to be completely shocked by what the MW did today and make a complaint?

[Bogeyface]

So she comes round and does the sweep and then takes her gloves off and goes into the kitchen to, I assume, put them in the bin.

She said "oh I cant see your bin so I'll just leave them here..."

Here, as I discovered after she left, was the top shelf/basket of my dishwasher that i was halfway through loading when she arrived. No, I am not joking, yes, she really did leave gloves that had been inside my vagina IN my dishwasher.

AIBU to make a complaint about her through PALS? Especially as this comes on the back of several other issues including her not returning urgent calls, not turning up for appointments and getting my notes wrong.

I have a friend who is a local HV and she says that this particular MW is v unpopular amongst them too and they want someone to make a complaint as otherwise nothing will change.

Logical as in it was open with dirty stuff in and its by the sink.... though I wouldn't think it logical if she'd opened the door and put it in. I'm not sure I 'get' why it would be so hard to tell her where the bin was.

Each to their own yoshi, I might do a survey of my non-horsey friends and see if there's a general ick response. If so, I might reconsider my habits! (although probably won't get many visitors if the consensus is with you!)

Get over it! I would just laugh! Make a complaint? Eh, no.

How exciting! The baby not the fanjo/gloves/dishwasher thingy.

Hurrray! Hurry up and have your baby I am so jealous. I want 6 but we have just stopped at 5

I saw a poor lady at the hospital today. I was waiting to in for my appt and she was sat there all upset and in pain. I wanted to hug her (but didnt). I did ask if she was ok and the poor thing had been in labour for 3 days with her 1st. She was welling up and I was welling up. I felt so sorry for her.
I saw her on my way out and she was on her way and feeling a little bit better.

So everyone send lovely vibes to the lady at the hospital today please. I think she may start a thread 'aibu that this loon with five kids almost blubed at the sight of me today and kept telling me I would be ok!!!'

Let me know if you see it.

(totally off on a tangent but I have had an emotional day )

I would be very interested to hear the results olderyetwider , - I should probably say at this point that I have a problem with using DH's tea mugs which he takes to work with him - even though I know they have been thoroughly washed, - oh and I never put face towels in the same wash as bath towels (especially my stepsons') so please don't take me too seriously!

< nervous twitch emoticon>

I think we might be opposite ends of the spectrum then yoshi

its going on a boiling hot programme , i wouldnt liked it either but hardly serious she should have just said where can i put these, easily solved .lol at putting all your knickers face towels ect on separate washes f in hell i do 3 loads a day as it is if i did that id never see the light of day from the utillity room. but whatever way you rolls fine were all different . what made me laugh when i told DD14 she said well its not like she put the gloes up your neighbours fanny then came and put them in OUR dishwasher that would be gross

Aldiwhore - even if the dishwasher is open, and full of dirty stuff, I still can't see how it is a logical place to put rubbish. There is no good or logical need for the gloves to be put in the dishwasher - the midwife cannot have thought that the OP was going to wash the gloves. Used gloves like this are rubbish, and you don't put rubbish in the dishwasher - after all, no-one is going to leave the gloves in there - they are just going to have to be taken out again.

Would you really dump a used teabag into an open dishwasher? Or an apple core or biscuit wrapper?

Completely illogical behaviour on the midwife's part. Not to mention disgusting. Wee is sterile and you can bloody drink it if you're so inclined, doesn't mean you'd fling pissy rags in the dishwasher.

I wouldn't complain about it but I would think she was a dirty beggar. Yup I kissed my newborn before they were bathed but that's exceptional circumstances. I assume all the people who think this is fine would be totally OK with their oh's slinging a tied, used condom in the dishwasher if the bin was full

I would be bloody fuming if my DH did that, but that would be because it could block the pipe, break the machine and I would then have to do the washing up by hand not because I think my fanjo juice is radioactive.

she probabaly just thought the dish washer contained a dirty load and didn't want to put them on a clean surface.

i think the notes/calls/appointments are more important and maybe worth mentioning.

good luck with the birth by the way - very exciting!

hmmm... the gloves thing wouldn't bother me - I'd just pick them up and put them in the (elusive) bin. Perhaps the top rack was sticking out being loaded and it was just the nearest surface that was obviously going to be sterilised with hot water in the near future. FWIW, if it was on the work surface, I'd just bung them in the bin and then spray the surface with an anti-bac spray. And I'd wait till i'd had the baby to make any complaint.

OMG have just read and PMSL at this whole thread.

Of course fanjo gloves are discusting when your nesting - they're not miltoned. In fact anything not miltoned when your about to drop is criminal.

Seriously I would have been a bit not as an isolated incident I would have let it go but it seems you've had other issues too.

Sat google eyed at your link to sticky vicky especially as I know my cousins DH stag do was to see her.

Congratulations on your 6th baby (maybe now or still on its way).

Oh this is exciting.

As an aside - after chaos thread I'd be more concerned about acid erosion in my dishwasher than where the gloves have been.

Just a quick update!

Baby Bogey (eww, not a nice name, that needs work!) arrived last night after a rather hellish labour. And I checked and no waste was popped into the dishwasher after the birth so that was a nice bonus :o

Congraulations! Is baby bogey a boy/girl/weight/name - I want details! Sorry that the labour was hellish.

Baby Bogey is a girl with no name atm! She is 7lb 15 oz and seems to be over the labour alot better than me :o She is currently lying in her pram throwing very judgey looks at the part decorated lounge, she is a true MN baby :o

Thanks Belgo :)

Congratulations!!!

Sorry to hear it was a hellish labour :( Worth it though huh!

Glad to hear the dishwasher got through it unscathed. Did you have MissGloves deliver her? What was she like?

How about Baby Face?? It's a slight improvement!?

7lb15oz - good size (once out anyway!!)

You know what she's saying don't you... 'No pebbles & twiggy shit Mum!'

It's lovely to know she's here safe & sound
x

Congratulations.What lovely news to wake up to.Rearange my user name and subtract one letter and you will have a great second name for baby bogey.Lots of love to you and your family. Mx.

Congratulations! :o

Congratulations!

And once you're up and about, don't forget to bitchslap MissGloves with, er, used gloves...

Ooh congratulations, that was fast work! Did you have a home birth?

Oh congratulations.

Sorry the labour was hellish though.

And welcome to the world babygirlbogey.

How lovely to come to this thread and find the news of baby bogey's arrival - I was thinking of you yesterday, BogeyFace, and hoping all was going well. And huge congratulations ................. to the midwife for finding the bin!!

I hope you can lie back and recover from the labour, whilst the baby lies and judges the lounge. If she gets a little restless, perhaps your other half, or one of the other children, could read aloud to her from the AIBU section - set the lass on the right path from the word go!