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To think that some people would rather be

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goodbyemrschips · 02/05/2011 19:46

to think that some people would rather work all the hours they can and earn shed loads of money than earn less and spend quality time at home with the family or doing hobbies and having a relaxing time?

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flippinada · 02/05/2011 20:54

Assuming all this is genuine (allowing for bored teen/other wind up merchant) - do people really sit around fulminating over other peoples personal choices like this?

I'm just trying to imagine the mindset of someone who sits around getting REALLY CROSS about people who have made a different choice to them (obviously a bad one and how dare they etc) and then starts a thread to show these wrongdoers THE ERROR OF THEIR BAD AND SELFISH WAYS.

Nope, can't do it.

Because I'm too busy getting on with my own life.

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goodbyemrschips · 02/05/2011 20:54

yes I did say back a few posts that the house prices have a lot to answer for.

and my view has changed.

But I still dont understand someone working a lot and would rather be at work than with their family even though OH pays for everything.

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sungirltan · 02/05/2011 20:55

my dh as just done 2 months away from dd and i. he earnt 12k for those weeks. dd leant to walk and talk.s loads now. he missed all that and is sad about it. doesn't make him a bad parent

scottishmummy · 02/05/2011 20:55

i dont need to work,i actively chose it
for me it is stimulating,interesting,and rewarding
being solely mum isnt enough for me.i dont solely define myself as mum or see it as completing me.work and being mum fulfil me.i had nursery booked 8wk pg and knew i wouldnt be a sahm,ddint want to be.my paid work supports our family,im proud of that

when i was newly qualified pre-dc i put the hours in,and worked hard.as an investment

if need be put the hours in or if i have to travel i will but fortunately i dont have that much away travel

K999 · 02/05/2011 20:55

Having a job and a family are not mutually exclusive......

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goodbyemrschips · 02/05/2011 20:55

flippinada////////////

but you are on here replying?

go on buzz off if your not bothered.

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unfitmother · 02/05/2011 20:57

YANBU!
How dare evryone not go and work in a factory at 18 and get 100% mortgage - selfish sods going to Uni and not getting on the property ladder?

They need HOBBIES!

jcscot · 02/05/2011 20:57

"But I still dont understand someone working a lot and would rather be at work than with their family even though OH pays for everything."

So this isn't really about men who work long hours, but about women who work outside the home, isn't it?

I'm a SAHM, but I don't get all judgey about anyone who works - some people choose to do it, some people (due to economic reality) have to do it. If I don't judge my husband for enjoying his time out of the home (and I don't!) how could I judge anyone else for making the same choices?

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goodbyemrschips · 02/05/2011 20:58

unfitmother.

Don't be so stupid.

This thread is taking a bad turn

I am off.

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peppapighastakenovermylife · 02/05/2011 20:58

And at 30 hours he must earn a lot per hour to be able to support you as a family?

There is a big difference between wanting to be away from your children and wanting to have a career. If I could somehow combine both I would. Well actually I do fairly well but thats through a lot of determination.

Also - OP - you say some people would rather work than hobbies or relax. What is wrong with that? Can work not be enjoying and stimulating?

Serenitysutton · 02/05/2011 20:59
needanewfocus · 02/05/2011 20:59

When did this whole "well if I'm happy, they're happy" thing become accepted as excusing everything?

Sidge · 02/05/2011 21:00

I imagine my DH would love to work only 30 hours a week and get paid the same as he does for his 45+ hours. But he's in the military and is either away, or at home but working long days as that's the nature of his job.

Not all jobs can be done on a part time basis. Mine can hence why I work 20 hours, his can't hence why he works VERY full time. He's not exactly earning shedloads either. I wish!

peppapighastakenovermylife · 02/05/2011 21:00

We didnt all agree with you so you are off?

Are you perhaps worried you are missing out on something?

flippinada · 02/05/2011 21:00

What is with all these people who dare to do things differently to the OP?

Can they not see they have got it all WRONG???!!!!!

scottishmummy · 02/05/2011 21:00

op off in a huff,from own thread.priceless

poor widdle you chips did folk disagree with you,cruel bastards

well nae wonder you threw a hissy fit

indulged · 02/05/2011 21:01

Im still blown away by these hobbies

bigbumum · 02/05/2011 21:04

Well to me my child & husband do not rule my every waking moment.

I was an individual before i met dh, and before i had ds, and it is still important to keep that.

I work allot of hours, dh not so much, we have a good balance.

Serenitysutton · 02/05/2011 21:05

Why indulged? Instead of abandoning your children to earn money you could do so to croSs stich, or ring church bells maybe. So worthwhile.

lockets · 02/05/2011 21:09

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goodbyemrschips · 02/05/2011 21:11

ha ha gone off in a huff....................thats funny.

Try got some answers thats enough it don't need to go on for 17 days.

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lockets · 02/05/2011 21:12

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goodbyemrschips · 02/05/2011 21:12

blimey do you remember that and ME.

I never remember anyones name.

I am chuffed.

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Original poster
goodbyemrschips · 02/05/2011 21:13

lockets i will try and remember you..............

now really i am off...

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flippinada · 02/05/2011 21:30

Thank you serenity