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RESCUE HELPERS UNITE

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staffylover · 14/03/2011 17:36

to being miffed at being threatened and having my account closed?

My son fostered a dog through the above, they are a collection of volunteers who help rehome, mainly dogs, but cats and small furries as well. Without informing RHU he rehomed the dog, which is a big no-no...I bollocked him and the rescue got the dog back. People connected to the rescue, NOT RHU, threatened to castrate my son and send animal rights "friends" to see him. My son is an animal lover and at no time abused, harmed or in any way neglected this lovely dog and in the few days he had the dog he bought the dog a new crate new toys and turned her around from being a manic dog to one that was good with other dogs, walked good on the lead/off the lead and knew her basic commands. I loved doing things for the animals for no return. When this rescue got the dog back they told the woman that she had bitten a child, untrue, but on its website it says it is good with children? Any advice?

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DorisIsAPinkDragon · 14/03/2011 17:44

I'm sorry your son is in this situation but it is all of his own doing.. However it is quite likely that the dog did bite as your son knew the dog for a"a few days" and "turned her around" sorry but that just not possible Hmm

AgentZigzag · 14/03/2011 17:51

I thought that was a lot to do in a few days as well doris, but don't know enough about dogs to start a bun fight about it Grin

Even if you could train them that quickly, I think it'd depend on trust and knowing the dog inside out to determine whether you'd turned them around.

Sounds like an awful situation for your son OP, but although it doesn't excuse the behaviour of the people, it is of his own doing.

They sound a bit unpredictable.

sb6699 · 14/03/2011 17:58

Sorry, is it advice on how to deal with the people who are threatening your son that you are after?

Tbh if he thinks he's in danger the only logical thing to do is call the police.

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staffylover · 14/03/2011 18:04

Agree about my son and as I put in my OP I told him off and the rescue have the dog back. You agree with the threats of violence Confused

Let me state THE DOG DID NOT BITE This was a lie by the rescue to get the dog back. Also I stated in OP the rescue have on their website THE DOG IS GOOD WITH CHILDREN. As for your last statement "That is just not possible" in this case it was. The dog was manic in the household, was not good off lead and pulled on the lead, former owners words. It just wasn`t getting much attention. We have a video of the dog with my son and his fiancée training her. So miracles do happen with a bit of hard work and faith

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stripeymama · 14/03/2011 18:07

sorry but my arse can you work a miracle on a dog in a few days

and the rest of your post is too garbled for me to process

call the police if he is being threatened

Rhinestone · 14/03/2011 18:08

I'm really not sure what you're asking as your posts sound rather confused.

Your son had absolutely no right to rehome the dog. He's merely a foster carer.

But obviously that doesn't give people the right to threaten him. He should call the police.

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staffylover · 14/03/2011 18:10

As for involving the police, it is one persons word against another. Just sounding off more than anything. Just seems unfair that he made a mistake and we suffer with being banished from this group. As for turning the dog round, I think the basics were their but the former owners were not putting in the effort.

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Rhinestone · 14/03/2011 18:24

He didn't just make a mistake, he gave the dog to someone with no right to it, who wouldn't have gone through the correct adoption process with the rescue. The adoption process is necessarily strict to avoid further disruption to the dog. Your son took it upon himself to just do as he pleased.

He would have known he wasn't allowed to do this; he has no defence and I'm not in the slightest bit surprised he has been dropped as a foster carer. Totally his own fault.

Still not sure why you're posting here.

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staffylover · 14/03/2011 18:24

"I'm really not sure what you're asking as your posts sound rather confused"

Read the first line of my OP!

I then went on to outline why I felt miffed and am I being unreasonable at feeling this way?

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staffylover · 14/03/2011 18:29

Jesus Because we have had our accounts closed as well!

"Still not sure why you're posting here"... because I think I have been penalised as well. Do you think I`m being unreasonable to think this way? simple question

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sb6699 · 14/03/2011 18:30

Tbh I think they are totally right not to use him as a foster carer if he is giving away dogs to homes that havent been vetted.

I accept your son may have had the best of intentions but it doesnt change the fact that giving the dog away was irresponsible and could have had a very bad outcome.

Not entirely sure why you would still want to be involved with them given their threats - they sound like nutters!

CrazyHorse · 14/03/2011 18:33

When you say "account closed" what do you mean?

Your son fostered a dog. Your son gave the dog away. some random person threatened him, and you have had your account closed.(What ever that means)

Why on earth would your son foster a dog, then after a few days give it away? Hmm Why on earth would he do that? Is he not of sound mind?

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staffylover · 14/03/2011 18:33

I`m not defending his actions but he was told he could homecheck so perhaps thought he had the green light to rehome. OP states that I bolloked him severely and I agree he should not foster but at the end of the day the dog is with the rescue and is unharmed.

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staffylover · 14/03/2011 18:37

crazyhorse lets keep it nice. It is a forum for everything about animals mainly trying to get them out of pounds and in to loving homes. You have to be a member to post views and offer homes, transport etc

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CrazyHorse · 14/03/2011 18:38

By account do you mean you are not able to post on the website?

YABU.

How old is your son?

AgentZigzag · 14/03/2011 18:38

Just out of interest, how old is your DS OP?

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staffylover · 14/03/2011 18:39

crazyhorse explain

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staffylover · 14/03/2011 18:39

mid 20s

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CrazyHorse · 14/03/2011 18:40

YANBU to be miffed some random person threatened violence...of course not.

But it sounds like RHU have been totally reasonable. They acted in the best interest of the dog (even if they did lie) It's not like you can't set up another account.

squeakytoy · 14/03/2011 18:40

so have you been banned from the forum because you went on there ranting...

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staffylover · 14/03/2011 18:48

Banned by association I should think. We didnt rant we put our case as it was. He was in the wrong, we arent, why should we be penalised? Am I unreasonable to think this way

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squeakytoy · 14/03/2011 18:50

I would honestly keep my head down for a few weeks, then go back once the dust has settled and it is all forgotten about.

Rockmaiden · 14/03/2011 18:53

Sorry but am I reading this correctly, your son was FOSTERING the dog?

If true then he was VVVVVU, if you are fostering something be it a dog or a child etc. it dosn't belong to you it belongs to the rescue and you are not able to just re-home it without the rescue being involved and conducting the various checks they do to ensure the dog goes to a good home.

Can you imagine fostering a child and then saying to social services, oh by the way I found little Jimmy a nice new home!

Rockmaiden · 14/03/2011 18:56

I would assume they banned you in order to stop your son getting more FOSTER dogs that do not legally belong to him and sending them off to new homes behind the rescue's back.

If so they are completely in the right.

RHU is a wonderful forum full of dedicated animal lovers who give up everything, their lives, jobs, money, time etc. to save rescue animals and I think it's very un-fair to bad mouth them on an open forum when it sounds they did nothing wrong.

Your statements about them could cause other people to decide to not adopt a rescue animal or not volunteer with RHU, no animal lover would want to see that happen as without RHU many more dogs would die in pounds then already do.

sb6699 · 14/03/2011 19:25

Waits for Val to appear Grin