To think my Mum should offer a little financial help

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If you are struggling to make ends meet and your parents (well just my Mum in my case) know about this do you think they should offer you some kind of financial help if they can? Just wondering everyone's take on this, don't want to go into personal details particularly but it grates just a little bit when my Mum is buying and selling properties and investing lots of money alongside taking a holiday abroad every few months. I told her about a debt situation and she said 'well, our money is all tied up'. This is towards her pension.
I don't expect hand outs but just the odd bit of help would be appreciated.
What do others parents do, if anything?

why do some people feel the need to attack posters with such vitriol?

The OP has come back time and time again on this thread to answer or explain as well as accept some of the criticism. She carries on getting a bashing when it would be just as easy to use a moderate voice to try to convince her of your views.

This thread is filled with cowardly bullying of the worst kind (hidden in anonymity) and as it says at the top of this page - this is not a fight club!

But if the inheritance the OP refers to was one in which she had legal rights and didn't receive them, then she has a valid grievance. But, you have to deal with the circumstances you are given, and it would serve the OP better the long run to learn to manage her limited resources so as to avoid debt. She will probably benefit far more from doing so in the long run than from being bailed out by her mother (which doesn't sound as if its going to happen anyway).

I don't think she sounds like a spoilt brat, quite the opposite in fact. She gets very little from her parents and there are plenty of people who get far more. She sounds simply like someone who can't manage money very well, and she needs to learn how to do so rather than looking for easy escape routes.

I think the op is getting a bit of a battering tbh

No need for name calling really is there?

I will stand by what I say. If I'm in the wrong I'll happily retract what I say, in the case I'll stand my ground.
It's her mothers inheritance not hers. I hope her mom spends the lot as it's her money not the OPs. If she's married the OP stepfather then he's next of kin. Sorry but she's sounds spoilt and many posters agree.

I just hope your children never need any help then ,katvond

Me I will help mine all I can ,and for the record my kids owe me nothing

I'd help my kids, but my kids will be taught not to spend beyond their means, just like I was. If when my kids grow up and can't afford a bill or food of course I'd help it, but the OP isn't asking this, she's admitted she's overspent on cards hidden the fact from DH etc. No way would I fund my kids extravagant lifestyles. Sorry but thats good parenting or you saying my parents are bad parents? As they did it with me and my 2 siblings and we turned out alright.

No I don't think it's fair to expect help, you are a big girl now. Why would you want to worry her with your problems. I think that is selfish.

I never told my Mom(rest in peace) we needed money, didn't want to burden her in anyway.

I agree that the OP has taken quite a battering on here and a couple of posters in particular, have been really nasty.

I think that it is not just the actual money that the OP is annoyed about, just that her mum doesn't seem to care that much about her situation. It also seems a bit tactless to talk about your huge wealth and numerous holidays when you know that someone is struggling. Personally, I would keep quiet and not rub their nose in it.

Also to buy your children stuff when they have their children is lovely and most grandparents-to-be often love to be involved and buy either a cot, or pram or something else. I can't wait to be able to do this with my lot.

If I thought that my child was bit feckless with money and was in debt, then probably giving them cash would not be a good idea, but would definitely help with stuff they needed and be happy to do so. Maybe buying shoes for the children or a weeks supermarket shop here and there.

Maybe I have been lucky, as my mum is lovely and has always been involved in our lives. If I ever needed to ask her for a loan, I am sure that she would help if she could.