As I spent most of my time here..I thought I'd use it to say goodbye

[ThePosieParker]

As starkly reminded by recent threads, MN is not the sort of place that I feel very safe, with or without anonymity. I don't expect to be missed, I have often been quite and outspoken bitch on here and haven't exactly made a lot of friends. I am delighted to have met some of the feminists, and will hopefully see them again. But twice in two weeks I've had PMs reminding me of things I've posted about my husband and I'm really upset about it. For me MN has been a quick knee jerk experience, one that captures my mood at any moment. So toodle pip.....about time I did more with the dcs anyway.

I am really aware that this is an attention seeking thread, but I just wanted MN to know that I won't be the only one leaving when apparent heartbreak (not mine) is fodder for someone's 'shit stirring Sunday'.....

I thought AG was banned because of linking to a thread in relationship.

As far as I'm aware the reason the facebook links were removed from that topic was to encourage an air of confidentiality for vulnerable posters.

Obviously we are on t'internet so confidentiality is a impossible but I assume MN towers felt that she'd violated the ethos of the topic.

Quite possibly I am wrong and she's been banned for something else or hasn't been banned and this is all a bit of an ego trip. Who knows?

Agree with Harpy. While i find the comment abhorrent, it is not the worst I have read and it wasn't even made on the board.

I think a ban was entirely merited, for the following reasons:

• Tweeting a sensitive thread;
• Using the misogynistic terms described;
• Querying on Twitter whether the OP was a troll;
• Posting on other threads the day afterwards that the distressed poster's thread was "amusing", "like a bad sitcom" and "hilarious" and that the poster was "deranged";
• PMing a message that caused that person distress and offence, whether intended or not.

but since I stick by the principles of fair-play and my constant mantra that good people do bad things, I am pretty certain that no ban would have been forthcoming if ALG had done the adult thing and apologised. I have the greatest respect for anyone who puts their hands up and says "I got this one wrong. Sorry."

Do you think Xenia would consider civil partnership?
[swoon]

I don't see where she went wrong by posting other comments on twitter, although I thought they were manky, she has a right to have opposing views on anything.

Other than linking to relationship thread the rest of this seems like differing opinions which is fair enough and fair play.

I am bemused by the way this is being discussed and dissected on twitter and all the non mn'ers are so interested in finding out who said what etc when they can just come here and look!

GOODBYE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

LessNarkyPuffin- I think Xenia might go for a pre-nup for her next marriage, sorry

Interesting thread.

I'm a regular namechanger, and prefer it that way. And although I sometimes read stuff here that I feel deeply, I have no intention of getting involved to the degree that some of you are.

I love it here. But I will not allow a stranger from the internet to upset me, no sirree. Or maybe I'm just really naive

Why do some people feel more ire than others? Not sure. In some ways it's good if people have strong feelings about things. I tend to think it's just words on a page and "sticks and stones may break my bones buyt words will never hurt me" as children have chanted in play grounds in the UK for hundreds of years.

Anyway web sites can ban whom they choose and they have to do what they think is right at the time. It isn't particularly hard to get round bans nor at all hard to change IP and email address.

I do think people should be more aware of the public nature of posts on line though and that this is not a cosy discussion with best friends in their house. I don't like being outed in places even if some people know who I am in various places I post and I think there's a difference between rules and also what is right to do. However some people are over sensitive and enduring a bit more criticism might be good for them. I have not read anything that was objected to or posted though as I cannot bothered.

The proposal of civil partnership to me on the thread is making me laugh. Not gay.

Hi Posie - if you are still reading (what am I saying? Of course you are ) I have been thinking and I just wanted to say...

I'm sorry if I was a bit shirty with you when you PMed me this morning. I didn't think it was appropriate to PM you back under the circumstances, and I had nothing to add, TBH. But I realise you were angry/upset and felt the need to make a point. Which is what got us here - is it not?!

I do not want to make an enemy of you, and I do not want to take sides, I just wanted the balance redressed a bit as I thought too many people were letting their imaginations run away with them about the mysterious content of the PMs, and I didn't like the tone of the thread in parts.

I just want everyone to come back and hold hands and be happy.

Kumbayah.

Oh this thread makes me so sad :( I am brand new here and can't believe someone would be so horrible and downright creepy. I hope I don't get recognized on here and with no hint of who I am on here so far I shouldn't. But the thought that someone would go so far as to do this makes me uneasy.

I won't be Leaving anytime soon though and I really hope you come back Posie, even though I've never spoken to you.

I'm not gay either but I could learn dammit.
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adds MissMorrison87 to spreadsheet... Newbie, doesn't want to be recognized on here, sounds sweet and innocent.

Being 8 hours behind makes it hard to keep up on threads, but I'm doing pretty good here. Found out there's a Xenia fan club; I would join.

Joins hands across mumsnet

I'm going to be all over MN today as we got over a foot of snow last night and its still coming and there's only one proper snowplow and none for sidewalks... even with the classic suburban mom chariot I have for DD, I won't be venturing out. But don't worry, I'm in a good mood today.

PosieParker was nasty to many posters, with lots of name-calling and keeping bad feeling going. She frequently resurrected points made elsewhere when it suited her to. ALouiseG and PosieParker have both been opinionated and sadly it all has got out of hand. I have not followed the bulk of this,but certainly I am surprised to see the bad feeling it has caused. It is a shame when things get so out of hand.

Rehabbibu Flapjack recipe!

linking a sensitive thread onto Twitter was bad form, p'ming a poster to continue an argument in private? I'm not sure what's wrong with that. I'd take the word of the people who actually saw the email and believe them when they say this has been blown out of proportion. I lurk a lot on MN but I've never heard of Alouiseg, or PP for that matter, but would say that if Alouiseg had shown even the slightest bit of remorse, people would have probably forgiven her. I don't know if a ban is right in this case, I'd hate to be mnhq in cases like this. Banning people brings certain immortality - you're safe in the knowledge that your name will be mentioned forever and a day ( isn't UCM still mentioned? even though she was banned years ago) - because we all love a 'bad guy' Dirty Den, JR Ewing [shows age] they made the shows, and in some respects opinionated, gobby posters bring in the crowds on internet forums. If all you got on here were threads about lemon drizzle cake and mooncups, MN wouldn't be the success it is today. People like high drama. plenty of people have been banned from internet forums, sometimes more than once ( I know 2 people in RL who have been banned a few times from the same forum, they're extremely interesting people )

But, I think some posters take cyber life far too seriously and get too involved in the thoughts of strangers, I find that a little sad if I'm honest.

I'm not surprised at the way the thread has turned out... nor the different slant the PMs have now taken.

You can see from the number of people on this thread that they want drama and intrigue and are revelling in it, it's as simple as that.

It's perhaps bad form to PM somebody who wouldn't welcome it but it's even worse to make out that the PMs were threatening and stalking when clearly they weren't. From what I've seen of both posters, they are no strangers to speaking their minds and brow-beating when it suited them.

I don't think either party covered themselves in glory and it's all a bit pathetic really, perhaps both should have been sanctioned by MNHQ not this 'kangaroo court'.

It's been interesting watching the hopping about and back-peddaling from some though... and who on earth keeps lists? How infantile!

I think the topic of keeping lists is all tongue and cheek, not serious by any means. At least mine is anyhow, just so its clear. Wouldn't want to get pegged as being infantile.