To tell dh not to buy me underwear

[scruffybird]

Dh just phoned to check bra size as he was about to go into la senza to get me an underwear set.
I said I would rather he didn't as my birthday is coming up and I can think of many things I would rather. Also we have a holiday to pay for, so no spare cash.
He got funny and said 'right, I'll come home then'.
AIBU?

Oh fuck off collaborate tough shit if you hate it.

My current and I hope life long partner finds me attractive in the most ordinary clothing and underwear. He fancies me not some version of femininity pushed by the over sexualisation industry.

Oh dear hairy...

Just trying to explain.

If you don't want to understand..

Why should women accept feeling "trussed up" collaberate ? For you? What's in it for them?
Honestly you should repost that on the feminist board

Mate, I must admit I really dont want to understand, but thanks anyway.

Been there, tried that, moved on.

Well I'm fortunate enough not to be in a sexual relationship with you collaborate, so no frankly I couldn't give a flying fuck what gets you off.

You make the mistake of assuming that all men are like you (arousal problems?) -I can assure you they are not. Quite a lot of them are actually rather nice.

'Oh dear hairy...

Just trying to explain.'

Just trying to explain how a person can be a silly, immature 14-year-old with no imagination inside a grown adult's body?

Don't worry, we all understand that without needing to wear crotchless knickers.

Blimey Collaberate, you are either very brave, or stupid, you are going to get eaten alive! Mwhaha

I'm not saying you should. I'm not asking you to dress in anything. Don't really care.

I'm just explaining what the logic is behind men buying underwear for their wives that their wives find difficult to wear.

Just told dh that women don't wear matching underwear or sexy nighties on a regular basis. He said 'Well who's buying the stuff then?'

Anyhow, scruffy, when it comes time to buy a gift for my husband, I give a lot of thought to something he would like. I really don't like gaming - Wii, PS3, DSi and that. But he does. So I find out what games' reviews he's been reading online and I usually get him something like that.

I don't like cars, either, I think they're just something to get from A-Z, but he does, so I text his mate find out what motoring mags he likes and get him a subscription to one or something like that.

Because a gift is supposed to be something the recipient will want, like and enjoy, that's how we do things on Planet Maturia, we have much to teach your husband :).

'Well who's buying the stuff then?'

Show him the post from the woman who worked in JL and saw that stuff all come back and be exchanged for something else.

And you know, what's it to him who buys it? YOU don't like it.

I don't know who buys checked shirts, but my spouse doesn't like them, therefore, I don't buy them for him as a fucking birthday gift.

There is no logic in it. What kind of person gets off on something they know the other partner doesn't want to do?

I wear matching underwear most days and some are cute and some are more sexy. I like to dress in sexy underwear at certain times and do it for me as well as DH. DH prefers trunks, I prefer boxers he wears both. No big deal. He is a lot sexier than me though. .

And it's not thoughtful to use someone's birthday or other similar occassion to buy them something they don't like but is for your own benefit. It's a bit twattish, tbh.

Yanbu. La Senza is awful!

I like to choose my own underwear really anyway.

Each to their own. I also wear sexy underwear ... Underwear that I feel sexy in, that my dp thinks is sexy, and that I choose :)

To be fair, it wasn't a birthday present, my birthday is in a few weeks, but still meant as a gift for me.

Both DP and I have bought me ridiculous undies for fun, that strikes me as normal. Everyday I wear very sensible stuff and I never get any complaints. On a special occassion last year I wore a new matching set of pretties (that I had chosen and chosen to wear) under the special outfit that I had chosen and chosen to wear. The next day DP commented on how gorgeous he thought both layers of clothing were, I thought it was nice.

We do have lots of rows about all the crap presents he buys me though! And he never complains that his Christmas stocking is nearly always jumper, pants, socks and road atlas!

expat speaks a lot of sense. :)

Lol at the person who is taking herself of to "pendants' corner"

I have 2 young children and both dh and I are too knackered with work and other commitments to notice underwear tbh. I may notice if it wasn't clean, but beyond that I don't care. (although I am pleased that dh doesn't favour tight white y fronts or nylon thongs )

aww bless him- what a nice thing to do. i'd LOVE DH to do that

sometimes i feel like i do all the running to keep things fresh round here

If it's something you mutually enjoy, brilliant. But when it's not, it's not.

When you need underwear to 'keep things fresh', you've got problems .