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to have felt so bad at a wedding

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FlorencesMachine · 07/03/2011 09:57

Ok, I was at a wedding this weekend, and the setting and everything was lovely. However, throughout the wedding, I couldn't help thinking about the size of the bride and it affected every speech, how I felt about the ceremony.

The bride is fair to say, not just a few pounds overweight, but massively obese, possibly morbidly so, and it was all I could think about. She seemed a nice person (I don't know her that well), but I couldn't help think "why is her marrying her?", "does he really love her?"

I know we're all different shapes and sizes, and I'm not Angelina Jolie. I know this is terribly sizeist, and I felt so guilty that her size so dominated my thoughts.

OP posts:
edam · 09/03/2011 18:08

Rita - think it's rather unfair to compare obesity to a gambling addiction or choosing not to work for your living!

onlion · 09/03/2011 18:24

Op Im sure it doesnt matter a jot to the happy couple whether ir not her weight ruined the ceremony or speeches for you lol

RitaLynn · 10/03/2011 10:54

edam

I agree partially, and some of this debate on obesity is tied up in how you view it.

On one extreme end, obesity is a 'bad' thing, that is akin to other addictions, namely gambling, alcohol and even drug addiction. At the other extreme end, obesity is just a choice, no-one's business, and just as valid as any other choice.

The truth probably lies somewhere in between. I'm tempted to place it more towards the former extreme, as gluttony has long been seen as ethically bad (see the Bible, etc).

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