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AIBU?

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To tell dh not to buy me underwear

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scruffybird · 25/04/2011 15:13

Dh just phoned to check bra size as he was about to go into la senza to get me an underwear set.
I said I would rather he didn't as my birthday is coming up and I can think of many things I would rather. Also we have a holiday to pay for, so no spare cash.
He got funny and said 'right, I'll come home then'.
AIBU?

OP posts:

HecateQueenOfTheNight · 25/04/2011 17:50

There is a huge difference between dressing up and being dressed up.

Don't you think, folks?

Gemsy83 · 25/04/2011 17:50

Oh FFS Beesimo give it up you sound like a Stepford wife.

firstsupermum · 25/04/2011 17:56

insertfunnynicknamehere i dont need it, i am still with my idea, try to get your point across without correcting other.
thank

beesimo · 25/04/2011 17:56

Gemsy83

What is your problem I love him he loves me is it really so hard to understand. Don't be so uptight life is for living and loving why not enjoy yourselves

SardineQueen · 25/04/2011 18:01

Because for the OP dressing up in "saucy" underwear that she finds itchy and uncomfortable isn't her idea of enjoying herself.

insertfunnynicknamehere · 25/04/2011 18:03

I'm all for keeping each other happy ..her DP is perfectly entitled to ask her to wear the underwear, after all its his sex life too, but she is entitled to say no, she shouldn't have to anything she doesn't have to.
And just because she won't wear it doesn't mean she is uptight..my body is ravaged from childbirth, I wouldn't subject anyone to see it encased in lace. It doesn't make me uptight.

discobeaver · 25/04/2011 18:05

I thought la senza was posh, not itchy? Not the real issue I know, but now my view of la senza is downgraded. I mainly wear primarni so know little of expensive grundies.

hairylights · 25/04/2011 18:06

[roll eyes] ding ding!! "uptight" has been dragged out!

beesimo · 25/04/2011 18:07

Well if you don't like it obviously don't do it I am not trying to make it compulsory!

insertfunnynicknamehere · 25/04/2011 18:08

Eyes down for thw nwxt lin in the MNBingo hairylights

hairylights · 25/04/2011 18:09

TheOriginalFAB · 25/04/2011 18:10

La Senza is not posh!

nijinsky · 25/04/2011 18:13

Beesimo "What is your problem I love him he loves me is it really so hard to understand. Don't be so uptight life is for living and loving why not enjoy yourselves"

Because people can enjoy themselves without living solely for their men?

alistron1 · 25/04/2011 18:15

Beesimo is some sort of character from a Catherine Cookson novel.

beesimo · 25/04/2011 18:17

nijinsky

I never said they couldn't?

StewieGriffinsMom · 25/04/2011 18:19

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firstsupermum · 25/04/2011 18:22

Yes, with you TheOriginalFAB LA SANZA is not posh, you can get all the prices and the type of underwear from there, but he make a point, all what he want is to see her in sexy underwear, so now she has just to choose them from the most comfortable place for her. not a big thing to ask for i think.
he didnt ask for a specific once, is he?

JaneS · 25/04/2011 18:23

That's a bit harsh SGM. I think I'd have a strop too if my DH had been pushing at me to wear something I didn't like and was having another push. It's not easy having an adult discussion with someone who doesn't bother to listen!

higgle · 25/04/2011 18:26

If my DH buys me nice sexy underwear I'm very grateful and wear it for our mutual benefit. If you bought me a T shirt bra and some sensible knickers I'd be really upset and concerned he did not see me as a sexual being.

dickiedavisthunderthighs · 25/04/2011 18:32

I get your point OP but you might just be in danger of getting jeff all in future. Perhaps sit him down and explain what sort of presents you'd love to get other than undies whilst praising him like a 4 year old for thinking of you in the first place?

BTW insert it's a bit bleeding obvious that supermum's first language is not English, don't be such a cow.

insertfunnynicknamehere · 25/04/2011 18:38

Actually dickie it wasn't obvious that english was not her first language.I made a comment, once, and duly took myself off to pendants corner where I belong and made no further comment on any of the rest of her posts.
But who in the blue hell are you to call me a cow? Are you normally so vile?

SardineQueen · 25/04/2011 18:39

Gawd my sex life doesn't hinge on me wearing "saucy" undies. DH is perfectly capable of seeing me as a "sexual being" in whatever I happen to be wearing at the time - it's what's in the clothes that's important. He doesn't need me to be trussed up like a chicken in scratchy nylon pants in order to get an erection!

We usually take all of our clothes off to shag anyway

firstsupermum · 25/04/2011 18:41

i will still put ny point across; does matter if English was my first language or not, at less I can speak more than 3 languages and i am proude of it

discobeaver · 25/04/2011 18:41

What brands are posh then? Looked on the la senza site, they have some nice bras for £25 to £30 I would be v disappointed to spend that on an it hy bra!
Sorry for thread detour but now I want to know!

firstsupermum · 25/04/2011 18:42

thank you dickiedavisthunderthighs

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