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to be incredibly annoyed with my 20 month old son.

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GoFullForce · 20/05/2011 09:10

so much that Ive had to go upstairs and calm down away from him.

In the shower this morning, and ds playing/shouting for me, but as I was washing my hair, was reassuring him that il be a minute etc... anyway looked down and their is my £300 NEW mobile phone, broken, gone, etc... yes its insured through my house insurance, but Ggggrrr, I'm so annoyed.

annoyed at my 20 month old son, honestly!. Hmm

It was on charge in my bedroom, same place where I have charged my mobiles for 5 years. Grrr .

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GoFullForce · 20/05/2011 13:03

where have I ever said I am "so sure of myself" and my "reasonableness" again reading what isn't there.

I asked if I was being UR towards my ds, concerning a mobile phone!.

I was told I am, I admitted that I should be annoyed at myself, and not my ds however it was also, understandable why I was annoyed. (by some posters)

I was then remarked that I was somehow neglecting my son for taking a shower in a safe upstairs house!,Hmm and that I was using dangerous and unsafe plug sockets, I wasn't I was using WHOLE plug sockets, the ones actually used in UK hospitals etc...

Im not the one who jumped to conclusion or became hysterical with my posts, because of my different parenting methods that shock horror differs from some of your own.

That's not be being so "sure of myself" that's me just being a parent, who made mistake, as WE ALL DO!.

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Ninxy · 20/05/2011 13:10

Fair point about the socket covers. I only knew about the three-point ones from an MN thread so well worth putting the info out there for lurkers, not having a pop at you.

It's easy to get lulled into a false sense of security wrt leaving things around. DD was an very early walker and an unholy terror for messing with stuff whereas DS was a lot easier in that respect. There are some things (not dangerous) which I am amazed he has shown no interest in during the last four years. Perhaps that's why you were shocked and angry about the phone?

It's also quite extraordinary how children seem to grow overnight and can suddenly reach...

EmmaBemma · 20/05/2011 13:15

I remember when I wasn't much older than your son, flushing my mum's brand new contact lenses down the loo because she'd left them in their solution beside the sink. My dad had to take me out of the house for a long walk, she went absolutely spare.

thaigreencurry · 20/05/2011 13:17

Ds2 broke my phone when he was 10 months old. He gummed it to death. I told dh I had no idea how he got hold of it, the truth was I gave it to him to give me 5 minutes peace so I could put the washing on. Blush

QualiaQuale · 20/05/2011 13:18

it read to me like "I'm not UR. I'm not, you big meanies, stop having opinions about stuff!"

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GoFullForce · 20/05/2011 13:22

Yes I think people hear socket covers and thick 3 pin ones, Its why I said at the beginning, WHOLE sockets covers.

He is at a age now, where hes getting more inquisitive, but the shower in the morning has been part of his routine since birth, hes been walking for 9 months now, and in all that time this has been the first "broken" incident.

The phone is in some rice, on the heating cupboard, fingers crossed it works before I have to contact insurances etc...

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Ninxy · 20/05/2011 13:23

Ah, it's an easy thing to get into on AIBU when you need to vent. We should have a non-judgemental ranting section.

thaigreencurry · 20/05/2011 13:24

"The phone is in some rice". Confused

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GoFullForce · 20/05/2011 13:27

Yes, "apparently", the rice absorbs the water, and when in a hot area (heating cupboard) it apparently soaks the water up, and voila, no damage done to phone (my friend phone shop managers) suggest this, as it "apparently" works.

QQ, if you go back and read my posts alone, you will see there is no stamping feet, jumping to conclusions, being hysterical etc... that would be from other posters.

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FunnysInTheGarden · 20/05/2011 13:30

This is why playpens were invented people...............nice safe enclosed area to keep baby out of trouble while you have a shower. Simple.

