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Original poster

To think my kids do not need to be quiet on their holiday?

171 replies

Knackeredmother · 04/06/2011 21:27

we have just arrived in a quite posh resort in Cornwall. It's all lodges with lots of families, with the lodges all quite close together.
Our lodge (as are many others) is semi detatched and each lodge has a terrace with a barbecue.
Lots of kids playing, people chilling on the terraces. My two were on our terrace laughing and screaming and generally being excited about being on holiday. I generally let them stay up late on holiday.
At 9pm the mother from next door came and knocked on our patio door and demanded I keep my kids quiet as she was trying to get her 3 asleep. I must add my husband was lolling around half naked in the living room so all a bit embarrassing.
Anyway, I only half heartedly apologised as I thought we were not making excessive noise, it was only 9pm, lots of other kids out, we are on HOLIDAY and if she needed guaranteed peace she should have rented a detached house somewhere isolated.
So, there is likely to be further issues as our lodges share a terrace and my dc will want to play out there at night up until about 9pm and we will probably want to have a barbecue out there one night.
So, should I keep my kids (and us!) inside after about 8 or tell her she is being unreasonable if another complaint is forthcoming?

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MissFenella · 04/06/2011 21:28

YANBU

TidyDancer · 04/06/2011 21:29

I think you should stop them from screaming. Other than that, extra noise on holiday is to be expected.

Sirzy · 04/06/2011 21:30

I think by that time you should be making some effort to keep them a bit quieter. Just because you are happy for your children to stay up later doesn't mean other parents are.

She can't expect silence of course but I don't think its unfair to expect things to go a bit quieter.

SoupDragon · 04/06/2011 21:32

I think allowing your chidren to scream at 9pm is unacceptable.

lukewarmmama · 04/06/2011 21:33

If your kids are old enough to stay up till gone 9, then aren't they old enough to appreciate the needs of others and keep the noise down a bit? Or are you on holiday from manners as well?

BluddyMoFo · 04/06/2011 21:33

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hocuspontas · 04/06/2011 21:33

It depends. If you don't want her children screaming and laughing on the terrace at 6 am tomorrow morning then some sort of compromise is probably needed Grin

clemetteattlee · 04/06/2011 21:33

My two are not allowed to scream in our garden ... In the daytime...

Grabaspoon · 04/06/2011 21:35

I don't allow my children to scream as it really is an annoying sound other than general chattering

bruxeur · 04/06/2011 21:35

YABU. No manners. Ugh.

WhoAteMySnickers · 04/06/2011 21:36

Screaming, ugh, goes thru me. YABU.

bemybebe · 04/06/2011 21:37

yabu
screaming at 9pm is not on, sorry

expatinscotland · 04/06/2011 21:37

Must not be that posh. The last one we stayed in had strict rules about noise like that after 9PM and staff patrols in place.

ruddynorah · 04/06/2011 21:38

yabu. if i were next to you i'd then let my toddlers scream about the place from when they got up at 6.30am. except i wouldn't, because i'm considerate.

thumbwitch · 04/06/2011 21:38

With the others - no screaming after about 7pm. Or at all in fact - it's very unpleasant. I don't allow DS to scream at all - unless he's actually being murdered, in which case, fine - he's welcome to scream as much as he can.

Adversecamber · 04/06/2011 21:39

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beesimo · 04/06/2011 21:39

I think there will be trouble ahead simply because you may want different style hols.

OP are you up late and rise late and chill out so you get going mid morn to 11 pm

They may be go to bed early rise early very active during day and DC in bed early so as not to be tired to get most out of next day

Neither is wrong but I think you need to pop round and chat with other parents or your all going to have a horrible moaning/groaning hol. You may need to swop chalets

MissJanuary · 04/06/2011 21:39

YANBU, When i've been on holiday in a lodge park rules were no noise after 11:00pm, as their open air entertaintment finished at that time.

Like you say its holidays, everyone is excited and up later than normal.

Ps, my 2 year old managed to fall asleep with the loud open air music no problem.

shirleyshortcut · 04/06/2011 21:40

i cant abide kids that screech , especially when you are trying to sit down for a relaxing glass of wine

no need for them to be noisy, id be a bit irritated too

gapants · 04/06/2011 21:41

screaming- hell no! YABU.

feel the same as buddyflo if she was trying to get her kids to settle, then a bit of quiet for 20mins would not have been UR.

Original poster
Knackeredmother · 04/06/2011 21:41

Well, screaming probably a bit of an exaggeration but definitely loud laughter. I have brought them inside as soon as she 'complained' but still think why should my dc be restricted by this woman's dc's bedtime?
I won't be complaining if her dc's are up at 6 am and making a noise because I respect her right to let her dc get up early.
There are also lots of children making just as much noise around the holiday park just not in the lodge attached to hers.
Ummmm, I'm still prepared to be persuaded IABU though.

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Sirzy · 04/06/2011 21:41

Just because your two year old does doesn't mean others do though MissJanuary.

DS is 18 months and wont fall asleep without a battle unless it is pretty quiet. We are going on holiday next week and I certainly wouldn't be impressed if we had to put up with screaming at 9pm!!

meditrina · 04/06/2011 21:41

You've just arrived. Tomorrow, you children will have many happy hours of shrieking during daylight.

There's no reason for them to come in at 8, just get them to turn the volume down.

Please don't wreck it for another family by ruining their chance of sleep.

CornishKK · 04/06/2011 21:42

YABU. You know what? The other mother is also on HOLIDAY. What Lukewarmmamma said.

clemetteattlee · 04/06/2011 21:43

Lol, I don't "let" my two get up at 6. I simply have no choice...

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