to think that DD is promiscuous and unreasonable?

[dangerousdebbie1]

DD, been going out with boyfriend for six weeks. She only turned 17 nine days ago. DD met her boyfriend at a guiding / scouting convention and they hit it off. Unfortunately, he lives 81 miles away in Nottingham. Anyway, just had a blazing row with DH and DD as DD announces that boyfriend is coming to visit next weekend and when I asked her where she thought he would sleep, she looked at me with aghast, and said in my bed of course.

Rightly or wrongly, I said over my dead body. I told DD in no uncertain terms that this was our home and not a brothel. DH says i'm out of order and reminded me that this is 2011 and not 1951.

I have been in tears over this. Sorry, but it wouldn't matter if she was 17 or 21, she isn't married so I will not let her share a bed in my house. Am confused.

I echo the majority here. I have DDs of 18 and 13. I would not be comfortable with them expecting a new boyfriend to share a bed. DD1 may be an adult but it is my house and my rules. I would, however, accept it in a long term relationship.

I absolutely would not EVER speak to either if them in the way you have spoken to your DD. I think you have behaved appallingly to her and am disgusted that you consider yourself a good Christian.

You owe your DD an apology and a rational explanation.

Your attitude is one of the reasons I struggle with organised religion. Having done the whole Church-going stint in my early 30s I can honestly say I have never met so many self satisfied hypocrites under one roof.

OP, I'm sure your GOD will be very proud of you, well done dangerousdebbie I bet he's/she's /it's saying," keep to the party line, that'a girl." I'm sure your sort of attitude is just what the bible favours. Oh no, wait a minute, have I got the wrong religion here?
Terribly sorry