WeirdAcronymNotKnown · 20/05/2011 13:31

To be fair I think it was when you got all defensive that others started getting 'hysterical'... IMO

PumpkinSnatch · 20/05/2011 13:32

You're lucky he didn't pull out the adaptor, put it in his mouth and electrocute himself! You got off lightly with a broken phone and YABU to be annoyed with an inquisitive 20 month old showing normal behaviour. YANBU to be annoyed that your phone is broken but you should be annoyed with yourself for allowing your young dc access to it.

thaigreencurry · 20/05/2011 13:32

Oh wow I had no idea, I've lost three phones due to water damage, will try that next time.

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GoFullForce · 20/05/2011 13:34

where did I get defensive over the mobile phone??, I did however get dismissive, when I was being told that I was neglecting my child, as I am sure most would!.

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Continuum · 20/05/2011 13:34

"hysterical"?!? For disagreeing? How very patriarchal.

FunnysInTheGarden · 20/05/2011 13:36

ah, I see playpens have been covered.

WeirdAcronymNotKnown · 20/05/2011 13:38

yes clearly, I allow my child to come into contact with "bleach, drugs and wotnot" awful mummy that I am for leaving a mobile phone, which then escalates to neglecting my child!, only on MN!.

Yeah that's defensive in my iphone screen book.

thaigreencurry · 20/05/2011 13:38

Playpens aren't always practical though. Ds2 screams blue murder when I put him in his and it makes things worse. I've cut my finger, dropped entire meals over the floor because I just can't concentrate when he screams. Parenting a toddler is hard work.

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GoFullForce · 20/05/2011 13:39

"You're lucky he didn't pull out the adaptor, put it in his mouth and electrocute himself! You got off lightly with a broken phone and YABU to be annoyed with an inquisitive 20 month old showing normal behaviour. YANBU to be annoyed that your phone is broken but you should be annoyed with yourself for allowing your young dc access to it."

I give up honestly, people dont read threads. He cant reach the adapter, as its behind the cabinet. he also cant pull the cable, as its too short behind the cabinet, he can however (which he did) pull the handset away from the adapter which he can just about reach!!!. (hence why I said at the very beginning, he had a hard job getting to it, but he did!!!.

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GoFullForce · 20/05/2011 13:40

No that would be me dismissing those claims, hence why I said, only on MN!.

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DorisIsAPinkDragon · 20/05/2011 13:42

GoFull Force

I think you've had a bit off an unnecessary pasting on this thread!

DD3 is 23 months I also leave her to roam whilst I have a shower (her 2 big sisters are around but I accept they are not old enough to be completely responsible for her).Hence my shower is normally a max of a couple of minutes. My dd has free run of the house, I also normally employ cbeebies to focus attention away from the wandering.

I do wonder how DC who aren't left even for a moment learn to manage themselves... do they go absolutely everywhere with you????? Do they have to go into the play prison pen when you go to the toilet? hang the washing out ?

WowOoo · 20/05/2011 13:42

I haven't read the whole thread sorry. Wanted to say I just love your name OP.

You can replace your phone on insurance and you've learnt a lesson. I'd be grrr too.

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GoFullForce · 20/05/2011 13:45

yes hysterical, as people we're being hysterical over plug sockets that I dont use, (even when I have linked the ones I use) suggesting, that I leave bleach, drugs etc... out Hmm over me leaving my son to take a shower!.

making assumptions which is not from own situation, etc...

This was a simple AIBU, for being angry towards my son, I have admitted I was, however people then became hysterical, suggesting I was neglecting my child, was using dangerous and unsafe products etc... I would say, Yes that is borderline hysteria!.

I have not once disagree with anybody about the MOBILE PHONE!, I have disagreed that I am neglecting my son however!!, or that I am not using unsafe products!. all of which has nothing to do with the original OP.

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Ninxy · 20/05/2011 13:46

Playpens are not always practical, I agree. My DD could climb out of hers well before 20 months. And they take up a shit load of space better served by having a small dining table for instance if space is restricted.

stickytoffeepud · 20/05/2011 13:48

lol,think there is only one hysterical woman on here :)