to be annoyed with a 'friend' of mine?

[jobo84]

Today my car was in the garage, the one day it has decided to rain in the past god knows how long. Anyway, my daughter had to go to nursery today, roughly 2 miles away(4 miles there and back), my 8yo wasnt in school today so had her with me too.
Anyway my neighbour (and a friend i thought) 2 doors down, her son goes to the same nursery, she knew i had no car this morning saw me leaving my house and just drove off, in her 7 seater with only 3 seats taken up, she could have offered to take my daughter in as i have taken her son in for her before, babysat etc. Friends are meant to help each other out, but it would seem she isnt the friend i thought she was. It was really chucking it down and everyone knows that you can't hold an umbrella and push a pushchair with handles not a bar.
AIBU to be annoyed by this?
I know my daughter is not her responsibility, but if i had seen her walking in the rain with her baby and son, i would have offered. I have done it before for her.
My husband would have driven us or lent me his car but had to go away on business today and left at the crack of dawn.
I was soaked, ruined my make up lol, and my kids were drenched too, obv not baby as he had raincover.
So AIBU? haven't said anything to her as wanted to know if i would be in the wrong.

It's always disappointing if you are conscientious and look out for others and they don't do the same back. I would put it down to her either being a bit thoughtless or being a bit distracted this morning (tbh, first morning after half term it was as much as I could do to get out of the door, let alone think about anyone else).

Zukies. Ive had a look but didnt join. Must admit some of the huns and xxx posts are not my style. I am fed up though of being asked if ive come over here to invade, now would i kindly piss off back over there.l

I got an e mail of a MNer saying i should join after having a bunfight on here (obviously i must have been getting a right pasting) when i first joined. I dusted myself off and came back on and am fine now i have found my way round. Ive been on since before christmas so a newbie.

My dd has a pretty unusual name and i googled it and joined to read the thread.

OP if your annoyed at her tell her not whinge about it on fucking MN
Is it me or is it whinge after whinge on here
If that had happened to be would I have come on here and told everyone,would I fuck!!

and you ruined your makeup, there there OP
Think fluffy rabbits

Op, you sound a bit like my sister. She gives so much of herself to everyone, and eventually gets so angry that she doesn't get the same amount back that she explodes and loses a friend. Don't go down there, it's too lonely!!

It's fine to be a bit miffed that she just drove by, heck, be pissed off even. But don't assume it's because she's being a cow, especially if this is the only time she has done something like this.

If you find it hard to ask for favours, then that's your problem, and not anyone else's. Other's don't like imposing themselves onto you, but would love to help if asked, doesn't make them selfish just because they don't offer all the time. And TBH it doesn't make you a nicer person because you do offer all the time, it can give the appearance of making you a bit needy of attention and friendship, and well, a bit doormatish.

I dont know i asked somone the other day and got no response. Theres a thread going about it at the moment

here

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/1230543-AIBU-or-has-MN-become-infested-by-strange-people-who-are-asking-very-odd-questions-are-making-mountains-out-of-molehills-and-who-cant-spell-use-grammar-properly

A coincidence with the names i assure you, i hadnt even heard of mumsnet or netmums until the other night when i heard on the news about a campaign over the over sexualisation of children, thought it would be cool to join up and talk to other mums get support etc.
JOBO happens to be the name of my boa constrictor and 84 is the year i was born, jobo was unavailable so put the numbers at the end jobo84 is my username for my mobile phone accounts and other email and ebay and so on. Until today i had never heard of any of you, and i think i only joined this about 3 days ago. Netmums, mumsnet whats the big deal are you all back at school, because i can remember not liking a different school to ours when i was like 15 or something but how very childish.

I missed that one Fifi

I was just going to say the same thing. Fifi had gone, my other dog lola had gone and i have a shit memory and so many passwords i needed something i remember. I didnt really think about it and fifi and 25 (door number) was available.

Obviously no one has thought there are so many people using MN now that it is harder to find a username which is not taken so most people put a number after there chosen name. Well i do.

