to have had an abortion and feel ZERO shame or regret

[GetOrfMoiCase]

In AIBU because it is a popular topic. I know I am not being unreasonable.

Thread is in response to a report I heard on the news yesterday which was shamefully presented, regarding abortion access.

There is a thread on MN currently about it www.mumsnet.com/Talk/womens_rights/1222273-Chipping-away-at-abortion-rights-govt-appoints-Life-as-sexual-health-adviser

Apparently there is a twitter thingummy going around 'I had an abortion' for people to discuss guilt free abortions.

Just thought it would be appropriate to have a thread on here for people put a positive side of abortion.

My story: got pregnant 5 years ago. My dd was 10. I was in a relationship of 6 months duration and had recently started a new job. Condom failure. My partner and I agreed that we didn't want a baby, I booked an abortion and had it without a backward glance. No emotional fall out afterwards. No guilt.

GOML, just wanted to post and say I understand your OP and am glad that you wrote it. It's important that the voices of women with your experience are out there too.

I applaud the opening post and all posters who have supported the sentiment. It took me years to stop feeling uneasy that I had no regrets about having an abortion. Then I moved into ' abortion is a necessary evil in xy z cirmustances' and finally I feel I have matured into my current feeling that a woman's right to value her own body and life above anything else is not a selfish position.

Twenty years ago there was no-one to tell me that I had the right to not feel guilty. The very few people I confided in wanted me to feel shame, guilt and regret. Mumsnet seems to be a place where people can share views that are not otherwise aired openly. Long may that continue.

Oh dear cushie. Are you actually comparing the OP to the man who ordered the slaughter of thousands?

Really?

really

Looks like the crackpot element have arrived.

Thanks BOF, you have more patience than I.

It always happens eventually, Shirley.

Nothing much more to add really, but I've read all this with interest and am in complete agreement with you GOML.

feck, cushie. that's beyond the pale.

yanbu, getorf.

i have no shame. nor have i had for the past 22 years. nor will i have in the future.

i know it's hard for some folk to believe, but there really really are women alive who are at peace with their decision to abort. and other women should acknowledge that without making them feel like (war) criminals.

I think shirly and mad woman need to name change

sorry thats wron cushy and madwoman, doesnt wotk now

Can one not teach those things outside of the men in frocks?

Me namechange? Why?

NEVER! ha!

beesimo - I send you love and think you did indeed do what was right for you and your family

eh?

Exactly, DrG. And to think that these are the people being asked to provide our teenagers with sex education and counsel pregnant women...truly horrifying.

I'm just asking.
Why should we feel shame and regret for anything we've done?
In any case, The excellently named Ratko dodn't kill even come close to snuffing out the number of lives that abortion has.

"Ratko Mladic has been found and arrested for the Srebrenica massacre for which he feels zero shame or regret.
Is he being unreasonable?"

Delete the internets.

Im lost and my typings getting appauling, off to do the dishes

"Exactly, DrG. And to think that these are the people being asked to provide our teenagers with sex education and counsel pregnant women...truly horrifying."

What people?

cushie

what Ratko did was WRONG hence shameful

what GetOrf did WASN'T hence not.

See! Key difference.

Oh hang on, I'm being sucked into loonyland, aren't I.

^"what Ratko did was WRONG hence shameful

what GetOrf did WASN'T hence not.

See! Key difference."^

Oh. So murder is ok if your victim is on the other side of the cervix?
Got it.
Silly me.
Thanks.

No you are NOT being unreasonable.

why does it always go pete tong when i show up?

Oh cushie, cushie, cushie.

If you can't see the difference then I pity you.