To think my kids do not need to be quiet on their holiday?

[Knackeredmother]

we have just arrived in a quite posh resort in Cornwall. It's all lodges with lots of families, with the lodges all quite close together.
Our lodge (as are many others) is semi detatched and each lodge has a terrace with a barbecue.
Lots of kids playing, people chilling on the terraces. My two were on our terrace laughing and screaming and generally being excited about being on holiday. I generally let them stay up late on holiday.
At 9pm the mother from next door came and knocked on our patio door and demanded I keep my kids quiet as she was trying to get her 3 asleep. I must add my husband was lolling around half naked in the living room so all a bit embarrassing.
Anyway, I only half heartedly apologised as I thought we were not making excessive noise, it was only 9pm, lots of other kids out, we are on HOLIDAY and if she needed guaranteed peace she should have rented a detached house somewhere isolated.
So, there is likely to be further issues as our lodges share a terrace and my dc will want to play out there at night up until about 9pm and we will probably want to have a barbecue out there one night.
So, should I keep my kids (and us!) inside after about 8 or tell her she is being unreasonable if another complaint is forthcoming?

i have to say this would be my holiday from hell!
my tow girls always get up at 6.30, even if they go to bed at 9pm! if they had been kept up by screaming kids till stupid o clock they would be tired and grumpy and not enjoy their holiday as much.
if you want your kids to stay up late then thats fine, its not, in my opinion, ok to completely disrespect other people around you and allow the kids to make as much noise as they like.
do the other holiday makers not deseve a holiday they can enjoy as well as you? if i had to listen to screaming kids all evening i wouldnt enjoy myself at all! how is that a nice holiday?!
showing respect and consideration to those around you doesnt stop on holiday.
what if they decide they reeeeeally enjoy drilling, or woodwork, or drum and bass at 5am? would you agree they have a right to enjoy their holiday as they wish too? i doubt it.

ooh didnt read rest of the 7 pages! sorry!

op, where are you on holiday and how old are your kids?

YANBU. Sometimes when kids are having fun, like on holiday, a scream sort of jumps out.

Having said that, screaming after 9pm would annoy me, its like a watershed isn't it.

Take the request for your kids to pipe down with grace, enjoy your holiday.

I'm glad you have sorted it out. I do think children should be encouraged to be considerate and not disturb others by screaming though. Hope you enjoy your holiday.

I love the sound of lodges!
What company is the park with?

Fifi - what would you do if someone knocked on your chalet/caravan/whatever door and asked you to get your children to be a bit quieter as they were trying to get their kids to sleep/had a headache/whatever?

I would go out David

Fair enough - thanks.

laughing is ok

screaming is never ok

nor is high-pitched shouting

you don't need to keep your kids inside - but you do need to teach them to respect other people by not being screechy

David. I was joking i probably would if i had picked a holiday and wanted peace and quiet. I think its a bit unreasonable to got to a Holiday Park without checking the noise restrictions then telling people to shut up.

For example. I am going to Park Resorts in August. I have 3 kids and we like to stay up later than usual on Holiday. There are a few of us going. Sometimes we have BBQ or go to the club house. There is noise up till 12am with people coming back from the club house. I have checked the noise restrictions and picked a park to suit us. If people are going to this resort and are expecting no noise after 9pm its probably not going to happen.

Obviously i wouldnt let my kids scream, just make normal kid noises, laughing etc

here are the restrictions

www.greatstone.net/romneysandsowners/park_rules.htm

Bloody hell sorry david wrong park ha ha i will try and find them

Fwiw I agree with the op, most places have restrictions after ten.

Bluebells I've stayed here before and we all loved it www.naturalretreats.co.uk/. No problems with neighbours as everyone is a reasonable distance apart.

Don't worry about it, Fifi - I'll take your word for it.

David

This is all it says in t&c's

Unreasonable behaviour
For the convenience of our guests, we reserve the right to terminate the party's holiday without compensation or refund, where the unreasonable behaviour of the persons in the holiday party might impair the enjoyment, comfort or health of other guests, our team members or staff. This may include but is not limited to verbal or physical abuse, and will be up to the management's discretion.

And this is how the park is described

Cayton Bay
Cayton Bay is another holiday park set in the breathtaking countryside of the North of England. Near to the popular seaside resort of Scarborough, Cayton Bay is less well known for its fair as for being a simply brilliant family holiday park in North Yorkshire, owned and run by Hoseasons. Cayton Bay has something for everyone, and proves itself ideal for a great family holiday with the beach just nearby, and the superb indoor waterworld, guaranteed to get the kids excited with the fountains, flume and slide. There?s an all weather sports court too, which means competitive fun and games for those that are up for the challenge. If you?ve got kids then Sparky?s Krew will keep them well entertained with a range of activities for 5 -11 years olds, and from May to August there?s ?The Mix? for the older kids.
The Boathouse Restaurant, serves delicious meals and makes for a great place to start the evening which will be packed full of entertainment till bedtime; enjoy the dancing, competitions, shows and featured cabaret at the Oasis showbar.

I have never been to Park but would imagine its a bit like Haven. The Evening entertainment would start at about 6 through till midnight. People were going out and coming in all through the night. You sometimes hear kids laughing and parents talking whilst you are in your caravan. If you have a caravan near the the club house i would imagine its quite noisy. Kids usually play outside while their parents are getting ready.

I dont think you would choose this holiday if you thought you were wanting peace and quiet.

This is the type of holiday i would choose. I would not choose the following holiday

www.sunhavenvalley.com/

If i did it would be because i wanted peace and quiet and would certainly be quiet at 9pm.

I dont think you can really say the op is being reasonable or unreasonable. No one knows where she is. I probably shouldnt have said she was being reasonable as i dont know where she is.

So my answer David is no i probably wouldnt tell the kids to shut up on my holiday but i would if i was on the 2nd holiday.

Fifi - are there any circumstances under which you'd ask your children to keep the noise down a bit, even if it was earlier in the evening?

David yes there are

That is all I have been trying to get at, all this time, Fifi.

The question you have asked me repeatedly is would i ask my kids to be quiet. Its not a question i can really give a yes or no answer to. I would be lying if i said yes i would always ask my kids to be quiet if someone asked me to. It depends on the situation i.e, what time it is, where we are, if i think its reasonable for someone to ask me to keep them quiet. Can you see what i am saying. I would be lying if i said yes David if someone asked me to keep the kids quiet of course i would. This i what i have been saying david all this time

Screaming is a bit much. I don't like my kids screaming full stop and I think if you want a holiday where they can make as much noise as they like up to 9pm then you should be in the secluded detached property away from everyone else not the other way around. We've been on these types of holidays too and my DS1 loves meeting other kids and playing in and around the lodges, staying up way past his usual bed time but he (at 7 years old) gets that he has to be mindful of other holiday makers staying close by.

No, Fifi - the question I have asked you repeatedly is would you ask your children to be quiet er! I've never said it's reasonable to ask children playing outside (or inside, in fact) to be completely quiet - I have said it is about compromise.

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