It would of been nice if she had offered you a lift but she didn't.

You could of asked for a lift but you didn't.

I think it is time to get over it.

Jobo - two questions.

Firstly, whilst you were waiting for the rain to let up, why didn't you ring your friend and ask for a lift?

Secondly, when she passed you, did she have spare carseats in her car for your dc? If there were no proper carseats available for your dc, it would have been unsafe (and possibly illegal) for her to have given you all a lift, wouldn't it.

Very good points re car seats.

Why didn't you ask her for a favour to take your DD to nursery?

Are you like my mother who expects us all to guess what she wants then goes around all disappointed and martyr-ish cos she'd never do something like that?

Do yourself and your friends a big favour and ask in future. Then you will find out who your real mates are.

I don't get the snarkiness about net mums either.

It is odd. If you don't like net mums don't use it.
Having said that I don't understand people complaining aboutmn while posting on mn. If you don't like it why stay. If I go to a pub and it is shit I just don't go back. I don't stand there complaining about the music and telling the customers that they are wankers.

I wouldn't remember what my neighbour was doing with her car day to day to be honest.. she probably forgot and thought you were going to drive or something. YABU!

Bupcakes is one of mums nets best loved posters.

Thank you. And she is very beautiful.

( that is worth a tenner of anyones money)

Well ive changed my name so i cant get anymore NM spy jabs

OP sounds like she's 12. Honestly,I don't think I've used the phrase 'two faced cow' since I was in high school.

Your friend has done something to piss you off. Most probably unintentionally, and you've resorted to that kind of name calling?

If I was the friend I would be driving my warm dry car away from you. At speed.

have had enough its really not that big a deal, got bigger problems than this, was jus a simple question didnt expect bitchiness from certain people, thought because we all mums ppl would be friendly instead of being just plain rude, and before any1 says it i was happy to hear pros and cons, just not all the rudeness that went with it. Cant be bothered with this anymore, it wasnt the first time she had let me down, car seats have been explained earlier.
My make up was a joke at the end of it hence the lol, which i presume ppl would know what that meant, i wasnt seriously angry just annoyed. People i asked your opinion not to be insulted or made to feel like shit. Thanks for all your help those who were actually helpful whether you agreed with me or not i did take some that werent offensive into account.
Insulting people or being mean is childsplay and tbh i cant be bothered with it, i didnt insult anyone but managed to be called dim,and have the piss taken out of me. Perhaps some of you should look up advice, its not being mean or making people feel small, its giving your opinion of the situation, not of the person. Thanks for your insults.
Thanks to those who genuinely helped, for your help.
I shall not be asking for your advice on a minor situation again as it gets thrown out of proportion on here, thought everyone would be welcome to have their say on here no matter how big or small, but it would seem that is not so, it has to be a major problem i suppose for people to be nice to you or take you seriously. Just remember if the ones who have been unreasonable need advice on something quite small, if you see my name pop up and i dont insult you or take the piss out of you no matter how small the issue may be, then maybe you will think about what you said and feel that maybe, just maybe, you were out of order.

kungfupannda Mon 06-Jun-11 15:19:01

"I am having massive problems telling the difference between one AIBU thread and another at the moment.

They all seem to go like this:

OP: AIBU?
Everyone else: Unanimous YABU.
One poster: YANBU. Everyone else here is a bitch.
OP: I am not being unreasonable. Wah. [stamp]
One poster: Ignore the bitches - they are all sad and lonely. I would leave MN if I were you - that is what I am going to do.
OP: I am new here and you are all horrible. [flounce]"

And there she goes...

for the record i am not put off from being on here. It would take alot to put me off from being on here have just learnt that i cant voice my opinion on here unless i am following everyone else, theres a hierarchy on here i get it, if you're a newbie then you get a pasting fair enough, thanks for the pasting it was fun. I dont feel stupid and i dont feel put off, as the majority of people on here can be very nice. Hester and i agreed to disagree on another post and that was that, so i will go about my business i shall still be on here doing what i want to do, apart from posting any AIBU