to want my DH to forgive me

[inthedoghouse1]

Have namechanged as going to let my H read this.

So.. we spent the last 2 weekends fitting some nice new doors on our cupboards. This morning, while looking for some shoes at the bottom of my cupboard, I lost my balance and fell, and unfortunately hit one of the mirrored doors, and cracked it (not that noticable, but cracked all the same). I immediately apologised a few times, went to work, apologised again by text and email.

Now, 12 hours later, my H is still mad at me and says I should be feeling guilty as well as sorry, as all the hours he spent installing them. Ive said sorry as many times as I can, and now im just getting angry. He says he is going to be angry for weeks still!

AIBU in thinking it was an accident, and he should let it go?

He needs to grow up. YANBU

why should you apologise?

1. it was an accident

1. it is your own door.

1. tell H to fuck off and grow up.

YANBU. If you'd thrown something at it in a fit of pique, that would be different, but tbh, even then your DH should have chilled about it by now. I can understand that he's upset but "angry for weeks"? Nah.

You've said sorry, you genuinely are sorry and it wasn't deliberate.

He needs to seperate anger from disappointment. He's put a lot of work into them so naturally he's going to be disappointed, but being angry over an accident is unreasonable.

Yes, it was an accident. Yea, the outcome of the accident is very annoying given the work put in, but it was an accident all the same. He needs to express his disappointment about the accident,but then MOVE ON!

yanbu.

He sounds like a child

Oh no, if you'd thrown something at it after all that hard work he'd have every right to be angry imo.

yabu!

he should not be forgiving you, because there is nothing to forgive

it was AN ACCIDENT! it could just as easily have been him doing something and ACCIDENTALLY falling against the door.

ffs, he needs to grow up.

is he always like this?

Oh good grief. You had an accident. You didn't pull on steel toecapped boots and kick the bloody thing!

A half decent man would be more concerned to be sure you hadn't hurt yourself. Stuff is only stuff.

He needs to get over it. You apologised. It was an accident.

Is he always like this?

You FELL! What if you got hurt?

It was an accident, tell him to stop being an arse!

YANBU, you have nothing to apologise for, accidents happen.
He should be relieved that you're ok!

DH should be asking you how you're feeling, feel a great sense of relief that you were not seriously injured, and make you a nice cup of tea to relax from all the drama today.

You can fix the doors together this weekend.

Doors are not worth arguing about.

Oh FGS it was an accident..tell him to go fuck himself......

Yanbu! It was an accident and you apologised! Of course it must be frustrating after all his work but totally unfair for him to be cross with you.

as the door fitter in our house... give him time, he put a lot of effort in he will need time to calm down and get rid of the grumps. you have apologised so don't feel you need to do that again. He shouldn't be angry for weeks though, perhps he is just sounding off?

are you OK? did you hurt yourself?

should be the only responses DH should make

it's a fucking door!

How very sad...

Why don?t you give him a real reason for his anger by DELIBERATELY damaging the other door to make it a matching pair!

HIBU

You should feel guilty for falling over?!

He is being, for example, a twat.

going to post this in dadsnet, to get some male pov... women all think the same apparently!

Yabu, you should be whipped daily for the next year.

FFS, he needs to get a life. Accidents happen.

Ok. male perspective from my husband.

"It's only a cupboard. What's wrong with him?"