to have had an abortion and feel ZERO shame or regret

[GetOrfMoiCase]

In AIBU because it is a popular topic. I know I am not being unreasonable.

Thread is in response to a report I heard on the news yesterday which was shamefully presented, regarding abortion access.

There is a thread on MN currently about it www.mumsnet.com/Talk/womens_rights/1222273-Chipping-away-at-abortion-rights-govt-appoints-Life-as-sexual-health-adviser

Apparently there is a twitter thingummy going around 'I had an abortion' for people to discuss guilt free abortions.

Just thought it would be appropriate to have a thread on here for people put a positive side of abortion.

My story: got pregnant 5 years ago. My dd was 10. I was in a relationship of 6 months duration and had recently started a new job. Condom failure. My partner and I agreed that we didn't want a baby, I booked an abortion and had it without a backward glance. No emotional fall out afterwards. No guilt.

Very moving post beesimo and well I feel that in the situation you were in you done the right thing.

Vall, my kids go to a state school. I refuse to send them to a catholic school for much the same reasons. However yours will be attending mass within school time and will feel different and left out if you take them out of that part of things. Also how will you deal with prayers during assembly and visits by the priest? If it means so much to you, I think you'd be better off leaving the catholic school well alone because they ARE very religious orientated and you run the risk of making your kids feel excluded.

Plus the irony of telling me where to shove my religion whilst admitting they run bloody good schools (hope you've vetted all the teachers for possible paedo traits) that you will be sending your kids to.

beesimo that was so eloquently put. Thank you.

Oh beesimo. I'm sorry that you all had to go through that.

Aren't you actually right now in the middle of your third unplanned pregnancy?

Yabu to not understand how contraception works.

Beesimo, you did the only thing you could have done in those awful circumstances, which also happened to be the right thing for your family, any religion or god that would condemn you for that isn't worth following.

I don't think its boastful at all just factual & honest & its refreshing to see someone stand up to be counted on that - fair play to you for doing so getorfmycase & NO YANBU I'm sure it will help some others to read this

& FWIW I feel exactly the same about it as you do - no guilt, no regrets, so much so I couldn't even tell you how long ago - that doesn't make me heartless, just able to deal with something that was at the time a necessary part of my life

& yes swallowed I met those poor Irish women too:( - the lady who befriended me there was 55, already ill with a disabled husband & a grown family - yet she had to fly out & fly home the next day with no room for recovery, she was in a real state, it was awful another young Irish girl on the ward had been raped :( - its dreadful that still goes on today :(

Rhubarb, did you actually READ my post??? I said that the school which DD2 will attend is NOT MY CHOICE and that there is NO OPTION (and that it was a long story, I won't bore you and you will have to take my word for it).

Besides, DD2 is, as I said, 14 and SHE chooses to opt out of the religious elements to this school's education. We are a secular family.

perhaps if people listened to the catholic church instead of getting on their high horses and taught teenagers about self respect, not sleeping around and how to keep themselves safe we'd have less teenage pregnancy or pregnancies due to drunken one-night stands.

Rhubarb you are Nadine Dorries and I claim my £5

rhubarab, you've totally taken what Vallhala said out of context, you maniac.

Oh, and it's fewer teenage pregnancies. Not less. I might have been interested in boys at school but I paid attention in my grammar lessons.

WTF rhubarb you started banging on about listening to the catholics then say you wouldnt send your daughter to one of their schools.

WHO? AlpinePony?

"disgusting that their country forces them to do that in the name of religion."

Don't be ridiculous. Abortion is not a religious issue. It's a human rights issue.
Are only religious people concerned about human rights?
Is slavery a religious issue?

Sorry, haven't finished reading thread, but have a REALLY naive question:

If you throw up a lot after taking the MAP does that mean you're allergic to it?

I just thought that was a side effect that some people had . I now feel oddly slightly less traumatised by the 8 hours of vomiting after my one MAP experience.

Do you think I've sold myself a bit cheaply swallowed? I've always done that.

I worked out I was allergic to it because it has a lactose derivative in it. I was lactose intolerant then. It has cleared up since I have had DS, weirdly

"That would be the Catholic church which, given it's way, would have more of the human race suffering from aids, more women dying of child-birth related conditions and more children born in countries which cannot support them, more women trapped in violent marriages, more women viewed as mere appendages of their husbands and more women having breakdowns owing to carrying and bearing a child they neither want nor can cope with? "

Care to give some factual support for this undiluted claptrap?

Huh, who knew. Thanks bup.

And anyhow, OP YANBU and thanks for posting this. My mum and little sister have both had abortions. Neither traumatised. I am very glad they live in a society where they could make that choice and not feel guilty. The openness of people like you, GetOrf, is what makes that society, not laws.

Cheers :)

I think that post is a reference to the Catholic Church's stance on contraception, abortion and divorce, especially as those attitudes translate into people's real lives in parts of Africa in particular.

Ratko Mladic has been found and arrested for the Srebrenica massacre for which he feels zero shame or regret.
Is he being unreasonable?