To think that my friend is being uptight to dictate what snacks can be consumed in her house?

[firemansamantha]

I have a group of friends, met through antenatal classes.

We've always met around each other's houses for a chat and catch up. The babies are all 9 months old now and been weaned a while.

Quite a few of the babies snack on raisins. This one friend has a dog(which she thanksfully locks in another room while we're there,. as I don#t want their dog around my DS).

Anyway, this one friend has a "no raisin" rule and basically refuses to let us give the DC raisins at her house. This is a right pain in the arse as DS loves them and they really get him out of bad/grumpy moods.

Friend says raisins aren't good for dogs but I just think it's rude for her to tell us what can and can't be eaten by 9 month old babies!

AIBU?

Funny how it's 'her house her rules' for this but not for shoes

Are shoes lethal to family pets then?

Oh I see... that's ok OP, she can supervise, pop them into DS's mouth one and a time and he can open his mouth so that she can inspect it to make sure they're gone...

Or... she could plug in the sucky thing with nozzles before the dog comes in, to round up and obliterate every last scum-sucking raisin...

Or the OP can pick up properly after her own Dc instead of letting him make a mess and expecting others to...

god does it matter, they are bloody raisins
you both sound a bit petty imo

meh, i don't like her dog
meh, i have to lock my doggy woggy up so her baby can't eat rasins

my guess is that you wont be long life friends and you are only socialising with one another because you have babies the same age. We have all been there

I didn't twig really because although we like raisins - and have dogs - unless we buy raisins that are sausage flavour, our dogs would take no interest.

When they see me getting fruit and not ham out of the fridge, they give me the look... I reckon MNHQ had disapponted dogs in mind when they devised that one.

YABU.

Raisins aren't good for babies either, I have never understood why mothers who won't let a chocolate button near their child until they are at school shovel raisins down their

yy - raisins aren't good for babies. Worse than sweets actually -

YABU and precious.

Raisins can be fatal to dogs.
Babies chuck food around.
Raisins are small, easily dropped, and easily hoovered up by a dog.
It's her dog, her house, her rules.

Would you let babies and toddlers eat food in your house that could kill or injure your child, knowing that it would easily be dropped on the floor?

I don't ban raisins in our house because of the dog, but I do supervise DD closely when she eats them, and I wouldn't want a toddler or baby chucking them around the place, which they inevitably do.

Are you really so precious that your darling child can't go an hour or two without raisins?

And she shuts the dog away for you! So ungrateful!

If you have a raisin that gets babies out if bad/grumpy moods then you need to market it...

for that statement alone YABU

Looks like 'Raisin-gate' has errupted, OP, you're being unreasonable... who would have thunk it?

It is her house and she has given you a valid reason why you can't bring them into her house, if her dc were allergic to them you wouldn't bring them in the house would you?

Her house, her rules.

She's accommodating you by keeping the dog locked up while you visit, you should accommodate her by following her house rules.

How very PFB.

Would you think she was being unreasonable if he child had a severe allergic reaction to the raisins? Maybe there is some other reason for it that she just hasn't mentioned.

I can't believe she puts her dog in another room.

Poor dog - if I did that my dog would howl with sadness at being cut off from the rest of the family.

The raisin thing is a bit weird - I'm assuming if your baby drops one then you would pick it up?

Still think poor dog

YABU. She isn't telling you what can and can't be eaten by babies, how did you come to that conclusion?

I'm sure your children can survive a few hours without raisins.

Give them a fruit shoot and a sausage roll instead.

yabu and a bit PFB. Your ds will survive without eating sugar-laden raisins for one coffee morning.

Meanwhile her dog could DIE if it found and ate all the discarded raisins.

I don't think it is too much to keep your baby off raisins occasionally!

Raisins are bad for dogs AND babies?? Bloody hell! Bang goes my 10 minutes peace while ds plays with a packet of sunmaid/ throws them to the dog... What about Jaffa cakes then?...

It is the dogs house, not your or you PFB.

Unless your child has some condition that means he can only eat raisins i can't see the issue.

"thankfully locks in another room"

Seriously, If i were her and saw this i wouldn't let you through my door again. you sound like a right stuck up bint

What a palaver over something so ridiculous. You are in her house, you've already banned her dog from coming anywhere near your pfb yet now you have the neck to grizzle about her preferring not to have raisins scattered everywhere for the dog to hoover up. If I was her I'd have disinvited you some time back!

YABU - She isn't telling you what your 9 month old can or can't eat. She's telling what they can't have in her house. Things like raisins can get spilt or dropped and into nooks and craanies. The dog could easily eat them if this happenned and 9 month olds aren't the tidiest of eaters.