AppleHEAD... I think the sad fact is that the loss of a child is always going to hit the Mum (and Dad) much harder than it is going to impact anybody else. I don't know if it's ever something you can truly get over.
People not so affected, even within the family, are keen to move on to normalcy and whlist they might have fleeting thoughts of the lost child, they have moved on.
For myself, the issue is Facebook. I see pictures posted from people who aren't on my friends list and I personally don't think it's the right venue. I have never, nor would I ever, say anything. I think there are many people who feel the same way.
Threads like this are a way for people to express their views - some like myself who would prefer not to see these pictures on a social networking site - and others like yourself, who have sadly lost babies. It's an uneasy alliance and I can see that it's painful for bereaved Mothers.
I'm sad but not surprised to read of your Aunt's experience. It seemed very much more 'matter of face' in those days, I posted about that earlier. I'm so glad that things have changed and there is certainly more support available.
Internet sites are a blessing and a curse... they can be horribly intrusive, which I think many of them are, but they can also offer a safe venue for people to remember their loved ones, perhaps you've found one yourself.
I'm very sorry if I upset you, Apple, it was definitely not my intention. You're a braver woman than I because if I had lost a child, I would have swerved this thread, couldn't have faced it at all. You get all kinds of folk and different opinions on a forum and it's not possible really to stifle people's viewpoints without trampling all over their right to post their opinions. It's very difficult. I don't believe for a second though that there is anybody on this thread who doesn't feel deeply saddened at the loss of the children posted about, I really don't and I hope you can believe that yourself. :)