Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Child-safe in minutes.

Meet the Other Phone.
Child-safe in minutes.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

DS only child in class not invited to a birthday party

263 replies

sweetiesue · 03/05/2011 17:46

DS has come home from school very upset today. Invitations were handed out some of the class last week to a child's birthday party, with the rest being handed out today. DS didn't have an invite in his bag and came home in tears. Explained it could be a numbers thing thinking that only some of class had been invited. Another mum asked if ds was going so as to double up on lifts and I said ds didn't get an invite. She was shocked as rest of class has been invited. Now I used to be friends with the child's mum and we drifted apart when boys were in different nursery sessions but to my knowledge there was no fall out. Because ds was so upset and as a result of what other mum said I texted birthday child's mum just to say something along the lines of"ds came home saying child was having a party but he didn't have an invite in his bag and wondered if ds had lost the invite and didn't want to appear rude by not replying if it has gone astray at school. Understand if it is a numbers thing and hope he has a great day" She has replied he isn't invited and it is a numbers thing. My issue is the whole class has been invited apart from ds and the venue does have a max number but it isn't so small that they would be struggling to invite ds (in my opinion). Am I being unreasonable to think that there is something odd going on?

OP posts:
PureQuintessence · 15/01/2013 17:14

Wow - how did you manage to find this old thread?

Moominsarehippos · 15/01/2013 17:14

Wonder if the child was invited to the party-child's next party?

AnnieLobeseder · 15/01/2013 17:16

ZOMBIE THREAD! The children in this thread are now two years older!

MrsLouisTheroux · 15/01/2013 17:25

Wow, you are very forward texting the Mum.
Agree that there are many reasons why your son may not be invited. Unless you are in possession of the birthday list, you will never know who was invited, why and when. Stop wasting time thinking about it. A 5 year old's party is not important, tell your son nicely that it's not anything to do with him, it's just down to numbers.

MrsLouisTheroux · 15/01/2013 17:26

Oh is it 2 years old?!!! FFS. (I wonder if the OP is still fretting?)

Fakebook · 15/01/2013 17:28

I was 7 weeks pregnant when I first read this thread and distinctly remember sobbing whilst reading it.

Pancakeflipper · 15/01/2013 17:32

I remember this! Wonder if I commented .... Off to read the thread - stuff cooking dinner.

kenoshaguy · 19/02/2017 15:41

I was invited to a birthday party when I was 8 or 9 years old. I recieved invite in the mail. I bought a gift and went to the party. I was there a half hour or so before the child's mother told me how rude and thoughtless it was to invite myself to a party. Needless to say I walked home in tears and told my parents what happened. My mother retrieved the invite and drove me back to the child's house. I rang the bell and when the mother answered I showed my invitation. The lady apologized but my mom was fit to be tied. She blew the car horn and the child's mom and my mom had words. I was instructed to get the present I brought and come straightaway back to the car. The child told me his mom was a alcoholic. I asked why I was singled out by her he said she had done it to others. Needless to say I wasn't allowed near their house and when a invite came it was destroyed. Imagine 15 kids being subjected to a alcoholic mother. I didnt even know what a alcoholic was back then.

babyapril · 19/02/2017 15:57

The kid probably goes to night clubs now!

Redglitter · 19/02/2017 15:59

I'd imagine since the party was 6 years ago the OPS son has got over any upset by now.

Where on earth do people find these threads to bump.up Hmm

midnightsky27 · 19/02/2017 17:12

I've got 3 children so got to the stage now where it doesn't really concern me if they do/don't receive party invitations - I don't have time to dwell on it! I might be a little miffed if they weren't invited to a good friend's party or if they were the only child in their class not to receive an invite though.

I do clearly remember being the only girl in the entire class (think Year 4?) not to be invited to another girl's party (Who I thought of as a good friend but sadly often played nasty mind games/tricks on me). I recall being so upset and humiliated when the invites were all handed out ☹️

Mumzypopz · 19/02/2017 19:51

Don't understand why schools are saying half the class or none. Surely it's none of their business? And parents may not be able to afford half the class. What happens if they just want to invite a couple friends, or three or four? At our school, kids hand them out themselves at the start or end of the day, or during breaks. Even inviting three or four can be upsetting, if your child is in a friendship group but you find out they are all going off somewhere but your child's not invited. Any situation can cause upset. I've done a few whole class parties, but it's expensive. In this particular case, I don't think the OP can say for sure that the whole class is invited. She started off the thread saying the whole class except her child is going, then it was out of ten boys, she knew at least seven were going.

Katy07 · 19/02/2017 20:25

I don't think the OP can say for sure that the whole class is invited.
She probably can't remember now on account of the party being years ago Grin

New posts on this thread. Refresh page