to feel a bit funny that a friend has a photo of a dead baby as her profile picture?

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A friend (distant) has put up a photo of her cousins very obviously dead (I think stillborn) baby as her profile picture, as a "tribute".

AIBU to find this a bit weird? The photo makes me feel uncomfortable. Is this my problem, and it is in fact a nice thing to do to honour the poor wee child? Her cousins has put "thank you" underneath, so she must think its a fitting tribute. Maybe its just me. I am quite prepared to admit I am BU if need be.

I suppose it's a bit like when people publish 'in memorium' notices in newspapers on the anniversary of the death of a loved one. They want everyone to see it, want everyone to know - and they presumably find that comforting and therefore derive benefit from it. Where's the harm?

It's the same with photos - it has to be a case of 'each to his/her own.' I personally wouldn't post my precious and personal photos of my babies on my profile. But others obviously feel the need and they should of course be free to do what gives them comfort.

It's a good point about children, my LC have been brought up to know they have a sister and what happened to her, they've seen her pictures too and we answer questions honestly about it. The eldest has known many people who have died and has accepted it so much better because she has that background, it certainly gives us a way in "Grandpa is looking after your sister" "[Nanny's dog] is playing with your sister".

We've seen pictures of other angel babies and it's not upsetting to them because they know it's just like their sister.

80sMum, do you have an angel baby too?

I had nightmares, I used to dream I'd dropped her off my bed onto the floor, I'd be under the bed before I realised I'd dreamed it. I still do have them, almost six years later. Every time I dress my eldest for school I feel it all again as they're in the same school year. Every milestone now is a reminder of what I lost. For the next 11 years until she does her GCSEs, then studies her A levels, goes to uni, gets a job. All milestones I'm celebrating with her whilst I should be celebrating them with my angel baby. Not that I begrudge my eldest the milestones but then that's half of the issue. I can have one or the other. Can you imagine the dreams that brings up?

How long will you dream about my baby?