Mommy pissy pants

[katvond]

My DH thought it was so funny that instead of my usual towels I picked up tena lady instead by mistake. He now thinks I've a bladder weakness and told DD I'll be wearing nappies soon. Not had a weak bladder since I was pregnant. Silly man.
Luckily I saw the funny of side of it unlike my poor friend who sat there openmouthed.

I said that title as that's what DH called me. Yes it made me laugh. I'd rather be like that then have to hide a condition from my DH.

But here you are taking the piss out of incontinence sufferers - by making light of it. "mommy piss pants" fgs. If it was your private joke - fair enough - why broadcast it to an audience where many people reading this are highly likely to be suffering from it - to a greater extent than yourself?

mum765

I know it is hard when you have continence issues but please do not feel that you ahve to stay indoors .You can go out and do normal things and have a life.

Ok I do not go round in public admitting that I suffer with double incontinence but if someone wants to ask questions or is worried about it .I much rather they realise they are not alone and that life does not have to stop

Yes they are not alone and millions of women suffer from it, it's nothing to be ashamed about, I'm certainly not ashamed to have had it. It's life FFS theres worse things out there than bladder weakness.
I'm not a nasty cruel person so don't make me out to be one as I chose to laugh at something I suffer from.

its opened up a discussion , so people like us who are suffering from it can at least talk. i suffer and i dont for one min think shes taking the mickey i have been able to tell someone and feel relieved i have.x

Katvond - with respect, it's not a condition you suffer from any more, is it?

There is a massive difference IMO between incontinence in pregnancy (common, arguably socially acceptable), and permanent incontinence (far less common & not socially acceptable).

I'm not saying you were wrong to have a laugh about it, just that you can't very well justify it as a coping mechanism for suffering with incontinence as you are not suffering from incontinence. It is easy to laugh about something in hindsight that doesn't affect your day-to-day life any more.

Get a life FFS I'm not taking the piss out of incontinence sufferers. If I'd never suffered from it and knew fuck all about it then yes you could say that but I'm a sufferer. Get it?

Sharing an amusing incident that happened at home involving a mix up with incontinence pads = Light hearted innocent banter that was never intended to offend.

Comparing incontinence to cancer = Disgusting IMO

and for the record this thread actually got me talking about suffering with incontinence with another young woman which I have never been able to do before.

Supercal yes it is I do get it occasionally still. I said that.

So I'm confused here. You say you picked up tena pads by mistake and don't have a bladder problem. Now you're saying you do have a condition which you don't want to hide from your dh? Which he laughed at, and you're happy about. Bizarre.

It was never intended to offend. Light hearted banter.

Supercal.

I have permant double incontinence due to a Spinal cord injury and I was scared becuase I did not know anyo9ne else who admitted to it or even slight incontinence .As it is not something that people discuss other than in senstive areas almost like it is something dirty .No it is not nice to suffer with .

But If It has mad eone person feel less alone .Then I do not care how it was started .

hey now settle down , its a discussion that may help some one me included. im 46 and hav it quite bad but im not getting mad about it come on girls at least we are talking about it.x

Mum765 please do not feel like you need to stya home there are other ways around it .Do not let it stop you living your life

I wouldn't say weeing yourself if you get the occasional fit of the giggles is an incontinence problem per se^. That's pretty common. Incontinence has to be more regular than that to be regarded as a medical problem.

libbylobs :)

I brought Tena as a mistake I'm on my period so brought the wrong things, that's when DH and me laughed about it. He's knows I'm on my period so was worried about the Tena thinking my bladder problem
had come back.
It's only a occasional problem it doesn't affect my life but it happens.
I've said all I have to say to defend my actions. If you don't like a thread or it offends you ignore it.

to human catapult
i also have had 2 micro disectomys so i do no how you feel but thats no ones problem but mine you dont think about everything when you are writing , i am so sorry about your injury.x

yes exactly Libby and it is in main forum so profile is raised .Oh and for the record I am 37 and 4 months ago I had no problems of any kind health wise .And sometimes it is better to laugh than to cry and keep crying .

I do not often go over to health so would not even know there is a thread and if just one person by reading this and some of the replys seeks help or feels better that they ar enot alone .Well then good.

It is one of the taboo subjects that no one likes to talk about or even discuss .I would say I stand up proudly and admit it .But since can not stand I will sit and say it .

Mum765 please ask for advice from a continence nurse .do not let it take over your life .If you was to see me in the street you would not know that I am incontinent

Supercal it doesn't matter if it's an everyday or an occasional problem. It's still makes you feel ashamed about it. When it 1st happened when I was pregnant I was mortified. That's when me and DH starting make light about it, let's laugh about it ratter than be ashamed, and he was right.

Human - have a look at the thread on general health.

Bloody hell, this is one of those threads isn't it? Where you read the light-hearted OP and the next few posts and then think it'll fade away until suddenly there it is again with loads of replies and an almighty row is going on.

But it's good to see that an important issue is being discussed. I'm sorry for the OP though. It might have been better in Chat, but I've seen some Chat threads turn odd of late too.

I bought tena lady by mistake once while pregnant and blessed the day. My waters broke. And broke and broke and broke and broke before labour started. They were really useful because I could blithely walk around the hospital for hours. They were very uncomfortable though (hot day too) and I have a great deal of sympathy for anyone who suffers.

Sadly labour was fucking painful with no amniotic fluid left as I could feel every bone in DS' body as my uterus contracted around him and I'm not allowed more than a junior disprin entonox for medical reasons. Is there a name for that sort of labour other than "never again" I wonder?

Humans right mum it's better to talk about it then not.
Yes I may of offended you and I'm so sorry if I did, I do mean that. We all react to things in a different way,mines making light of it and laughing about it. It works for us :)

mum765

I can not see the thread have looked at first 5 pages .

Hence why I said it is good to see it where others go people being open about it

It doesn't matter if incontinence an everyday or occasional problem? Er, it fucking does!! Sorry, katvonds - but that is the first thing you've said that I have actually found offensive.