to be annoyed with a 'friend' of mine?

[jobo84]

Today my car was in the garage, the one day it has decided to rain in the past god knows how long. Anyway, my daughter had to go to nursery today, roughly 2 miles away(4 miles there and back), my 8yo wasnt in school today so had her with me too.
Anyway my neighbour (and a friend i thought) 2 doors down, her son goes to the same nursery, she knew i had no car this morning saw me leaving my house and just drove off, in her 7 seater with only 3 seats taken up, she could have offered to take my daughter in as i have taken her son in for her before, babysat etc. Friends are meant to help each other out, but it would seem she isnt the friend i thought she was. It was really chucking it down and everyone knows that you can't hold an umbrella and push a pushchair with handles not a bar.
AIBU to be annoyed by this?
I know my daughter is not her responsibility, but if i had seen her walking in the rain with her baby and son, i would have offered. I have done it before for her.
My husband would have driven us or lent me his car but had to go away on business today and left at the crack of dawn.
I was soaked, ruined my make up lol, and my kids were drenched too, obv not baby as he had raincover.
So AIBU? haven't said anything to her as wanted to know if i would be in the wrong.

YABU - you do things for others and are annoyed when they do not reciprocate - it is your expectations which are causing you upset. Next time, ask.

jobo84 "got to go" - Do you need a lift?

Do you have some other issues with this woman? You seem to be over-reacting a bit.

She probably thought there was some particular reason why you were walking as you didn't ask her for a lift - maybe she thought you had an appointment or that you were picking the car up on the way or something.

Stealth brag from Pagwatch there about being in Spain last night.

You fucking bragger McBraggington, Pag.

Unfortunately Jobo, I've read the thread and the only thing I can see is that you are being a completely self absorbed twit about this.

Get a grip. Shit like this does not matter.

So you got a bit wet? So fucking what? No-one offered me a lift this morning. I got a bit wet as well. But I don't come moaning on here, post after post about it.

Braggy braggworth of the Spanish Bragworths.

Jobo according to my plethora of friends I'm a nice person - but I wouldn't stop to give you a lift - you sound like Glenn Close (as in Bunny Boiler).

I bet you were there with your DH and model children. How dare you?

i dont think she was over reacting to the neighbour just some of the blunt replies lol but i guess by the time you reach my age you get a tough hide . i remember time and time again when i was younger being upset and surprised when people fell below my own expectations now i expect bugger all and rarely get bugger all but hey i think if i do have someone be so kind its a bonus and i recipricate and show my thanks in appropriate ways so just say something polite like were you ok this morning it was raining and you zipped off in the RAIN making it obvious IYSWIM

The rain in Spain falls mainly on Jobo

@ Bunny Boiler my households like the one in outnumbered and my neighbour's are "perfect" mine come out in a mess fighting ect hers are all dressed like they stepped out of s debenhams uniform shop window , mine scream the house down , make a awful noise on the trampoline or in the pool hers play as if like stealth i find it rather odd.

Jobo I really don't understand why you seem so keen to think the worst of your friend. Yes, it's possible that she is a 'two faced cow' but, given that your experience of her so far is that she's a nice person, why not give her the benefit of the doubt and assume that - for some reason (which none of us know, not even you) - on this one occasion she slipped up?

Personally, I prefer to think that my friends are genuine friends but fallible (much like me, in fact) than worry that they're all two-faced bitches. What I think will have no impact on how they're going to behave in any case, but it makes me feel a lot better about myself to believe that they're real friends/nice people.

Sorry I know this is not helpful and the OP is new but I am helpless at "fifi25 thank you for understanding me, obv maybe other people haven't been through this."

Oh woe is the OP! What an ordeal!

Why didn't you text or call her when you got up this morning and ask? I've had people bad mouth me when I've not offered a lift, but unless they ask me then why should I always have to offered to be told no?

Jobo - I agree. She clearly saw you and therefore you have every right to be miffed. Clearly, you are one of the 'nice' people in life that are very thoughtful and consider others.

This whole thread is making my blood boil. You are being made to look 'dim' and 'pathetic' for feeling a bit hurt that she didn't consider you in the way you would her and probably everyone else.

There is NOTHING wrong with managing to be able to think of others amidst your busy routine. It is a shame not everyones capable of doing it (Cue a million mothers describing their daily routine with their 15 kids and how they can't possibly think of anything else! We've all got busy lives. Christ people without kids have bloody busy lives.)

I wouldn't bother mentioning it to her. Just understand that not everyone is as nice/thoughtful a you.

Another note to point out is that this site contains a lot of know it all over bearing people (not ALL but some) So don't expect anything short of complete rudeness if your opinion happens to differ from theirs.

I spy with my little eye something beginning with 'sock'... and ending in 'puppet'

Obviously she hates you and was chuckling to herself as she let you trudge through the rain. Did she whizz through a puddle and soak you too?

Seriously, let it go. Ask for a lift next time (given her son manageag to ay hello to your dd I don't understand the lack of opportunity). Also, I often don't recognise people on the pavement because I am focussing on the road etc ahead. As I should be. Well, that and trying to listen to 3 children spouting drivel at me.

Is does seem to have been a somewhat traumatic experience for the OP.

Perhaps it's the rain, maybe she's just moved from a desert?

When you've spent ten years on the west coast of Scotland, you're amazed when it's not raining

Op hope this hasnt put you off posting if you need any serious help with the kids and dont post in AIBU.

Just remember some of the people on here are just faceless twats hanging around to chuck insults.

Oh, I'm crap at I Spy, KateM... it is stroller?

I'm not sure about this jobjo but I don't think your friend would deliberately want to be mean to you. Has she shown any signs in the past of being nasty or a bitch ? If not then I think you should just give her the benefit of the doubt and see it as maybe she just didn't think at the time.
Next time you want anything just ask her.

And some of those faceless twats hurling insults about are called Fifi :o

wha wha wha toucha

FFS is this still going on?!

OP, several posters have given different senarios as to what could have happend this morning, you seem hellbent on ignoring them and coming to your own conclusion thats shes a 2 faced cow - nice. You're either friends and you give her the benefit of the doubt or your not - either way, get a grip and move on.