTOH dogs are a bit stupid aren't they? What kind of an animal has a massive instinct to eat anything and everything in sight, and then turns out to be a precious little flower on the inside that keels over after a few raisins?

Ha! Very passive aggressive dogsbestfriend! It's not a bull anything. It's some kind of spaniel? Prince Charles? King Charles? The small ugly as sin ones.

I do realise that after that statement, half of you on this thread will hold a permanent grudge against me.

Um. In an ideal world, I think she would say "it's fine, please feel free to feed your child raisins and I will make sure they are cleared up so my dog isn't poisoned", and you would say "no, no, of course my DS can survive for a hour or so without eating a few raisins, no troulbe at all". Isn't that how polite society works?

No dog is ugly IMO, fireman.

Sorry you thought I was passive aggressive, I clearly didn't state my case openly.

I think you are unreasonable, that you are rude about your host, that you are precious about your child on this issue and that your opinion of the dog and whether the owner should have him is insufferable.

Is that better?

A dog named...Atticus

sorry mrs devere

to be fair, some dogs ARE ugly.

i don't think that means you're allowed to poison them though

I would love a German Shepherd actually but have 2 cats, one soon to be 2 babies and not the time :(

Just give him something else for goodness sake. What if he wants to watch tv when he's grumpy - would you let him do that, even if the host is a no-tv type person?

It is true about dogs and raisins - sadly a chum of mine only found out after his dog had eaten a load, it got irreversible kidney damage and had to be put to sleep.
I shut my dog in the car when DD has friends over - the dog is a smelly boisterous creature and I don't want the little ones to get knocked over or scared by it. She has a little snooze in the back of the car and is quite happy.
Try chopped apricot or cranberries instead of raisins.

I hate to break it to you Lola but I have 3 cats of my own, 2 I've rescued and are on the rehoming list and 2 children who have been brought up with dogs from day one...

.... and 3 big dogs, two of whom are Shepherds. :o

:o

This thread has turned me into a PFD.
My Alf does seem sensible though and turns his beautiful big black nose at stuff he doesn't like.
Bloody hell OP, you actually couldn't be more unreasonable if you tried, which is why I'm thinking wind up.

TheProvincialLady - you've just described my dog. She will hoover up any crumbs she finds but has a ridiculously sensitive stomach and will then be sick.

Beamur, I'm going to report your post. That's one of the most unkind things I've ever read on MN.

You'd give a child cranberries? UGH! Child cruelty I tell ye! :o

Interesting that you're still there, yet so quiet, OP.
Hope you've taken on board what a twat you're being.

I've never owned a dog so we would both need training! one day though!

YABU, It's her house and Raisons are toxic to dogs It won't do your DS any harm not to have raisons for the short while youe are at her house.

I'm just greatly amused at all the PFB assumptions and all the people saying I MADE her lock her dog away!

no point arguing with people who don't even know the facts!

Not fresh cranberries...dried up wrinkly ones. She loves them - honest. Child that is, not the dog.

If you had any PFB instincts at all you wouldn't be letting your DS anywhere near raisins to start with.

Fireman, ONE person has assumed that you have told the host to put her dog away.

ONE. I went back over the thread and counted.

Several of us have acknowledged that your host chooses to put her dog away. Some of us have said that we wouldn't do that, others have said they would. Many of us have noted that you are "thankful" for some as yet unexplained, possibly bizaare reason that she does so but only ONE thought it was at your request.

You're looking for an argument which simply isn't there.

OP you did say: 'This one friend has a dog(which she thanksfully locks in another room while we're there,. as I don#t want their dog around my DS)'

That does imply she puts it in another room to be sensitive to you.

However, i think the general gist is (whether she puts it in another room or not) that yabu as it is her home and your ds can live without raisins for a short while.