to want my DH to forgive me

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Have namechanged as going to let my H read this.

So.. we spent the last 2 weekends fitting some nice new doors on our cupboards. This morning, while looking for some shoes at the bottom of my cupboard, I lost my balance and fell, and unfortunately hit one of the mirrored doors, and cracked it (not that noticable, but cracked all the same). I immediately apologised a few times, went to work, apologised again by text and email.

Now, 12 hours later, my H is still mad at me and says I should be feeling guilty as well as sorry, as all the hours he spent installing them. Ive said sorry as many times as I can, and now im just getting angry. He says he is going to be angry for weeks still!

AIBU in thinking it was an accident, and he should let it go?

don't show him this thread, he will be angry until 5.15pm 8th, august 2011. give or take a few mins.

he is nobola.

Oh, sulkers are the pits.

Do you want to know how to deal with a sulker?

You ignore them.

Please stop begging forgiveness over stuff.

Ignore him. If he wants to sulk, let him. Don't tread on eggshells or try to plead with him or jolly him out of a sulk. It's pathetic. (him. mainly )

Unless you want to be a slave to The Incredible Sulk for the rest of your life, you are going to have to change the way you react.

That means ignore. Act like you haven't even noticed he's sulking. Be cheerful at him. Or laugh and say "Oh, you're still sulking? Bless. Well, you let me know when you've finished, sweetheart." and walk off sniggering.

Or you could carry on pandering to the sulks and pussyfooting around and trying to please him. That's a choice only you can make.

I think in future I will do as Hecate says. Say sorry once, then leave him to it.... I am sensing that Oh, you're still sulking? Bless. Well, you let me know when you've finished, sweetheart." and walk off sniggering would not go down too well though

Good.

It's not supposed to go down well.

That's half the fun of it

At least you are ok, which is the important thing.
It is only a door for petes sake.

I agree with Hec (again!) that ignoring sulking is the only way to go. Every apology legitimises the sulking, but ignoring it makes the sulker feel like a twat for carrying it on.

"I wouldnt mind him showing that he actually cared how I am."

How do you know he does care?

People who don't show other people they care about them, generally don't care about them.

That's just a general rule of thumb and isn't necessarily the case here, but if people don't show each other they care about each other regularly, they can forget they do.

I'll guess and say that you probably don't pay attention to what you do most of the time? You should have been more careful where you were standing so he can't let it go this time?

Tell him you were wrong because you know you weren't being careful. And cook him something yummmy.

Hope this helps

Great advice evilpoptart.

Do like a doormat.

That makes life really fun.

For the person wiping their feet on you.

I think that the OP should do what evilpoptart suggests.........Tell him that she is sorry that he is a sulky twat, cook him dinner and then eat it all up herself and not offer him any.

FFS this is EXACTLY the behaviour I got from my abusive ex wanker. Not that he would ever have fitted anything... its bollocks. It was an ACCIDENT.

Not all men are like this I promise you .... what an arse

I presume Pop Tart is being ironic...

she forgot something though...give him a lovely blow job just to keep him sweet

hehe you have to be taking the piss evilpoptart

Either that, or you've jumped in your newly constructed (and very secretive) time machine from the golden age where women were sumbissively silent and men were strong.

I'm trying to think of when that time might have been, but can't think of one.

I think he's come over from the MRA site

I've just had a look at them HerB, wow, I feel sorry for any women who comes in contact with them (probably just their mums then ).

I feel sorry for them as well tbh

It must be awful to be so angry about stuff and so full of hate and denial. What a way to live.

Can I ask what MRA is, have seen it referred to before.

I did google it and Weymouth Model Railway Association came up.....

It sounds like he is seeking attention....is he a bit frustrated at work? maybe not being recognized for his efforts or taking the blame for someone higher up and projecting on you?
If am off the mark, just ignore this.

Either way, you are an easy target by giving in to it.
You have already apologised. Just ignore him and move on.

He sounds like a 2 year old.

Ditch.

I'm laughing at the market research association fuming silently away.

Must be awful having to listen to all those opinions without being able to judge

This thread explains a lot.

The thread it's talking about has been pulled, but there's a link to MRA on it - enjoy

Oh God!!!

I never knew such people exsisted. What sad lives they must lead to view women like that.

He's being a twat. Simple.