Best friend using same name for her daughter - five weeks apart.

[wellamI1981]

So...my bub is just over a month old. When she was born my best mate obviously text to say congratulations and mentioned that she and her husband had picked the same name (Charlotte) for their daughter - giving the impression that going ahead with it would now be a bit silly. I have now found out that far from abandoning the name they are going ahead with calling their baby the same name.

Now I totally realise no one owns a name - particularly one so, so popular. If it were simply a friend's baby (i.e. not my best friend who I see most days) I wouldn't be as concerned. But it's my best friend...

So...AIBU to be concerned/upset?

Sorry i haven't read whole thread.

I felt like you did about my "girl" name. My DH's friend had a boy about six months before we became pg . When I was pg, we saw him and his girl friend and they told us they were pg again. (Couldn't believe how fertile they were....but that's a diff thread!!) The gf and I have never seen eye to eye. (She was back to size 6 the day after giving birth apparantly,etc etc. I digress!!!!) They told me they had the perfect girl name....mine!!! plus the same middle name. She was due three months befor us!! I was gutted. At the same time my best friend was due a month before me and I got really stressed that she'd have a girl and use "our" name. The bottom line was that the three of us in question went on to have six boys with differant names!!! I called both my sons really popular names and they're know as NAME G(for surname) to clarify them from the other NAMES in their class. My NCT group have managed to use the same unusual name plus one with the same shortened version in four seperate girls. We're all still friends (except for the DH friend GF who I still think is annoying!)

As I met more people with children, I realised that at any given time there are only a few popular names going about. You can go for the unusual name route if you want to be differant but if you go for a nice popular name (like Charlotte) you will find other people using it. I know the point is this is your best mate, but (perish the thought) your little girls might not be. Even if they are it wouldn't matter! Honest.

THe only person now who I'd worry about using "my" name is my SIL cos that's the surname thing as well! I'd find THAT weird. You are obviously entitled to find your bestfriend using a name as equally weird. Hopefully you will find it isn't for you or her.

lol,i lead no mn "brigade".posters opine as they wish.they dont need any inciting. it is quite risible to protest that any opinion challenged on aibu is a result of "mn psychosis" or some such psychobabble

and quite frankly its a bit too machiavellian

the staring you in the face answer is that indeed no one owns any name.and no amount of hand wringing and angst about hurt feelings and friendship rocked changes that