to be incredibly annoyed with my 20 month old son.

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so much that Ive had to go upstairs and calm down away from him.

In the shower this morning, and ds playing/shouting for me, but as I was washing my hair, was reassuring him that il be a minute etc... anyway looked down and their is my £300 NEW mobile phone, broken, gone, etc... yes its insured through my house insurance, but Ggggrrr, I'm so annoyed.

annoyed at my 20 month old son, honestly!.

It was on charge in my bedroom, same place where I have charged my mobiles for 5 years. Grrr .

Er hello....what is up with you???

Am I not allowed an opinion...I am merely going by what OP said...maybe you need to chill ..

your the one getting on your high horse like you have never been anooyed at your kids!! give her a break do you expect her to be happy her phone broke she left the room to cool down so dont give her such a hard time.

oh, if a 7 year old did it then that's totally different and of course most people would get angry... but this phone was insured, right? So it isn't 300quid wasted...

Jeez Casey, chill!

I was referring to my own situation detailed above, not the op. I mentioned 7yo because I have one of those as well as the aforementioned phone destroying 10mo, not because I was 'comparing' the two. The elder child would have (rightly) received a bollocking for wanton destruction of somebody else's property. The younger child, as you pointed out (and thanks, because I'd have had no idea otherwise ) didn't understand what he had done, but was told what he'd done was wrong. And yes I was pissed off with him - he had done it!

so its okay to be annoyed at a 7 year old but not a 20 month old?
the op said she was annoyed but left the room to calm down she could have done a lot worse so i think she handled it rather well. hardly like she said she was screaming and shouting or hit the child so i dont know why people are acting like she did!

Yes im with you a 7 year old would know it was bad but a 20months old no.

but as i said the op didnt shout at the child or anything

Wow...you are jumping on me because I don't get annoyed at babies???? How bizzarre...and to just clear it up ..I am chilled..I am not the one getting on my high horse...I merely asked if the OP was joking..
And also your comment about "so it's okay to be annoyed at a 7 year old but not a 20 month old" surely doesn't warrent an answer...say the question out loud as I am sure the really obvious answer will come to you..

no i think its terrible how people like you sit there and act all innocent like you have never been annoyed at anything your child has done. why are you giving her a hard time did she say she shouted or hit the child NO!!!

Casey I don't think you're the only one who feels 'jumped on' for offering an opinion.

I think you're wrong, and have simply said so. You're the one who seems determined to be abusive.

Abusive.....get a grip..

Also look back at what I have said and tell me when I said that the OP had hit or shouted at her son...your making things up because you cannot justify getting annoyed at a baby..

I am not giving the OP a hard time..I am replying to your comments because you are giving me a hard time because I do not get annoyed at babies..

I am not asking you to get annoyed at babies ffs im saying your acting like you would never get annoyed at your child and your sitting there giving it are you joking like the op has no right to be annoyed and like shes been a terrible mother.

Im sure the op is more annoyed at the phone being broke than the child!!

Argumentative then. And if you read my posts, I haven't mentioned anything you're accusing me of saying you've said (??) at all

I haven't given you a 'hard time' at all. I just differ in opinion.

Sorry COCKadoodledoo ...most of that last post was replying to Teenytiny...the only bit for you was ...abusive get a grip...

Teenytiny you are clearly arguing with yourself now...as you are commenting on things that you have made up...terrible mother? I didn't say that...you did!!!

Also I never said I have never been annoyed with my children but I did say that I didn't get annoyed with them when they were babies...and I am not going to sit here and make out that I did just to make you feel better!!!!

why would it make ME feel better??

Because you cannot seem to believe that I genuinely did not get annoyed with my children when they were babies..

and neither did i so not sure how it would make me feel better :/

ttallo I don't call protecting very young children from hazards that can be fatal having a rigid set of rules. My 3 year old is by no means by my side all day long. She is at nursery every afternoon and often plays upstairs by herself which I'm happy for her to do because I have childproofed the place as much as possible and I check on her. If there were things like live electrical wires about then that would be the reason I would have her glued to my side so not quite sure what your logic is on that one???

There are potential hazards everywhere in the home, pumpkinsnatch, and childproofing only gets you so far - I think it gives a false sense of security. I don't have locks on my drawers or cupboards (even the one under the sink with all manner of toxic substances in it), never used socket protectors, and leave my mobile charging on the kitchen worktop, which DS2, who's 2.7yrs, can easily reach. We don't even have a stairgate at the top of the stairs.

But our boys know what they're allowed and not allowed to touch, know how to go up and down the stairs safely and, I hope, are learning to be respectful of boundaries and rules.

It doesn't mean we don't have accidents, though - I could have written the OP's original post a month ago when DS2 sat on my handbag and broke my £350 prescription sunglasses that were in it inside their pointlessly soft-sided case.

I still leave my handbag on the floor, though - but my new sunglasses are in a hard-sided case, and DS2 knows that Mummy's handbag is not a cushion.

Of course there are hazards everywhere in the home and there is no way you can make your home a complete safe haven BUT I personally feel obligated to make my home as safe as possible. Removing certain hazards from my home hasn't given ME a false sense of security whatsoever. My children are well supervised but when hazards can be easily removed or lessened I still think it's sensible to do so. A 2.7 year-old may know what they are/aren't allowed to touch but they are still at the age of testing boundaries/being unpredictable and they also don't fully understand the potential serious consequences of messing with electricals/toxic substances. It is for those reasons that I think parents have a responsibility to protect young kids from these hazards as much as possible. What exactly are your kids gaining from you having cleaning stuff in an accessible place when you could easily put them up/lock them away?
I've seen people on here argue that there's no point childproofing your house because other places they go won't be childproofed and they need to learn. By that logic we should all have uncovered ponds in our gardens to prepare them for the park.