To be upset that a restaurant asked me to take my crying baby out ofthe restaurant

[40Weeks]

went for a meal yesterday eve at a local Zizzi's restaurant. Ds3 is 6 weeks and was a bit restless, crying on and off. The restaurant was quiet as it was 6pm and was there with dcs (mine and dsis) kids had eaten most of their meal and we had not long started ours (ordered it a bit later than the kids meals) and were taking it in turns to soothe him and dmum and dbil were there too. Apparently some customers complained about his crying so the manageress came and asked us to quieten him down or take him outside!

Aibu to think this is disgraceful?

I had breadtfed him but was facing away from other customers so don't think it was because of this. The complaining customers said that their daughter took their dgc to the ladies in such situations. Nice.

I am still reeling from this and not sure if I am bent oversensitive or if it's really weird to be offended by a baby, crying or not!

bf no problemo
baby crying 15min big problemo
4 adults unable to adequately manage disturbance big problemo

hahaha scotishmummy

awww

Bfeeding is no problem. Why would a bfeeding mother have bottles?-I didn't and I never got the hang of expressing. Anyway, it isn't about bfeeeding which is quiet and unobtrusive.

Casserole has made the only valid point- that your ability to show respect for other people doesn't stop with a new baby. Many of the people in the restaurant will have been out with new babies and will have put themselves out to soothe them, so it is a bit annoying to find a mother who thinks that her needs come first because no one has the right to a pleasant meal if they eat early evening!!

scottishmummy absolutely right!

IHateLivingHere "said I was horrified on her behalf, because it was on show - and not for a milli-second! "
That's brilliant, what a great idea.
Would you consider being horrified on my behalf too? I don't mind what you are horrified about though, any thing you fancy or perhaps I can suggest things as different situations arise; skirt tucked into knickers, tantruming child, shopping at asda for example.
That way I never have to be horrified by anything again and can get on with living. Sort of like an official mourner at a funeral. What do you think?

Look the Victorians were horrified when they saw an ankle.It took a while for them to overcome that cultural neurosis.

For some reason some people are horrified by seeing breasts when used for feeding babies, as if they are unaware this is the main function of breasts on women, whether they ever use them that way or not. Good for you friend bandying her milky nipple in those Victorians' faces...the more people do that the more people will stop being so odd about catching a flash of booby.

Noise disturbance is another thing as you cannot escape it so I am sympathetic to people getting irritated. I did a long haul flight with a baby and if i could not quieten the crying I did take him in the loo till he stopped out of respect for other people trying to get some sleep on the flight. So leaving a restaurant.....it is a courteous thing to do.