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Original poster

to be incredibly annoyed with my 20 month old son.

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GoFullForce · 20/05/2011 09:10

so much that Ive had to go upstairs and calm down away from him.

In the shower this morning, and ds playing/shouting for me, but as I was washing my hair, was reassuring him that il be a minute etc... anyway looked down and their is my £300 NEW mobile phone, broken, gone, etc... yes its insured through my house insurance, but Ggggrrr, I'm so annoyed.

annoyed at my 20 month old son, honestly!. Hmm

It was on charge in my bedroom, same place where I have charged my mobiles for 5 years. Grrr .

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Penthesileia · 20/05/2011 10:10

It would be news if Mother Teresa had DC.

TrinityIsAShreddingFatRhino · 20/05/2011 10:11

plug socket covers are an unneccessary danger that YOU have added

can you hear us?

sleepingsowell · 20/05/2011 10:12

You are being completely ridiculous if you're blaming HIM for your silly parenting choices

agree - don't grizzle if he gets into stuff he shouldn't if you won't take basic steps to keep him safe such as a playpen - why do you think they were invented?

Love these threads where people post and then in the face of a wall of posts all advising the same good sense the OP can't cope and has to do a little flounce Grin

Horopu · 20/05/2011 10:12

Mother Theresa's what?

GrownUpNow · 20/05/2011 10:15

I dunno, I learned the hard way not to leave nice things in reach of children. I did get angry the first time and it was with my DD, but then I realised it was actually my responsibility to ensure she couldn't get to what I treasured and that the anger at her was misdirected, I was angry at the loss and angry at not seeing that there was an issue there in the first place. It wasn't fair to take that out on my DD, telling her off and teaching her not to touch is fine, but being very cross with her was me shifting the blame. It was my fault she could reach it, not her fault that she copied what mummy does. After all, we often praise them for learning things we show them, and we are the ones responsible for making sure they know what they can copy and what they can't.

I've been on my own since pregnancy, so I learned how to get washed and dressed, or cook and clean, or go to the toilet whilst ensuring the children cannot get injured or up to mischief. I utilise stair gates on bedroom doors and to section off different areas of the house, toys to distract and entertain, television to babysit, little bolts up high on my bedroom door and the kitchen door to keep them off limits, and anything I don't want touched up high.

EricNorthmansMistress · 20/05/2011 10:16

I love AIBUs like this :)

sleepingsowell · 20/05/2011 10:16

Horopu good question Grin

ChippingIn · 20/05/2011 10:17

GoFullForce - YANBU to be annoyed it's happened and I'm sure you are actually annoyed with yourself/the situation and not really him :)

There's nothing wrong with having made the upstairs child-friendly enough for you to let him roam free while you shower - it's just a bugger he thought your phone was so interesting this morning. Hopefully there isn't anything else he can 'seek & destroy'!

foreverondiet · 20/05/2011 10:20

Sorry but YABU he doesn't know better he's only 20 months. If it was a 5 year old then yes you should be annoyed with him. At that age be annoyed with yourself.

I agree with the others though, I wouldn't leave a 20 month old child to roam around whilst in shower. I'd either wait for his nap or have a bath and close bathroom door (with him inside) and talk to him during my bath (thats what usually do if need shower etc.

HumperdinkFangboner · 20/05/2011 10:23

@ Mother Theresa's what?

WeirdAcronymNotKnown · 20/05/2011 10:25
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GoFullForce · 20/05/2011 10:27

chipppin, completely agree with you. I am, and have said so back in the thread.

socket covers, are 50/50 when it comes to being dangerous, Ive read the research, however I'm happy that my sockets are in place, as do a lot of researchers, and is currently the reason they aren't banned, they are all tested yearly by our electrician, who does a safety check annually.

Oh and ds is away with dh, now he has finished work early. in case of any of this neglecting nonsense again.

