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Original poster

Mommy pissy pants

263 replies

katvond · 02/06/2011 19:48

My DH thought it was so funny that instead of my usual towels I picked up tena lady instead by mistake. He now thinks I've a bladder weakness and told DD I'll be wearing nappies soon. Not had a weak bladder since I was pregnant. Silly man.
Luckily I saw the funny of side of it unlike my poor friend who sat there openmouthed.

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TheHumanCatapult · 03/06/2011 21:25

Supercal .
There is no treatment for mine maybe that makes it easier for me to be more open about it .I refuse to hide away or be ashamed of it and If one person who has read this thread feels that they can admit to having a problem that is no bad thing

Op has aplogiesd if she has upset anyone and maybe time to accept that ok maybe not worded great and not to everyone sense of humour but it now has us talking about what people see as taboo

JoySzasz · 03/06/2011 21:26

op because you haven't suffered every day,you are able to make light.

I am almost sure that if you had suffered like so many do,no joke involving incontinence would even raise a small smirk.

libbylobs · 03/06/2011 21:26

this is really getting silly now , i really dont think any one would think it woud end up like this, we all suffer in one way or another so come on girls behave.x

Original poster
katvond · 03/06/2011 21:27

I mean me as in me the person.
I was taking the piss out if me katvond the OP of this thread. Me me me me not ME sufferers.
Understand that I hope :)

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TheHumanCatapult · 03/06/2011 21:27

wicked wendy
she wa snot talking about Myalgic Encephalomyelitis she was talking about me as in herself .
Supercal for me I use a SCI board where we discuss and yes joke about things that may make peoples eyebrows go up .

I am just saying that it is no bad thing that people are now talking about it

TheHumanCatapult · 03/06/2011 21:29

joy

You are wrong .Go on any SCI board and the jokes flying around about it .Well you be suprised not to say it is not tackled senstive in there when needed but you do learn to laugh about it

wickedwendy1 · 03/06/2011 21:29

TheHumanCatapult

Fair point. It was because the 'me' was in capitals. I do take on board your comments, though.

Original poster
katvond · 03/06/2011 21:29

Sorry Joy but I know me better than anyone and if I suffered every day even though it would be a pain I'd still smile about as that's me. We all act differently me I take the Mickey out of myself as I stated before it works for me.

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Sqee · 03/06/2011 21:30

I agree. People seem to be taking their deep seeded issues out on OP and believe it or not that is way worse than anything she has posted. Stop attacking her moral judgment and judging her because of a silly AIBU thread that was never meant to cause offence.

I'm sorry but it's bloody crazy the things she is being accused of! Get a grip.

libbylobs · 03/06/2011 21:33

if you dont have a laugh at yourself who willif i didnt god help me.x

libbylobs · 03/06/2011 21:36

sqee
i have agreed with everything you have said you go girl. and thats from an old woman of 46.x

JoySzasz · 03/06/2011 21:36

OP just saw you said sorry.

Maybe because your DH used such a lighthearted comment, I assumed it could never have been that serious.

Sorry.

Original poster
katvond · 03/06/2011 21:43

Thanks Joy :)

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onceamai · 03/06/2011 21:45

Katvond let me explain something. Posterior labour although not a dreadful birth which resulted in a prolapsed bladder. No point having it repaired between babies and it took three and a half years and not one more pregnancy to get there. Tena on a daily basis, no close fitting jeans, no nice trousers for four and a half years. The tests were invasive, the exercises and detailed and intimate instructions for three months to see if there could be an improvement were gruelling. The surgery was not simple - it was done nine years ago and is likely to need to be done again in the next five or so years. I am still not quite 50 and after two repairs - one so far (which last about 10 - 15 years) the scar tissue starts to build up so a long term permanent solution becomes unlikely. Are you still laughing I hope not because this wasn't a laughing matter; it wasn't funny, it wasn't dignified and it cannot be compared to a bit of pregnancy incontinence.

I am a successful immaculate woman, nobody would guess and I was lucky enough to have the private medical insurance to get the best possible treatment. Many are not so fortunate and it is, my darling, utterly miserable to be in that situation.

TheHumanCatapult · 03/06/2011 21:50

Ocean

no matter how or when or how long or even the one time .to each person it is a hard thing to deal with so talking about it on a thread where more people read it is good .

Op has explained that laughing at herself is her way of dealing with it .And i am the same I laugh at myself.Hell on FB I ahd list going of the advantages of being in a wheelchair .Becuase that is How i deal with things

libbylobs · 03/06/2011 21:53

come on no one exspected any of this from what katvond said , give her a break for god sake and yes i no what you onceamai are going through and i am so sorry , but just leave her alone its out of order

TheHumanCatapult · 03/06/2011 21:53

Katvind i wear slim fit jeans , and trousers you would never know .Yes it is hard but people need to realise that you do not need to be miserable you can cope you can deal with it you can live with it .

And as I keep saying anything that raises the profile of incontinence is good and gets people talking about it .

TheHumanCatapult · 03/06/2011 21:55

Ocean see my posts .I could well live in misery but i refuse to and by me being open about it on here well I hope it makes somebody feel a bit bette r,less alone less worried about admitting it so be it ..

Sqee · 03/06/2011 21:55

Human and libbylobs may I just say what kind, patient and understanding women you both are. You are a credit to yourselves. :)

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katvond · 03/06/2011 21:57

Yes they are sqee :)

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TheHumanCatapult · 03/06/2011 21:58

sqee

I just hate the thoought that people are so embarrsed by it that they will not talk about it ,seek help so profile rasing is good ( yup is bit of crusade for me ) .Many Will not realise that there are lots of options out there .For some that may mean surgery to help ,for others it may mean wearing Pads or using a catheter .I just want people to realise it does not mean the end of things

libbylobs · 03/06/2011 22:00

hi guys i just believe what you are saying is right you go girls.x

supercal · 03/06/2011 22:01

THC, if it's such a crusade for you, why haven't you started your own thread on MN? A proper thread for proper support.

onceamai · 03/06/2011 22:02

I quite agree talking about it helps and so does smiling every day and never complaining in real life. Taking the mickey and laughing at the expense of others is never funny. This is a sensitive subject and needs to be handled and discussed with understanding - not a tee hee "mommy pissy pants" attitude. I'm sorry but the OP's original post was vile - she may have been taking the piss out of herself but it was in a way that failed to comprehend what women who actually need Tena for significant physical reasons go through on a daily basis and continue to lead normal lives. I am glad the OP has said sorry and I am glad that if by posting she might have realised that it is very unkind to have a laugh at the expense of those who are not as fortunate as oneself.

libbylobs · 03/06/2011 22:04

sqee
keep up with that crusade i believe there is always a light at the end of the tunnel and i no i will find mine
thanks girls.x