AIBU?
to wonder why some mnetters are so rude??
workinggally · 10/05/2011 13:39
New to mumsnet (and mothering!) and shocked by the contents of some of the threads. Swearing/ bullying etc. But at baby groups people usually seem friendly and aren't swearing and cursing or being overly agressive. So - are the agressive types like that in RL or is it just a front for mnet?? And if it's just a front - why?
AgentZigzag · 10/05/2011 13:43
Because it's not RL on here.
The majority are kind and funny I've found.
I swear because I'm an adult an appropriate situation, it wouldn't be at a baby group.
'Hand us that fucking doll will yer?' 
It's not a front, it's being open and saying what you want.
reikizen · 10/05/2011 13:47
I suppose also because when you post on here you are asking for honest opinions aren't you? And in RL you can't always be honest. But in the main I respond on here in the same way as I would if someone asked my opinion in RL. Although AIBU for example, is kind of a free for all and you shouldn't post there if you don't want to get the occasional disagreement!
And anyway, baby groups are hell on earth surely? 
Honeydragon · 10/05/2011 13:47
I think if you stick around, and visit the other board you'll find that beneath our nasty nest of vipers front we are in fact a warm hearted straight talking bunch of vipers
Kudos to you op, your first post was in AIBU, and then in Weaning. Talk about baptism of fire , chat is mellower, better for advice.
BluddyMoFo · 10/05/2011 13:49
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sorky · 10/05/2011 13:55
imo this the one place where you will get a brutally honest opinion.
No one huns you or hugs you.
If you genuinely need support, advice or a laugh, you will find it here.
Watch out for the full moon though, it goes fucking mental then
I agree with the baptism of fire (you are brave) hehe, you just need to go to baby names and you'll be fully inducted
AMumInScotland · 10/05/2011 14:06
People go to baby groups because they want to have a group of people who like them, or at least sort-of like them. So they will usually be cautious not to offend the others, unless they disagree with them hugely about something they think is very important.
On MN, there are areas where people congregate in that kind of way - I haven't been on them, but assume the antenatal and postnatal group threads are friendly and supportive in general.
But on the rest of the boards, people tend to be more direct. On AIBU it's pretty much expected that you will be direct and even confrontational if you disagree with other posts.
There is a fair bit of swearing (but mostly not at people) because this is a site for adults and there are no children around to hear us, so we can give vent a bit more than we do around small children, or most ages of children come to that!
AuntieMonica · 10/05/2011 14:08
rude? how very fucking dare you!
my mouth is always getting me into trouble, in RL and online. 
and, if, like me, a poster types the way we talk, it can come across rather stand-offish or brusque.
i find 90% of the time if you question someones post for that reason, it is explained off and we can all be friends again.
but no hugging ok? ok, hugs are fine, no tongues tho, that would be rude, we've not even had a friday drink together yet
Gooseberrybushes · 10/05/2011 14:10
I have been called a liar, a troll, a nutter, a complete nutter, hysterical, paranoid, a muppet, told to piss off, to fuck off etc etc.
I am none of these things and normal people do not tell other normal people to piss off and fuck off when they disagree with them.
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