To think my kids do not need to be quiet on their holiday?

[Knackeredmother]

we have just arrived in a quite posh resort in Cornwall. It's all lodges with lots of families, with the lodges all quite close together.
Our lodge (as are many others) is semi detatched and each lodge has a terrace with a barbecue.
Lots of kids playing, people chilling on the terraces. My two were on our terrace laughing and screaming and generally being excited about being on holiday. I generally let them stay up late on holiday.
At 9pm the mother from next door came and knocked on our patio door and demanded I keep my kids quiet as she was trying to get her 3 asleep. I must add my husband was lolling around half naked in the living room so all a bit embarrassing.
Anyway, I only half heartedly apologised as I thought we were not making excessive noise, it was only 9pm, lots of other kids out, we are on HOLIDAY and if she needed guaranteed peace she should have rented a detached house somewhere isolated.
So, there is likely to be further issues as our lodges share a terrace and my dc will want to play out there at night up until about 9pm and we will probably want to have a barbecue out there one night.
So, should I keep my kids (and us!) inside after about 8 or tell her she is being unreasonable if another complaint is forthcoming?

If they are the screaming/noisy types maybe take them over the fields or play area away from the lodges after 8. If it's your own children you tend to shut out the noise to a certain degree but to other people it's excruciating painful.

YABU.

I generally don't stay anywhere attached as far as self-catering holidays go for this reason. It's bad enough living in a flat, much less putting up with inconsideration on holiday as well.

We generally find a detached lodge or caravan or a cottage in the sticks.

knackeredmum your post read as very lose-lose, yours stay up late and are noisy on the terrace, your neighbour gets hers up early and are noisy and you are disturbed.

Better to have some common sense, take kids off the terrace to play in the eve, find out your neighbours bedtimes/routines, share yours, work around that together a bit. win-win.

YABU. I think letting your children scream at that time of night is thoughtless.

Sirzy, i appreciate what your saying and in that case you would need a very quiet holiday that allowed that. Her kids were excitable, thats all. You can't expect everyone in the holiday park to be quiet the minute your young kids go to bed.

Holiday parks I refer to are in France where later bedtimes are more the norm as the kids, even up to 6/7 years still have a midafternoon nap, and therefore are ready to stay up later.

'why should my dc be restricted by this woman's dc's bedtime?'

Why should her children's sleep be disrupted and she have a horrible stressful evening, on her holiday, because you think it's acceptable for your DC to make a load of noise at 9 o'clock at night? OK, you're in a semi detatched property, but that doesn't mean that she should put up and shut up, it means you both have to be considerate of the other person.

Frankly you're lucky you're not holidaying next to me. I can't bear anti-social neighbours and if I was having to holiday next to one I'd be far too angry to simply step next door and ask you to tone it down. I would shout. And then I would blast music at you from 5am, which is when my DS gets up... And as we'd be on holiday, why should my DC be restricted by your bedtime?

yabu.....oisy children are just horrible,dont spoil them or the teen years will be HELL!!

YABU - how rude to let your children make as much noise as they like at 9pm. Might be a good idea to teach your children a little respect for others.

It sounded more me-me, tbh. ME on holiday why ME have to do stuff. Of course no-one else in resort is on holiday, they are all automatons or actors to provide context for ME holiday.

Psychiatrists call this derealisation.

YABU.

Yes, it is a holiday and yes, people are more relaxed. But, you are still in a holiday resort community. You and your boys need to be good and reasonably considerate citizens of that shared community - just as you would at any other time, on holiday or not.

YABVU, and very self centred. What snuffletruffle said.

Being on holiday is not an excuse to be selfish and allow your children to behave like animals. Screaming and shouting at 9pm is rude. If you want to be able to behave like this YOU should stay somewhere remote and isolated.

Can't bear it when my own children scream during daylight hours, in fact I will take them inside if necessary to prevent my neighbours suffering (whatever the time of day). If I were you, I would get kids into bed at normal time, open a bottle of wine, and enjoy the peace! YABU

Playing on the terrace at 9pm is fine. Screaming at 9pm isn't.

YABU. And selfish.

I spose its just common courtesy and consideration for others isnt it.

How old are your kids? (if they are little, fair enough they dont have much restraint, but if they are older, then they need to be told)
Could you not tell them that they must be quiet and explain why? Would they not understand?

You can still have a great time, but just not a noisy great time, a respectful great time.

Well I think the general concensus is that I've been unreasonable. I am however quite a reasonable and nice person and willing to admit when I'm wrong( although I think I have misled with the word 'screaming' but I concede they were playing loudly.)
I shall apologise properly to the mother in the morning and keep my kids inside after 8. It's unfortunate that my dc are night owls and never sleep at normal times. They both seem to not get tired until at least 9 ( both preschool so works for us).
However, like I said I wouldn't dream of complaining if her dc are noisy at 6am but I shall say sorry in the morning.

well put bruxeur.

KnackeredMother what are the holiday parks official written rules re noise pollution? There's normally a stipulated cut off point, have you checked at reception?

Depends on your interpretation of the noise level.
Playing outside at 9pm is fine
Screaming is a PITA if you have younger children
I know you are on holiday but same rules apply -if you don't want to put up with those rules get yourself a detached holiday home.
Hope you enjoy rest of you hols

But you don't need to keep them indoors. It's lovely and light till after 9. Why don't you all go for walks to the park/beach etc and be as noisy as you want?

knackered that sounds good. Could you keep them off the terrace and play a bit further afield but within sight?

She might just need half an hour to get hers in bed, then after that like most kids would sleep through an atomic bomb.