To be shaking with jealousy over this girl and DH?!

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Ok, I never get jealous so thi sfeels really alien to me but my heart is beating really fast and I feel ill!
Basically he has started a new job and has made friends with a girl who is a gorgeous part time underwear model and they have just made friends on facebook, she is really outgoing and put on her page she loves older men (she is 24, DH is 30) and going to the gym. DH also works out loads and is very good looking, women go a bit doe eyed around him. She has messaged him on facebook asking a seeminly inncocent work question followed by kisses.
I trust DH but I feel so strange and shaky!!! AIBU

if shes as bad as OPs dh says then why oh why would he accept or make a friend request to her. especially because shes not friends with other workmates.

I don't think YABU. Turn the tables....if he were at home with the kids and you were working with a new chap at work, who just happens to be a part time model and this said gorgeous guy was facebooking you and adding xxxx to messages, WOULD YOUR DH FEEL THREATENED AND IRRATIONALLY JEALOUS?

You bet your boots!!

Doesn't matter whether he's enjoying it (and he's a bloke so, most likely he is enjoying the attention) he needs to know how you feel and maybe think about how he'd feel. Pretty rotten's my guess.

Speak to him.

i really think this is less about managing his situatiion and more about managing yours.

i tell dh how lucky he is regularly, and he knows that if he fucks about im not going to be hanging on a shelf crying and all that shit. he knows it because i tell him.

i don't think simpering men or women are at al endearing -

Oh, and I was married to a male model. Amazing how women would just ignore me and be all over him like a rash.

ooooops, pressed too soon....

I trusted my male model hubby absolutely. He enjoyed the attention and it was part of "him" this need to be adored by all and sundry. Maybe this girl's a bit like that?

I trusted him too far!

We are no longer together!

Not all women would be all over your male model husband, LaDolceRyvita, different strokes for different folks but then again - not every woman is predatory.

hummmmmm my mum always said to me about this kind of thing trust your instincts and dont let anyone talk you out of it because if something does happen you only have yourself to blame because you saw it first. so if your not usually jealous but something about this has sparked you to be there has to be a reason for it.

trust your instincts and dont let anyone talk you out of it because

thats no fun for bored MN is it

hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha love it

Me too, LeQueen... kind of protesting too much.

Also... on FB, OP's husband's friends are going to comment... and they're not going to call this girl a ferrety mono-brow, they're going to be far more flattering.

A clever woman would underplay it, I think, as if it were a non-event really. Pretty girls are ten-a-penny... [blase emoticon]

I don't think you're being unreasonable per se. I think you're feelings are very normal and it's not that helpful telling you to rise above it - you know that already.

However: in my experience of people that age (our nanny's age!) it's almost abnormal NOT to be on Facebook. I don't think it's any special thing they've befriended each other. And also, I think you are overthinking the xxx. Sodding
xxx's are everywhere these days, even at work.

It sounds like YOU need something new in your life to distract you, either socially or professionally. Maybe YOU'RE the one ready for a new step in some direction? Is there any chance this is what this is about?

BTW - when you say women go 'all doe eyed' over your husband...i have to say that made me laugh. I have one friend who is CONVINCED every woman is eyeing up her husband. She's cute rather than psycho about it so it's funny but couldn't be further from the truth.

Sorry don't mean to offend, LeQueen.... Just speaking from experience. Was once asked by a group of women (not young girls you understand) if I would mind moving over whilst they had their photograph taken with him. Like a tit, I moved!! I was very young and he was rather vain and insecure.

Some women, and I say SOME, have no shame!!

DH doesn't mind at all when groups of men come round me and ask to have their picture taken. Gets right out of the way (and asks for a tenner too.)

Honestly a lot of women do go doe eyed! It's a lot to do with his character, he's quite charismatic, a nice guy and genuinly interested in people, he listens to what they have to say and people really respond to that, he is also quite good looking.

Hahahahahaha!! Should have charged 'em but at the time, felt like a tit when I realised they were serious and worse, he was OK with it!!!

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, OP.. for example, some women swoon at the sight of David Beckham, I think he looks like a goat and I don't swoon.

Perhaps what you see is how you feel about your husband, perhaps he is a people-magnet, but that doesn't mean that every woman is after him and you shouldn't give him the impression that you think they are.

FFS, I really hate these threads. They're always full of comments about how you should try and manipulate him into slagging her off, or 'stake your claim' by tagging him in FB photos where you look all loved up.

It's ridiculous. Insecurity is horribly unattractive.

You're overthinking it, OP.