Just found my husband with someone else.

[morewinevicar]

I walked straight out, but have nowhere to go. No stuff. My little boy is asleep in the house. I was away on a course but couldn't stand to stay at the rubbish travel lodge for the night so drove for hours and just got home. Andmy husband was on the sofa with a woman. Very blonde but didn't see much else and they were drinking and looked like they'd just jumped apart when they heard the door. I'm shaking. I don't know where to go. My son is in the house. How could he?????

Come on, does anyone really expect MoreWine to come back onto this thread? There's more speculation and bitching on here now than anything about her actual situation. I wouldn't blame her if she now steers well clear. I hope she's ok too.

So sorry to hear what happened to you,I would text him and ask him to explain his actions and how long this had been going on, keep all lines of communications open that way he'll never be able to say you never gave him a chance to tell his side.Keep strong xxx

aurynne I'm a bit concerned and wondering if the OP will return to the thread. Perhaps if she doesn't want to get involved in the bun fight that's ensued she should just post a new message in chat to let us know she's OK?

I second Jajas comment.

I wish you all the best, Vicar. This too shall pass.

I find the sense of entitlement (i know bad turn of phrase) to an update on the soap opera that is peoples lives really interesting. Its not a criticism per se but we really have no right to expect an update. Saying that, i do understand peoples concern, its like having a friend confide in you and you give them time and listen and advice and then you don't hear from them for ages. But thats the difference, whilst we are all worried and concerned for the OP, we are not her real life friends so she owes us nothing. As people have said, she will have a lot to sort out and whilst i think mnet is a brilliant source of support, i get alot here myself, it does sometimes promote the sort of self pitying navel gazing which, in the moment is fine, its not healthy to maintain.

passiveagg - I don't think anyone is expecting an updated, or feels entitled to one - some people just feel involved in this because they were helping to support her quite late one night and as I result feel worried for her.

Guys, my advancing years on mumsnet has taught me that there are several "cliffhangers" on mumsnet a month. We might as well just put the thread on watch, sit back and wait patiently, rather than cluttering the thread with chitchat and "thinking of you", putting the pressure on op to come back and reply. Most likely she wont, as her life falling apart is far removed from our entertainment.

i hope you are ok.x

some of you are like rubberneckers at a car rash
expecting mawkish updates and oi whats going on hun

Im really sorry for you how horrible to walk in and find another woman in your home. I think it would be wise for you to ask him to come over and sit outside with you so you can both talk. Tell him he needs to explain why he had a stranger in the house and what happened. It will be horrible to hear but you need to know in order to move on and decide what to do next.

Make sure your friend is in your house with lo so she can keep him occupied whilst you talk outside. Then when he goes you have a shoulder to cry on. Chin up sweetie, and please ignore the bitchy replies on here they are so out of order.

I don't think you need to hear anything in order to decide what to do next. What could there possibly be to mitigate what you saw? "This is not as bad as you may think, darling..."

It would be nice to be honoured with the truth straight from the horse's mouth but I think you already know it.

Scottish knocks nail on head. I've kept off this thread for a few days now as I know the op probably couldn't give a fuck about MN right now she's more pressing things on her mind
This thread should really be taken off now too many rubber neckers with nothing going on it their lives

passive why should she update you. Put yourself in her shoes would you be on here every 5 minutes because I fucking wouldn't leave the op to it.
I'd be finished with MN if I was her. Times like this you don't need the advice of strangers

pumpernickel Pssive was not saying she SHOULD update her...quite the opposite. Its better to read posts properly before commenting.

How can you say that, Pumpernickel? She obviously wanted the advice and support of strangers on the night it happened. A lot of people got very involved that night - although it is none of our business and everyone wishes her well, I think most people just want her to come on and say she's fine, nothing else. Nobody's asking her to come on every 5 minutes.

Just caught up. Hope you are ok and I am sure you will update when you are able to - hugs

Just read all 30 pages.....very and

I'm keeping this thread on Watch. I hope you're OK, Op.

Me too.

Me 3 xxx

Have just read this! Am so sorry OP. I hope you are OK.

Just read this. What an awful thing to happen, I can't believe he didnt follow you or try to explain. I hope you are ok.