Just found my husband with someone else.

[morewinevicar]

I walked straight out, but have nowhere to go. No stuff. My little boy is asleep in the house. I was away on a course but couldn't stand to stay at the rubbish travel lodge for the night so drove for hours and just got home. Andmy husband was on the sofa with a woman. Very blonde but didn't see much else and they were drinking and looked like they'd just jumped apart when they heard the door. I'm shaking. I don't know where to go. My son is in the house. How could he?????

I'm sure petty bickering is really helping vicar, but just in case it isn't how about we stop it and just offer support until she feels able to pop back on and update us...If she ever feels like doing so.

Thank the Lord for Jaq the voice of reason.

Hope you are OK, Vicar. Please feel that you can come back and offload if you need to, or take advantage of those kind posters who have suggested you PM them.
Take care.

Just checking to see how you're is doing. This thread has actually left ME quite shaken so I can only imagine what you must be feeling MoreWineVicar.
Hope you're ok
x

Checking in with you vicar after my day at work,you've been on my mind lots.sending a hug

Wish the op would let us know she is ok

Hope you are OK.

Well, and now we're on page - what? 27? I do hope that all is alright. Are you thinking what I'm thinking?

I have just read this, I really feel for you, but don't think I can add any more that other posters have.

Please check in, just to let us know you are okay.

What are you thinking LostMyID? Nothing too dramatic/sinister I hope?

Do you think the op's taken him back?

She's thinking troll.

I'm thinking I need wine.

Hope the OP is ok.

Bollocks. Sometimes people have got better things to do when their lives are falling apart than to keep MN updated

Crystalglasses yep indeed I do.

always a possibility with this place lately!!

Opols for the bollocks. Unnecessarily aggressive on my part

Jamie, don't worry, no apologies needed. Actually, I was thinking more along the lines of the shit's hit the fan big style and MN is the last thing she'll be doing.
Trust me - if I think it's trolling, I will say so! (actually, bollocks was quite restrained! I've had worse!!)

Could be any number of reasons OP not come back yet. Maybe problem with internet connection/laptop/things have escalated. I'm convinced that this is genuine.

I hope she's OK :(

Oh, just read this vicar, my heart goes out to you.

Thinking of you & your little boy x

How odd...to repeatedly post here! The OP will be back if she wants and then people will see it in their active convos....I dont' understand why people are debating on this thread.

How about leaving it alone so it doesn't fill up and then the OP can come back when she's ready...if she wants....if I were her I wouldn't. There are too many slavering people waiting for an update.

Its not Eastenders ffs.

OMG - and there it is. The Oxford English Dictionary definition of 'talk about IRONIC'.

Um. No comment.

I read the OP's first posting as that she instantly knew something was wrong the moment she walked into the house. She was there, she saw what she saw, and that was her immediate assessment of the situation.

I think it's a bit sad that, for a few, it was her husband's subsequent behaviour that seems to have validated her initial assessment. Should we always wait for corroborative evidence before we believe?

Huggly, I think we can only go by our own experiences though.

If I walked in on my DH sitting beside a woman having a drink like that I genuinely , absolutely would not think he was dicking around.

but that is MY marriage and no one else's.

Our only role in this should be to support the OP - whatever she chooses to do. We shouldn't be speculating on what he did do, or didn't do as we have no clue.