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TrinityIsAShreddingFatRhino · 20/05/2011 10:29

oh they aren't banned so that makes them ok Hmm

why did you get socket covers at all if you research anything

you would have realised that they are unneccessary.....

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GoFullForce · 20/05/2011 10:32

"You have a TV in your room, with wires, therefore not safe. You just don't know what can happen - these things take seconds to occur."

I dont have a TV in my bedroom, we have a family TV, no individual TV's.

Im glad you wouldn't do it, however I do, as I know he is safe. I'm very comfortable with my choices, as should any parent be with the choices they make, concerning their children.

I forgot to mention also, my shower is in my bedroom, (shower only en suite) so its not as if we we're in a different room. (not that it matters to me).

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QueenofDreams · 20/05/2011 10:35

My DS dunked my old mobile in a cup of tea when he was 1! it was so fast just plop,in it went. I learnt pretty sharpish to keep it out of his reach!

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GoFullForce · 20/05/2011 10:35

who said I got them Hmm once again assumption, based on hysteria.

We all make life choices, which some happen to disagree with, the whole point the issues, is your disagreement not mine.

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WeirdAcronymNotKnown · 20/05/2011 10:36

Sorry I assumed as you have a tv cabinet there would be a tv on it...

Ninxy · 20/05/2011 10:36

Plug Socket Covers

YAB a bit U but it's understandable.

I was once incredibly angry with DD aged 2.5 when she drew all over a new carpet with my new make-up. It was the ONE sodding time I had left it within her reach. But of course she was going to investigate it when she could, she'd had her eye on it on sitting on the highest shelf in the house for months!

WeirdAcronymNotKnown · 20/05/2011 10:37

Oi trinity I got those pombears first leave them alone

QueenofDreams · 20/05/2011 10:37

oh and op my bathroom is straight off my bedroom, so I close the bedroom door and ds is free to roam around the bedroom and bathroom while I bath and I can still keep an eye on him.

aldiwhore · 20/05/2011 10:38

You live and learn... 3 mobiles later, everything is now out of reach. You can't blame a child for curiousity, in fact its something to be encouraged, but if you don't want them to get their hands on anything, you keep it out of reach.

Its a learning curve I think. OP YANBU for being pissed off that your phone is dead, but its not your child's fault, ultimately its yours... but don't be cross with yourself, you live and learn!!

I've had nail varnish on the carpet - my fault, crayons on the walls - my fault, 3 dead phones - my fault, a favourite dress cut into slivers - my fault. As they get older they learn the specifics of what to touch and what not to, usually AFTER they've touched something they shouldn't, but at 20 months the responsibility is yours!

aldiwhore · 20/05/2011 10:42

Socket covers are a false sense of security, with modern sockets there is very little risk of being harmed even if switched on and poked with a coathanger. Unless a child uses a 3 pronged coathanger, and uses them at the same time, with the right pressure, the risk of being electricuted is negligable.

Three electrician friends have said this, and believe socket covers are more dangerous than none at all. I take their advice, my knowledge of electric is limited bordering on dangerous.

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GoFullForce · 20/05/2011 10:51

weird its a round side cabinet, which I said at further up the thread.

QOD, we cant watch our DC 24/7, its impossible, especially with school morning's, buses to catch, school runs etc... I made a mistake, I was annoyed, no harm in being annoyed with your child, even when later you know it was your mistake, after calming down.

Ninxy, I dont use those ones, hence why I am happy to use the whole covers, all the search I have done is not for the whole covers, its for the 3 pin socket covers.

Hence why Im happy to use them.

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GoFullForce · 20/05/2011 10:54

"Ninxy, I dont use those ones, hence why I am happy to use the whole covers, all the search I have done is not for the whole covers, its for the 3 pin socket covers."

correct that, the 3 pin sockets are considered dangerous, not the whole socket covers.

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QualiaQuale · 20/05/2011 11:47

what the fuck are you doing on AIBU if you're so sure of yourself and your reasonableness?