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AIBU?

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Original poster

To think that my friend is being uptight to dictate what snacks can be consumed in her house?

180 replies

firemansamantha · 14/06/2011 18:30

I have a group of friends, met through antenatal classes.

We've always met around each other's houses for a chat and catch up. The babies are all 9 months old now and been weaned a while.

Quite a few of the babies snack on raisins. This one friend has a dog(which she thanksfully locks in another room while we're there,. as I don#t want their dog around my DS).

Anyway, this one friend has a "no raisin" rule and basically refuses to let us give the DC raisins at her house. This is a right pain in the arse as DS loves them and they really get him out of bad/grumpy moods.

Friend says raisins aren't good for dogs but I just think it's rude for her to tell us what can and can't be eaten by 9 month old babies!

AIBU?

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TheCountessOlenska · 14/06/2011 19:58

Pyjamababe - I'll have to join you at that parenting class!

Raisins are bad for babies and dogs

Dogs are bad for babies

I'm not sure how Dd and the dog have survived their first year together tbh!!

Mamaz0n · 14/06/2011 19:58

would you feel the same if her DC had a severe nut allergy?

That if your PFB were to drop one and she found it could quite possibly kill her?

Or is this a case of your child being far more important than "just a dog"

Original poster
firemansamantha · 14/06/2011 20:13

I would of thought it was obvious that babies are more important than dogs!!! Maybe she should think about her DC instead of having a dog around in the first place!!!

Thanks for your replies but most of you seem to be assuming the dog is locked away on my account even though I'VE SAID THAT'S NOT THE CASE!!!

But you all love a good judge, doncha?

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DogsBestFriend · 14/06/2011 20:16

"Maybe she should think about her DC instead of having a dog around in the first place!!!"

Now remind me... who loves a good judge? Hmm

And YABU again. No baby is more important than any dog in this house.

pyjamababe · 14/06/2011 20:19

countess do join me. I'll bring grapes, raisins and chocolate - and we can drink wine while our dogs clean up any mess and lick our babies faces clean :o

Fifis25StottieCakes · 14/06/2011 20:20

what you mean is maybe she can think about and my dc before having a dog around Hmm

Fifis25StottieCakes · 14/06/2011 20:20

*me and my dc

TheMagnificentBathykolpian · 14/06/2011 20:22

I just think it's not worth making anything of. She doesn't want raisins in the house and she says its because they could end up in the dog. Fair enough.

I saw the link upthread. Depending on the size of the dog, as few as a dozen raisins could kill it. A bunch of small children could easily scatter that amount.

Nobody needs raisins. Is it worth bothering about? There are plenty of other snacks that children can have.

Surely what matters is that the children have fun and you all have a natter? Bugger the raisins.

TidyDancer · 14/06/2011 20:22

Wow, you're lucky she's even your friend with these comments, OP!

AgentZigzag · 14/06/2011 20:23

Your last post OP almost seems to be suggesting that she should get rid of her dog because her DC is going to be massively missing out and his life totally ruined because she doesn't allow raisins in the house! Grin

Now you can't be saying that surely??

My DD's never had raisins, and it's not because we've got a dog, it's because I've never given them to her Shock

Judge me, and make it a harsh judgement won't you?

TheMagnificentBathykolpian · 14/06/2011 20:24

x-post well, yes, babies are more important than dogs in so far as you wouldn't, for example, save your dog before your baby.

But I don't think a baby's right to chew on raisins is more important than the real risk to the dog of dying if he gets hold of them.

So, I'm still in the choose a different snack and forget about it camp.

DogsBestFriend · 14/06/2011 20:27

I have two DC and three dogs and I don't buy the children raisins either although my DC are old enough not to drop them.

It's because raisins are vile bloody things, the food of the devil. Envy

thefirstMrsDeVere · 14/06/2011 20:30

PMSL at raisins being 'bad' for children.

Its food not crack.

OP sorry but YABU.

She doesnt want the worry or the bother of looking for stray raisins after having a house full of babies.

It wouldnt bother me personally. I would hoover but perhaps she doesnt want to?

If she was saying 'no food, no drink and please dont change any nappies' you would have a point.

(I actually saw that sign at a children's clinic once Shock )

AgentZigzag · 14/06/2011 20:30

I disagree when you say no baby is more important than any dog DBF, even if it is in your own house Grin but I'm with you on the rasin front, especially if they're the crappy kind with seeds in, bleargh.

CoffeeDodger · 14/06/2011 20:31

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GwendolineMaryLacey · 14/06/2011 20:33

Blimey, I'm glad I don't have to visit any of you lot. Raisins aside you sound a right inhospitable bunch!

thecatatemygymsuit · 14/06/2011 20:33

Raisingate, how lovely! Smile.
Yabu of course. Your ds will survive without his raisin fix for an hour or so.

DogsBestFriend · 14/06/2011 20:33

Most people do disagree, AZZ but I'm fine with that. :)

Not fine with raisin droppers and dogs being shut away or people deciding that others should think of their DC instead of having a dog about though.

AnyFuleKno · 14/06/2011 20:35

Cuntraversial

Ormirian · 14/06/2011 20:35

Well I like dogs much better than raisins so my answer wouldn't be unbiased.

TheSecondComing · 14/06/2011 20:36

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NormanTebbit · 14/06/2011 20:37

Why don't you just give them something else?

AgentZigzag · 14/06/2011 20:37

What if her DC was allergic to eggs or something and had asked you not to bring anything with eggs into her house?

It's not that I'm measuring the importance of dogs and children to each other, but she obviously cares very much about her dog and doesn't want them to get ill with something that's easily avoidable.

She's not saying what can/can't be eaten by your baby, she's asking you to do something easy that means a lot to her.

AgentZigzag · 14/06/2011 20:40

I'd have to shut our dog away if I were so stupid to have a load of 9 MO babies round because it'd be like a game of skittles with overly friendly/bouncy dog playing the role of ball Grin

Blu · 14/06/2011 20:40

YANBU.

I HATE that 'my house my rules' thing - so snippy and so inhospitable.

When people come to my house I fall over myself to make them welcome and facillitate what they would like. If they fed thier babies riasins i would just sweep up before the dog came in. FFS - how many raisins is a baby going to drop? 500g? They are easy to see and not hard to clear up.