To think that some people would rather be

[goodbyemrschips]

to think that some people would rather work all the hours they can and earn shed loads of money than earn less and spend quality time at home with the family or doing hobbies and having a relaxing time?

Just becuase something happens a lot doesn't make it right. Just because others do it do it doesn't make it nice to make people already feeling like shit feel worse.

You know OP I am sure I could find something nasty to say about choices you have made in your life, it just take a bit of thought to think up something nasty about anything. I wouldn't be that cruel though.

Go on try it............I am perfect!!!

I was being serious. I have been at lowest ebb and getting kicked when you are down can be the final straw. Some people end up in situations when they feel as if they have no choices left after being backed into a corner.

I make a point, especially after being on the receiving end never to be deliberately nasty to anyone. When I cock up and do manage to say something someone is offended by then I have the decency to feel guilty.

It is just a forum, people ask questions and people answer.

I am sorry you are feeling down but so are 3/4 of the people on here.

I suppose I am an optimist so I just get on with things, i have had bad things happen to me including snapping my spine in a car crash when I was 21.

You are in charge of your own destiny.

'I am sorry you are feeling down but so are 3/4 of the people on here.'

Er my point exactly al the more reason for people not to be nasty to others.

I wish I was in charge of my own destiny. All I am saying there is no need for people to be nasty. Disagreeing doesn't have to mean being nasty. I am not blaming people on MN for me being down just explaining about being down to explain why I make an effort to moderate how I say things. I wouldn't like to make someone else feel worse if I could avoid it.

Kids grow up so quickly too....at least when they are older and working/at uni/travelling/whatever, I will have moved further in my career.....and tbh I would be bored senseless if I didn't work and they were at school all day.....

K999 ....exactly kids do grow up quick so why would you want to miss it all.

I said I was leaving this thread....rats.......seems I am back.

I think very few people think 'ooh, I won't spend any time with my kids, no siree.'

I just think many interesting, well paid, useful jobs require you to be away from your children. It would be a bit of a bugger if A&E only opened in school hours, or intensive care. I'd find it a bit of a bore if restaurants only opened 9-5, or airplanes didn't fly. How about dialling 999 onlt to disover an answer machine?

Really OP, you are being very silly.

ok I am a silly billy.

"You are in charge of your own destiny"
What a total pile of shite OP!

That's the point mrschips not all thosw who work are doind so entirely through choice. Personally I would love to spend more time with my dd (I work part time but shifts). You are right I do have a choice.

Option 1: work and see dd when I can
OPtion 2: Don't work, earn £0 end up on the streets and have her take away becasue you can't obviously have a child living on the street.

Great choice eh? I am sure there are many people faced with such a choice and they don't need a flaming for chosing option 1 just becasuse others are lucky enough to have a more palitable choice.

I don't use what I earn to buy lots of luxuries. I pay my rent, council tax, buy basic food (value ranges), buy basic toiletries ie soap and toilet roll. How selfish of me.

What reactionary rubbish, "You are in charge of your own destiny", tell that to the person who loses their partner/baby/ job.

I sometimes think that folk criticise others choices because they wish they had done things differently themselves.....otherwise why would you care? I don't spend any time thinking about what other folk are up to work/family wise. As long as I am happy with the choices DP and I make and my kids are happy, thats all that matters to me.

"You are in charge of your own destiny"
What a total pile of shite OP!

mmmmmmmmmmmmm no!

The decisions you make in your life start your destiny, then something happens to make things go wrong so you then have another decision to make and on and on it goes.

Xstich.....in that case I am a really selfish mare...I don't have to work for financial reasons but still choose to do so!! Methinks I will go to the bad fire!

mmmmmmmmmmmm yes!

Could you be any more judgemental?

goodbyemrschips Tue 03-May-11 17:23:18
What a lot of sanctimonious, spiteful crap being talked by some people on this thread
It is mumsnet you know, did you think you were somewhere else?

Well, I don't know about that. Plenty of members of MN manage to be pleasant, fun to have a bit of banter with, interesting to debate with and generally pretty great people. That is why I like it.

However, others prefer the sanctimonious, spiteful crap approach.

I agree K999 but it is fun to see what other people think.

As for losing a partner/baby/job..........................these things must make you a different person I agree.

The partner/baby is one I really do not want to get into but it happens to thousands of people and they don't all crumple some people pick themselves up and get on with life. [please don't continue this one as it will be sensitive to some[]

The job one is not the end of the world...get another one.

However, others prefer the sanctimonious, spiteful crap approach.

So be it..................I have an opinion and when I feel like it I will air it. If you don't like it hide the thread or ignore me............It is not hard.

Yes you are completely right Mrschips I deserve the crap that is my life for the crap decision I made to marry XH 13 years. I deserved to be raped, I deserved to be cheated on, I deserve constant complaints against me to SS, I deserved the courts not helping me, I deserved to lose out on the job I worked hard to get when my XH got the courts to rule I wasn't allowed to move. How fucking idiotic of me to not have realised it at the time. Do you think I expected to suffer for years and will have to suffer for at least another 10 years because of that one bad decison. Do you honestly think I don't metaphorically beat myself up every day. If you do you are so very wrong.

What I don't need is somebody spouting sanctamonious, judgemental crap to make me feel worse. If you think what I have gone thorugh isn't punishment enough. Please tell me what I should do to make sure I am punished more.

I am 30, bought first house with husband in 2007. We live in alright area, not great though and to afford our house on two good salaries (teacher and civil servant) it is 35 yrs.

We are now in negative equity. Despite my longing desire to stay at home with ds I must work. And teaching means long hours. Changing careers means too much of a wage drop.

Not everyone works long hours because they want to.

x-stitch - don't bite.

You know none of that was your fault. Some people seem to need to rubbish other people's choices in order to validate their own. You just need to remember that there is no universal rule that says just because someone says it, it is automatically true!

I didn't have to leave him when he cheated. You see he left me as his girlfriend simultaneously found out he was married, dumped him so he threw a strop and left. He raped me during this period when he refused to move out the house even though he had left the relationship. I had no idea he would turn out like that. I am an idiot who deserves all she got but I am not that much of an idiot.